View Full Version : Death in family can the inmate be released for funeral?

02-12-2009, 11:27 PM
If one of our immediate family passes away, can the inmate be release to attend the funeral service?

02-12-2009, 11:34 PM
Never seen it happen.
In the world we live in? Not even if it's your own mother. But I could be wrong.

02-13-2009, 12:29 AM
i thnk it depends on the state and the circunstance. About three years ago, one of my friends mother passed away and they brought my incarcerated friend to the funeral. He had to view her body before people really started coming and he stayed for the funeral, but he was set back some- not completely in the room with everyone but def. Close enough to see and hear what was being said. Another time about 10 years ago, my friend from school was brought to his cousins funeral- he sat up front at the funeral, and then they drove him to the cemetary, but no one was allowed to hug him or really talk to him. Also in both instances, they were dressed up in suits. Also, they were in handcuffs the entire time. I think that in some instances the family has to pay for the state to do that. ( im not for sure if thats in every case.) i know this to be true b/c i was present at each funeral for the entire time.

02-13-2009, 12:55 AM
Yes, they can. You need to contact the family outreach unit at the prison at least 24 hours before the funeral. Its kind of an uncomfortable situation for everyone though. They arent actually released. The inmate will have deputy chaperones, as well as handcuffs on the whole time. It can be distracting and take away from the individual being buried. If the individual is a mom, dad, or sibling and they are terminally ill, the inmate can go see them in the hospital on their death bed before they pass; this may be a better option. Im not sure how it works in all states, but in the CA prision system it works this way. The reason that I know this is because Im an RN a state prison here in CA. Good luck.

02-13-2009, 02:00 AM
It depends on the state, relationship and inmate custody status. it is NOT an automatic right and if the inmate is considered an escape risk or has a bad conduct record, it may not be approved.

Where I was, the inmate could go in plain clothes, but had to be escorted by an officer at all times (don't want them to accidentally wander off), handcuffed, etc. There was also significant expense to the family involved in doing that. Requests were handled through the chaplain's department. it maybe different in other states. The prison's primary concern is that the inmate doesn't escape or fail to return. Common sense there.

02-13-2009, 08:42 AM
Yes, but it does go by the states regulations on it. All states handle issues such as this differently. I know in PA it is allowed, but the thing is, from what I have heard, they rarely approve it for whatever reason. But that's PA for ya.
I do know that is it for immediate family only though. When my husbands Uncle died, he was only in County prison, but he couldn't go. But when I was with my EX, his uncle was allowed to go to his aunts funeral, they brought him in, let him view her body, no one could touch him or hug him, and he was allowed to stay for 15 minutes and then he had to leave. 2 sheriffs brought him, and he was handcuffed the whole time.
And the Family is responsible to pay all costs of transportation.

02-13-2009, 12:10 PM
It entirely depends on the state, in SC, no, not for anyone. Years ago, they could, my husband was allowed to come home for his Dad's funeral. He was not allowed to come home for his sister. And, we were told, not even for spouse/parents. No, it is not allowed in SC.

Miss Superwoman
02-13-2009, 04:15 PM
Yes they can be but it depends on the state and if it was an immediate family member.So sorry for the loss.

02-13-2009, 07:13 PM
Not in Missouri. Not even for a mother/father. No exceptions. We recently faced this and he was told absolutely not. He is not an escape risk nor has he had ANY bad conduct whatsoever and it was his mother.

So, its like conjugal visits, depends on the state. But in Mo. is a big,fat,NO!

02-13-2009, 09:33 PM
I think federal prisons do allow a person to have a furlough and be out for a week or so with a very close relative. The woman inmate who told me she was able to do this was at Pekin IL.

02-15-2009, 12:24 AM
I can see reasons both pro and con.

Just curious (I have no idea of the answer): Does the military allow service men and women on active deployment to leave to attend funerals?

02-15-2009, 11:01 PM
I can see reasons both pro and con.

Just curious (I have no idea of the answer): Does the military allow service men and women on active deployment to leave to attend funerals?

Yes they do for immediate family.

02-15-2009, 11:49 PM
Wow, didn't know that.

02-16-2009, 07:59 AM
Yep. as long as it is immediate family, like a mother, father, sister, brother. They can get a few days leave from active duty to go home to be with family and attend the funeral and such. The military does have a heart when it comes to this, unlike the DOC. But a person in the military isn't a convict either so ........
I can see the risk of the person trying to escape, because lets face it, escaping may not be something the person would ever really do, but if a person in their family dies, like their Mom or Dad, they aren't going to be in their right mind and perhaps the thought that they could probably get away, that thought might seem actually plausable to them when they aren't in their right head, you know what I mean?

