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curiousAmy · #1 07-29-2009, 10:15 PM

when should i tell her about him?

**lisainengland** · #2 07-30-2009, 09:10 AM

I dont think there is a specific age to tell her. I think only you can judge when she will be ready to hear and how much you think she can understand. Children are intelligent and pretty resilient. I think you have to be honest and open with them so be ready to answer her questions. Best wishes

saracmc · #3 07-31-2009, 09:28 AM

We adopted our daughter when she was 12 (foster care adoption).

It's so important to be truthful, but at the right time (as Lisa mentioned). One very helpful book that we used as a partial guide on this issue was called Telling the Truth to your Adopted/Foster Child. I don't remember the author's name, but this book was EXTREMELY helpful because it provided guidance as to the child's stage of development and also provided specific ways to provide support, as truth is revealed.

Blessings to you!

esteli · #4 07-31-2009, 09:35 AM

I also have an adopted daughter and I raised her with the truth. There was no specific time to break the news to her. It was just always a part of her life. Good luck.

Joy · #5 07-31-2009, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by esteli

I also have an adopted daughter and I raised her with the truth. There was no specific time to break the news to her. It was just always a part of her life. Good luck.

I was adopted when I was three and my parents never kept it from me and talked about it all the time reminding me that I was loved and wanted.