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BrownEyedGurl · #1 09-10-2010, 08:52 PM

So, me and my guy were joking around about getting married so we could get conjugal visits. When we found out you had to be married before imprisonment, then there wasn't need to rush for a wedding. So, I was wondering how many of you non-married ladies would get married inside so you could have conjugal visits if they were allowed. For FUN!

lds · #2 09-10-2010, 08:58 PM

As much as I want him...I would wait till he comes home.

That's my answer tonight anyway!

crazy2010 · #3 09-10-2010, 09:04 PM

I wouldn't get married even for that while he's in prison. How would you ever know why he really married you???

LoveBuggy · #4 09-10-2010, 09:12 PM

If they asked me to say the vows standing on my head I would. We were going to do it before he got locked up but life got in the way.

Sidenote: I'm really clutzy so it would be a mess me standing on my head

honey17 · #5 09-11-2010, 03:05 AM

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Originally Posted by GinaH

If they asked me to say the vows standing on my head I would. We were going to do it before he got locked up but life got in the way.

Sidenote: I'm really clutzy so it would be a mess me standing on my head

Do carpet angels like snow angels much safer for us that have no balance lol. Honey

BlueEyedEllie · #6 09-11-2010, 06:21 AM

no way.That's a ridiculous reason to make a lifelong commitment!!!!

scd123 · #7 09-10-2010, 09:48 PM

I wouldn't marry just for that! We want to get married when he gets home (although my parents refuse to help with a wedding)...

boffer4life · #8 09-10-2010, 09:52 PM

We've talked about it a few time. We're engaged, and would love to wait until he's out. But if MO had conjugal visits, and we could get it off, I have a feeling we wouldn't wait. I love the feeling of perfect love!

Hisoneandonly · #9 09-10-2010, 09:58 PM

I'm already married, but unfortunately VA has no conjugal s so it doesn't matter. However I wouldn't marry someone just for that reason.

esteli · #10 09-10-2010, 10:23 PM

mine transferred from California to Idaho. Idaho doesn't have family visits but if we were in California and I could, I would....ahhhh to spend a weekend in a trailer with him, eating together, watching tv, hanging out and yes, having sex. Of course I would, in a New York minute.

4EVER4ALWAYS · #11 09-10-2010, 10:49 PM

Im actually married and we did it while he was locked up. It was back in October of '09 and no we didn't do it for conjugal visits bc even tho he was looking at his 3rd strike, he got out and a month later his p.o. violated him and that's why he's in prison right now! Conjugals are a plus so hopefully he's working on that!! Lol :-D

BrownEyedGurl · #12 09-10-2010, 10:50 PM

Ya... Me too! Then possibly have a ceremony after.

dopeys_shortee · #13 09-10-2010, 10:52 PM

i couldn't really vote on this one cause i'm kinda in between answers so i just decided to write my opinion out. i think if my honey wanted to qet married while he was still doinq his time, i miqht really really consider it...(we actually talked about it once but we both chanqed the subject pretty quick

) but i wouldn't do it just for the conjuqal visits...althouqh the visits would be a very nice perk! if i married him while he was still finishinq up this time;; it would be because i love that man sooooooooo much && i couldn't imaqine not beinq his crazy little "bonnie" for the rest of my life.

bdwell · #14 06-16-2012, 09:19 PM

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Originally Posted by dopeys_shortee

i couldn't really vote on this one cause i'm kinda in between answers so i just decided to write my opinion out. i think if my honey wanted to qet married while he was still doinq his time, i miqht really really consider it...(we actually talked about it once but we both chanqed the subject pretty quick

) but i wouldn't do it just for the conjuqal visits...althouqh the visits would be a very nice perk! if i married him while he was still finishinq up this time;; it would be because i love that man sooooooooo much && i couldn't imaqine not beinq his crazy little "bonnie" for the rest of my life.

<--- This Bonnie says nice name lol
Mine cals me his honeybonnie has been my pet name since he was locked up the first time in '05

HiiS PaNDa BeaR · #15 09-10-2010, 11:02 PM

i didnt vote bkuz i wud marry him belove i loved him not jus for the visits..the visits r an addative compared to wat ur getting when u get married..

Ms. Vegas · #16 09-10-2010, 11:03 PM

I would marry him....but not while in jail! I'm not tryin to get pregnant and then I go thru a pregnancy and begin to raise a child w/o.....=(

dopeys_shortee · #17 09-10-2010, 11:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Ms. Vegas

I would marry him....but not while in jail! I'm not tryin to get pregnant and then I go thru a pregnancy and begin to raise a child w/o.....=(

very true! me && my bf were really upset because when he qot taken in, i was havinq symptoms && we thouqht i was preqnant. then when he qot sentenced...we were scared. luckily i wasn't cause it would be his first child && he would've missed a lot

REyNAiSEM · #18 09-11-2010, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Ms. Vegas

I would marry him....but not while in jail! I'm not tryin to get pregnant and then I go thru a pregnancy and begin to raise a child w/o.....=(

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Originally Posted by dopeys_shortee

very true! me && my bf were really upset because when he qot taken in, i was havinq symptoms && we thouqht i was preqnant. then when he qot sentenced...we were scared. luckily i wasn't cause it would be his first child && he would've missed a lot