02-16-2009, 08:08 AM
To further answer Mark's question, when my cousin was pregnant her husband was away (active duty military). He wasn't going to meet his son until he was about 3 months old. When she had the baby prematurely, he was sent home for family emergency, so he was home to meet his son (who is doing very well today and is almost 5) within 24 hours.

Anyway, yes, military gets emergency leave for immediate family members. But though the two have been compared several times on this board, active duty military and being away fighting for your country because it is your job that you signed up for it is not the same as someone who is serving a sentence as punishment for a crime they committed.

We may all believe and feel that our loved ones would not be the risk, they just want to attend the funeral and then go back to serve their time. Who knows, perhaps this is true for many short timers. I am pretty sure though that there are many, many people in prison who, if given the chance would absolutely take it. So I think the precautions and limitations are well founded.

02-17-2009, 01:54 PM
When I was "in transit", I had a cellmate for a few days who was serving a life sentence. He seemed like a pretty decent guy and being locked down 23 hours a day, there isn't a whole lot to do. So we were talking one day and I asked him if the thought of escape had ever crossed his mind.

He said if the chance ever came up, he's probably take it. Unless he got his case overturned on appeal, he was going to spend the rest of his life inside (he was inhis mid 40s). Felt like he had enough survival skills to survive in the wilderness for a while. I couldn't fault his logic, although I don't know if I would do the same thing.

ant's wife
02-17-2009, 02:01 PM
in pa they allowed a man to leave camphill to attend the funeral of his four kids after they parished in a house fire(yes it was very sad day in my community only one child survived and he jumped out the scond floor window) they had an officer with him and they kept him in handcuffs, in federal it's something like $2,000 for an officer to escort you to a funeral

02-17-2009, 02:06 PM
in pa they allowed a man to leave camphill to attend the funeral of his four kids after they parished in a house fire, in federal it's something like $2,000 for an officer to escort you to a funeral

That just remiinded me, when Michael was in the county prison, his friend and cell mate's son died in a house fire. The boy was only 3 years old. His other child suffered serious injuries and so did the mother of the children. They let the guy go home for a while to be with his family. He was out on an ankle bracelet if I remember correctly, for a month or 2. One of the guards came and got him and told him to get dressed, pack his things, they were sending him home. It was sooooo horrible, Michael was crying, he didn't know what to say or how to help the guy out. The guy was brought back to the prison after being allowed a nice amount of time with his child and girlfriend. I thought it was a very nice thing for them to let him go home where he belonged. The poor guy seen it on the news, just very sad.

04-13-2009, 02:59 AM
I believe it does depend on the state and the circumstances. There are special circumstances that inmates have been allowed, but it really all depends on a few things for them. If they consider the inmate to be a flight risk or anything like that, then absolutely not.

04-13-2009, 09:07 AM
If one of our immediate family passes away, can the inmate be release to attend the funeral service?

When Steven's father was sent to the CCU and also when he died the state approved his furlough. The thing was we had to pay officers from the local police department to transport him. Since he was locked in the Max he it was required that he have two officers but if he had been in general population one would suffice. The cost is based on what the officers are asking because the state itself does not charge. The length of his furlough is dependent on the state. The warden at his unit gave him an hour at the hospital and two hours at the funeral. We paid $350 for the hospital visit and $700 for the funeral. I hope everything works out!

04-13-2009, 10:23 AM
no, not gonna happen. that's only in the movies. some states have laws in the books that allow for it, but the corrections people never approve it.
sorry for your loss.

04-15-2009, 09:55 PM
Not sure bout state but hubby was in county when his mom passed and they brought him to the house let him put on suit and ride in the family car with us we had to pay $20 per hour but sheriff was involved in accident on way to church so he had to have another sheriff come and get him and hubby so we got 7 hours for 4 hours was a great day not like any other my uncle was brought to grandmother funeral from va state prison but he was shackled the whole time and couldn't mingle had to leave time funeral was over so i guess it just depends

04-16-2009, 12:19 AM
My penpal who is doing life in a federal pen ...well his 22 year old son was killed in a car accident in December and they would not allow him to go to the funeral. They didn't even let him out of his lock down cell to grieve, call anyone etc. He is in for three strikes none of them involved taking a life or assault but because he is pretty high up on the food chain in a gang they said he was too high of a security risk and he was not allowed say goodbye to his son.

04-16-2009, 02:53 AM
If one of our immediate family passes away, can the inmate be release to attend the funeral service?
Generally, IF the state allows it, the family has to provide the transportation fees, as well as pay for the officers who are guarding the inmate. Again, if it is allowed, that person will remain in restraints for the entire time outside, and no one will be allowed to get close, or touch. Most states won't even allow it for the cost and the possibility of an escape.