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Old 05-16-2019, 05:33 AM
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I have no resources, but a little support.

If she doesn't modify out, you're in no different position than you're in now, correct? So nothing changes except the expected release date? This is obviously disappointing, but not unheard of. One of my family friends was told he'd be out in 2017 - he didn't get out until 2019 (serving the full 20 years) due to paperwork glitches.

Secondly, BREATHE. Then sit down and make a list of all the things that you're scared and depressed about, and ask yourself if these are any different if she modified out early or if they're the same things you're already scared about. What would change if she stayed in another year? Is that change enough to walk away from the relationship (and no on here would judge you for saying "I can't deal with this anymore. It's too much.").

I am sorry you both find yourselves in this position. Loving someone in prison is never an easy ride.
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