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honda 12-17-2012 04:24 PM

Where do I go for info on the SHU and support? (Pelican Bay)
 
My BF is doing life in the SHU and I was just wonder which thread or forum i can go to... Just got questions and wondering how many people stay in relationship where they will never be able to hug or have any physical relationship with there loved one... just looking for support.

Renee 12-17-2012 04:49 PM

Welcome to PTO! I’m glad you’ve found us! I remember being overwhelmed by the size of the site when I first came to PTO. So here are some "tips" to help you out:

You can check out the Husbands & Boyfriends in Prison for support, but you should definitely check out the CALIFORNIA Forums for info about the SHU.


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Sheryl P. 12-18-2012 04:27 AM

What shu unit is he at?
Mine is at Corcoran.
Many are at Pelican Bay.

honda 12-18-2012 03:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sheryl P. (Post 7029370)
What shu unit is he at?
Mine is at Corcoran.
Many are at Pelican Bay.

He is in the Pelican bay. Thank you.

Sheryl P. 12-19-2012 01:43 AM

There are some very nice ladies who haved their loved ones incarcerated at Pelican Bay.
I'm sure you have found that forum.
Welcome to PTO!

Patty 12-19-2012 01:47 AM

I've moved your post so that you can enter into a discussion with the folks dealing with Pelican Bay. Best of luck.

JavisLady 12-19-2012 03:29 PM

SHU Relationships
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by honda (Post 7028974)
My BF is doing life in the SHU and I was just wonder which thread or forum i can go to... Just got questions and wondering how many people stay in relationship where they will never be able to hug or have any physical relationship with there loved one... just looking for support.

Hi Honda,

My husband is also doing 25 - life in Pelican Bay. He's in the SHU right now, but I'm not ready to say he'll do his full sentance there (always hopeful).

We just got married in the SHU 12.1.12. How each person deals with this situation is different, and there's a lot of areas to be discussed/figured out.

For me, the bottom line came down to simply one question; "Do I want to live my life with this man in it, or not in it?" You already know the decision I came to, as, like I said, we just got married. However, it's obviously a very personal decision for each person.

When I met my husband, he'd already been incarcerated for 4 years, so I've never known him on the "outside". In some weird way, I think it makes our relationship easier for me, as I've never known him on Christmas morning, going camping, out for dinner or whatever, so I can't miss what I've never known. Having someone taken out of your life on the "outside", I think, must be harder than for us who are in an MWI relationship.

Some woman can deal with this life, others cannot. It's not a pass/fail thing, it's just that we are all different. Only you know what kind of person you are and what you want to do with your life.

siciliangirl310 12-20-2012 02:01 PM

There doesnt seem to be too many on here anymore for SHU


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