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Old 04-12-2018, 09:36 PM
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It's incredibly hard to apply, but try to remember that what people say is often more a reflection of their own experience and biases than the person that they're making comments on. Why we do that is a whole 'nother discussion, but as you've said that they have had their own struggles, their words are no doubt filtered through that.

It sounds like you've tried very hard to be a loving support person for your family and your children. I don't think you have any reason to lower yourself now because of their choices. If you do decide to talk to your family about their silence/judgement, try using I statements (cheesy, I know...). Keep it about how their choices make you feel. They may try to pull it off track and talk about your daughter's choices, but at that point they're avoiding responsibility and there's not much you can do but remind them that their actions affect you, as well.

I'm sorry this is hurting you. I'm glad you found us.

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