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hiswifey11 · #1 04-14-2008, 03:46 PM

my boyfriend is coming home in 16mos. he talks about all his dreams of one day driving trucks and maybe owning his own truck company. I have uncles who went to prison and their home coming wasnt an easy one because of their inability to transform them nurture dreams in prison into a reality and they easy went back to their old life. I would hate for my boyfriend to end up on that same path. I wonder is it possible to truly acquire success after prison?

neddieboo · #2 04-16-2008, 06:34 PM

of course it is. a dream is where it starts. hope is a wonderful thing. with support and guidance and more support your boyfriend can transcend all expectations of him that others have unknowingly and knowingly placed on him. His drive and desire to succeed will carry him. You've also got to show and express faith in his ability to become a success. You may have to push him sometimes especially when doors are closed or slam in his face but success is possible. Never forget that okay? It doesn't matter what others before didn't do our weren't able to accomplish, it's about what he wants for himself. Start gathering resources for him and speak positive to him. He needs that. it's possible. :-)

FriscoLady · #3 04-18-2008, 10:52 AM

Looking back I find it odd to admit that I was more afraid coming home than I was going in. Odd statement yes, but with the passage of time I have realized it is true.

Coming home to two children at that time that I had to support and all that goes with it terrified me.

Could I get a job?

Could I be a success at that job?

I had it all as far as advantages, good education, a home to come back too, family, friends, and Life Partner that were and are very, very supportive, yet I was terrified.

Neddieboo said it all when it comes to what you, friends, family are going to have to do to support his journey towards his dreams.

If I can I would like to suggest something?

Take the next sixteen months and as Neddieboo said do the research from what schools to learn to drive, to what financing may or may not be available to him as an ex-con, to licensing requirements. There are any number of things.

And while you are at it, if there is a dream that you want share it with him, remember it is not his dreams and my dreams, it is OUR dreams and goals as a couple.

If I can make it back anyone can, but it takes commitment hard work, plenty of encouragement and just plain NOT EVER giving up!

Good Luck to you both and God Bless,

Patti

NYYPA · #4 04-23-2008, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by hiswifey11

my boyfriend is coming home in 16mos. he talks about all his dreams of one day driving trucks and maybe owning his own truck company. I have uncles who went to prison and their home coming wasnt an easy one because of their inability to transform them nurture dreams in prison into a reality and they easy went back to their old life. I would hate for my boyfriend to end up on that same path. I wonder is it possible to truly acquire success after prison?

My fiance just came home 2 weeks ago. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. However, let me warn you...it is not as easy as you might think or fantasize about. They go through such a transition and so do you. But as long as you are patient, all can be well...very well...be very very patient. I wish someone told me that. Best of luck.

katydidsbro · #5 04-30-2008, 08:26 PM

There are some wonderful success stories in this section of the forum. Have you looked at them yet?

Some people like quotes, and others hate them. lol. I'm one of the ones who likes them, and finds them inspiring. Here are two of my favorites:

I think a hero is an ordinary individual who finds strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.
- Christopher Reeve

If you have made mistakes, even serious ones, there is always another chance for you. What we call failure is not the falling down but the staying down.
- Mary Pickford

Good luck to you both.

Kay

JodyAnnShaw · #6 05-13-2008, 09:35 PM

Success after prison is Very Possible and Plausible!
Dream Big.... and Work Hard!
Life is going to happen as it's supposed to, just try to help your boyfriend stay on the right path. And as I said.... always Dream Big!!!

mrsholmes05 · #7 06-09-2008, 07:58 PM

Hi ,
I do believe its possible to be successful after prison. My husband came home from tdcj in 8/2002 after doing 9 1/2 years. Six years later his is welder/warehouse supervisor, home owner and proud father of a 4 yr old lil girl. He is doing better than some people who never been in prison. I'm not going to sugar coat it for you it's been a hard 6 years. We have our days. He went in at 19 and was very immature when he came home. He has finally matured but like I said we still have our days.

mrs.ellison · #8 09-13-2008, 04:02 PM

hello all, i think it is very much possible......actually ive experienced it for myself this past week.. A childhood friend of mines did 5 years in prison...... once he came home he relocated to another state....I got a chance to talk to him this past week after 10 years....... he is doin awesome thanks to GOD!!! He has his CDL's he is an interstate truck driver..... he attended ALLSTATE CAREER SCHOOL in B-More (hometown). he is engaged and has 4 children...... he is now making 70K a year and gets to travel the country while making money, he also takes his family on the road with him... THE MAIN INGREDIENT TO HIS SUCCESS IS PUTTING GOD FIRST !!!!!!!!!!! my husband is also incarcerated and will be home with 2-5 months.....i was getting nervous myself even tho i do my best not to let it show..... but its funny how GOD brought my buddy back into my life to put me at ease with his success story..... he said he will give my husband leads with school, and can even get him a truck driving job......SURPRISINGLY thats my husbands goal anyway..... SO STAY ENCOUARAGED

BlueYonder · #9 10-08-2008, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by JodyAnnShaw

Success after prison is Very Possible and Plausible!
Dream Big.... and Work Hard!
Life is going to happen as it's supposed to, just try to help your boyfriend stay on the right path. And as I said.... always Dream Big!!!

Yes, Jody Ann is soooo right, it is possible to find success after prison. This story I read this morning nearly put tears in my eyes, about this remarkable man who was wrongfully convicted. He spent 19 years in prison, got a settlement and invested his money shrewdly and became a multimillionaire.

I'm inspired by the stories I read here. Many of us on the outside don't do half as well as people who were incarcerated. Maybe it's the prison experience that helps them focus very clearly on goals. I guess prison hardens some people, and makes others grow up.

justinr11 · #10 09-06-2011, 06:37 AM

I drive a truck but I worry about owning one. For years I had mysterious radiator problems with cars. The money is better once he is allowed to drive interstate. England Trucking out of Salt Lake City travels all 48 states and hires ex-cons. But since my record was set aside and out of state, I didn't write it down all those years ago.

I am posting in the Employment section about trucking now.