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Oneharmony · #1 03-10-2010, 12:12 AM

rI met my boyfriend almost 2 years ago.we hit it off instantly but he had 2 leave shortly after we met so he cud finish school.he was only gone 4 about 2 months n he was back.he bought drugs in front of my house his first day home n lied 2 me about it so i broke it off between us.a few weeks went by n he won his place back in my heart again...we were together everyday 4 three months n then one nite got into a bad fight n we broke up again the next day he started seeing this new girl n acted like i didnt even exsist..a week or 2 passes of him not talking 2 me n i went 2 ask a mutual friend what was going on.he told me that jay had a girlfriend but had been arrested earlier that day.months went by without me knowing about anything that was going on with him.during that time i met another guy.this guy made me laugh and i was always happy whenever i was with him.unfortunately it was short because he found out his x was pregnant n he got back with her.we stayed friends but there r feelings there.shud i tell my bf

Oneharmony · #2 03-10-2010, 12:16 AM

My boyfriend n i just got back 2gether bout 2 months ago nMy friend n i have been a little bit affectionate towards each other...b4 n after me n my bf got back 2gether.but its been like 6 weeks since we flirted or nething.

chelseagreg1427 · #3 03-10-2010, 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Oneharmony

My boyfriend n i just got back 2gether bout 2 months ago nMy friend n i have been a little bit affectionate towards each other...b4 n after me n my bf got back 2gether.but its been like 6 weeks since we flirted or nething.

yeah i would definitely end things with the "bf". youve only been together two months now and you are already "being affectionate" with someone else.. not a good sign.

chelseagreg1427 · #4 03-10-2010, 12:17 AM

what?! soo you got back with the first guy?! i guess i missed that part. uhh he started dating someone the very next day and you arent suspicious of that at all?! he lied to you about the drugs, then miraculously had a new girlfriend one day after breaking up with you. then he went to jail while you were with someone else and he also had a girlfriend? and now you say you are with him?! i am so confused! what happened to his GF? how did you guys get back together.

either way, i think you should completely end things with this guy. on top of the other things, the fact that he can go from one girlfriend to the next and back again all in a row doesnt sound too mature or serious to me.

HisBlueEyedGal · #5 03-10-2010, 01:31 AM

Hmmm. Based on what you've said it sounds to me like you should just walk away from both guys and get your head straight. Going back and forth between two guys like that isn't healthy, it's just gonna stress you out and make you feel guilty and torn. You're the only one who knows if you need to tell your bf what you've been up to. Just think about what you know he expects and let that tell you if you should tell him about being affectionate with that other guy or not. Ya know?

Ms_Jah · #6 03-10-2010, 04:58 AM

Honestly, reading your post couldn't tell that you even had a boyfriend and which was it. So I have to agree with the other poster's advice.

OneOfMany · #7 03-10-2010, 05:04 AM

your post is confusing. I imagine your motives and feelings for these two...it is just two, right?...guys that you're bouncing between is confusing you.

Take a break from both.

Shush · #8 03-10-2010, 05:27 AM

you are young, so this all may be what young people do.... but each hurt in our life is leaving a trace in our heart!

best to do is to reflect what you want to have in your life. do you want somebody who brings you in danger bringing drugs in front of your house? do you want to spent some time in prison as well? or do you want something else for you?

best you can do is to close your door after you brought a book about addiction and co addiction (oh yes, the second is as important as the first!) and to read them. if this is not enough, read about the experieneces here on pto and hopefully you are able to see the direction you chose......

and for telling him or not..... honesty is the basic of each relationship.

and if I would have get lied and treated the way he did treat you, I would just RUN!