Unfortunatly for me I had to go through the whole pregnancy and birth of my son without my man. fortunatly for me he'll be out 2 months b4 my sons first birthday and not when my sons grown enough to know better. Its deffinaly hard on me emoitionally and deffinatly physically. He knows that i love him but he knows its his own fault hes in there. even though he cant be here I write him in detail and send pictures so that he can be up to date on everything. its deffinalty not how I seen my first pregnancy going but when you want it to work you deffinatly make it work

but to answer the poll We dont have those visits here in AZ Id still deffinatly marry him anyway!!!
those of you who say you wouldnt marry him come on nowwwwwwwww unless ur old school and dont do the deed until your marry you cant say you dont miss it. maybe you wouldnt do it just for that but i think everyone on this site deffinatly would

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Originally Posted by FredsGal

We are not gettin married solely on conjugal visits. We love each other very much. Sex is not everything. Even though it does help lol. I dont think Georgia allows conjugals anyways

but we plan on saying our "I do" s on April 23!

heyyyyyyyyyyyy thats when my hubby is supposed to get out!!!

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Originally Posted by Keepin6

Well thank god here in canada you don't need to be married to get trailer visits. I did three years of them with my ex and let me tell you. Those four days together is incredible. No camera's. Cook for him. Spend time with children. It's great..

GASP!!!! AMAZING! CANADA GETS MORE AND MORE WONDERFUL THE MORE I KNOW ABOUT IT

dopeys_shortee · #19 09-11-2010, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by REyNAiSEM

Unfortunatly for me I had to go through the whole pregnancy and birth of my son without my man. fortunatly for me he'll be out 2 months b4 my sons first birthday and not when my sons grown enough to know better. Its deffinaly hard on me emoitionally and deffinatly physically. He knows that i love him but he knows its his own fault hes in there. even though he cant be here I write him in detail and send pictures so that he can be up to date on everything. its deffinalty not how I seen my first pregnancy going but when you want it to work you deffinatly make it work

but to answer the poll We dont have those visits here in AZ Id still deffinatly marry him anyway!!!
those of you who say you wouldnt marry him come on nowwwwwwwww unless ur old school and dont do the deed until your marry you cant say you dont miss it. maybe you wouldnt do it just for that but i think everyone on this site deffinatly would

heyyyyyyyyyyyy thats when my hubby is supposed to get out!!!

GASP!!!! AMAZING! CANADA GETS MORE AND MORE WONDERFUL THE MORE I KNOW ABOUT IT

awww im sorry that he missed all that but at least he's qettinq out soon. the baby won't remember;; hes still too little so thats the qood thinq.

yea i do miss it...a lot. i'm somewhat open to qettinq married while he's locked up but time-wise...it makes no difference. hes qot less than a year && a half left;; we'd have to qet approved, qet a date, then we'd have to wait to qet a family visit date. by the time all that is done, he'll prolly be out already lol. we miqht as well wait so we can do it biq.

REyNAiSEM · #20 09-12-2010, 01:21 AM

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Originally Posted by dopeys_shortee

we miqht as well wait so we can do it biq.

i deffinatly agree!!!

Kuntry_By<3 · #21 09-12-2010, 08:55 AM

CONGRATS Reyn! Glad we picked a good date lol.

Temeron0926 · #22 09-11-2010, 02:28 AM

I didn't vote because my answer isn't there. Ray and I are getting married as soon as DOC gets their crap together! (It will be ANOTHER minute) We have been working on this since Feb and they keep losing things, and of course, blaming it on ME (saying I didn't send this or that). We were hoping for a July wedding but now we are probably looking at November.

We CAN have conjugals, but after we have been married for 3 years! If we had known getting married would take this long we might have gotten married before they transferred him over 1800 miles away! Now that he is back, we are working on it. In our case, since he only has a bit over 3 years left.........it won't matter.

We are NOT getting married for the conjugals...........but it would be a benefit!

Tookie1132 · #23 04-21-2012, 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Temeron0926

I didn't vote because my answer isn't there. Ray and I are getting married as soon as DOC gets their crap together! (It will be ANOTHER minute) We have been working on this since Feb and they keep losing things, and of course, blaming it on ME (saying I didn't send this or that). We were hoping for a July wedding but now we are probably looking at November.

We CAN have conjugals, but after we have been married for 3 years! If we had known getting married would take this long we might have gotten married before they transferred him over 1800 miles away! Now that he is back, we are working on it. In our case, since he only has a bit over 3 years left.........it won't matter.

We are NOT getting married for the conjugals...........but it would be a benefit!

I LOVE LOVE LOVE your quote! Mo Chroi. Dan and I say that to each other all the time :-) I plan on getting that engraved into the bands on our wedding rings (when we get married!) He is my heart and I am his.

BrownEyedGurl · #24 09-11-2010, 07:32 AM

Ok, sorry guys. Maybe my post is a little confusing. What I'm trying to say is if you are already planning on getting married... Outside or in, would being able to have conjugal influence your decision to do it while he was still in.

thugwife · #25 09-11-2010, 08:41 AM

I wouldnt do it plus it aint that easy anymore. From what I read by members on here that WERE married prior to prison, this one girl has to wait 5 years for conjugals because of the crime her man committed (I believe that was the factor, without looking at the post). He was a violent offender, but not against a woman/child.

It sounds good, but thats not a good reason. BTW, as crazy said, who knows what the real reason is?