Notice to new members intending to register - from January 9th 2012

b'sgirl0304 · #1 03-31-2011, 09:30 AM

My boyfriend and I have lived in the same trailer park for almost 2 years now. I went in yesterday to pay the rent and they asked where he was so I told them. They then asked what he was in there for, again I told them. There were 2 people in the office and when I told them they just looked at each other and said well I'm going to look into your file and I'll let you know next month if you can still live here!! I just looked at him and said what your going to kick me out? He claimed that the reason he was going to look into my file is bc I don't own the trailer ( but neither did my bf, it's still under his moms name). So I straight up asked if this is bc of where he is and of course he said no but I still don't believe him. I was able to call my bf's mom and tell her what happened and I think everything is going to be ok but I just hate the way people automatically judge just bc someone is in jail. Just bc someone made a mistake. I don't know what's going to happen when my bf comes home, not sure we are going to be able to still live here bc now if something happens in the park they are going to assume him first, which is so messed up bc I'm a dispatcher for the sheriffs office down here so I know all the things that go on in this park and know there are some people so much worse here than what my bf did!! But just bc he's in jail having to pay for what he did they are going to just jump to him. It's not fair! Any thoughts or ways I can try to deal with this types of people better?

FlaminHotCheeto · #2 03-31-2011, 09:37 AM

Welcome to PTO !

People are going to be judgmental that we all here at PTO have experienced. I don't let them get to me. I am in control of my own thoughts and I look at it for what it is. Judgmental people are lacking on the inside. Shallow. I attribute it to their immaturity and thus it is their problem. Hang in there. Sending good thoughts your way....

PhilsWifey4Lyfe · #3 03-31-2011, 09:46 AM

i hope everythings ok! i get this from my family... cept they automatically believe hes in there because of what the news said! but anyone who has access to the computers can see he clearly WAS NOT CHARGED with what the news blasted all over tv & papers..i lost 95% of my family because it... & i couldnt even begin to tell you how much sh*t i get from others .... keep your head up girl; hope everythings good

Danielle88 · #4 03-31-2011, 09:49 AM

People suck, thats my experience. Not everyone who goes to prison is a serial killer or a child molester, but yet everyone seems to think they must be close to it. Dont let them get to you tho, you kno your man. Where I live they really dont even let you rent a trailer is you have a felon living in your home. But welcome to PTO girl, keep your head up!

MIKAER · #5 03-31-2011, 10:15 AM

He claimed that the reason he was going to look into my file is bc I don't own the trailer ( but neither did my bf, it's still under his moms name). So I straight up asked if this is bc of where he is and of course he said ----no---- but I still don't believe him.

Are you living in a trailer you do not have title to?

Was no arrangement made -with the landlord by your boyfriend- to insure the rent was paid during your boyfriend's absence?

I don't see judging, I see unhappy landlord due to lack of communication and irresponsibility
This is a landlord tenant issue, not a victim witness issue....

andsoweflow · #6 03-31-2011, 11:51 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MIKAER

I don't see judging, I see unhappy landlord due to lack of communication and irresponsibility
This is a landlord tenant issue, not a victim witness issue....

I think you definitely make a good point here, but I do think there's more to it. People are more likely to make exceptions in the event there is a problem if they are unaware that your bf is in jail. Otherwise they see him as a liar/cheat/whatever and you as someone who is obviously okay with that type of behavior because of your association with him. Hopefully it all works out and he really does just want to check up/update his files. There's no reason you shouldn't be able to live there as long as the owner of the trailer (his mom) is cool with it, and it sounds like she would be. Good luck!

And people do constantly judge because of where your partner is, and that's just going to happen everywhere (as I've experienced), so we just have to be strong and prove them all wrong

we're people too!

MIKAER · #7 03-31-2011, 12:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by andsoweflow

I think you definitely make a good point here, but I do think there's more to it. People are more likely to make exceptions in the event there is a problem if they are unaware that your bf is in jail. Otherwise they see him as a liar/cheat/whatever and you as someone who is obviously okay with that type of behavior because of your association with him. Hopefully it all works out and he really does just want to check up/update his files. There's no reason you shouldn't be able to live there as long as the owner of the trailer (his mom) is cool with it, and it sounds like she would be. Good luck!

And people do constantly judge because of where your partner is, and that's just going to happen everywhere (as I've experienced), so we just have to be strong and prove them all wrong

we're people too!

Landlords collect rent from parties they are legally bound to collect rent from-THE BOYFRIEND, (if it is a written agreement between the mom, the boyfriend, and the landlord) OR HIS MOM. (if she signed the lease) If rent isn't paid he cannot take you to court an a non doe tennant (squatter) The scenario doesn't change because the--- alleged---- picked on boyfriend went to prison, the Landlord has the same nightmare to clean up, non tenants paying rent.....

Junimond · #8 03-31-2011, 02:28 PM

Don't let it get to you.

Prejudices will be a part of your daily routine.

I got into the habit of brushing them aside. You know better, keep that in mind.

ladyelise · #9 03-31-2011, 02:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by b'sgirl0304

My boyfriend and I have lived in the same trailer park for almost 2 years now. I went in yesterday to pay the rent and they asked where he was so I told them. They then asked what he was in there for, again I told them. There were 2 people in the office and when I told them they just looked at each other and said well I'm going to look into your file and I'll let you know next month if you can still live here!! I just looked at him and said what your going to kick me out? He claimed that the reason he was going to look into my file is bc I don't own the trailer ( but neither did my bf, it's still under his moms name). So I straight up asked if this is bc of where he is and of course he said no but I still don't believe him. I was able to call my bf's mom and tell her what happened and I think everything is going to be ok but I just hate the way people automatically judge just bc someone is in jail. Just bc someone made a mistake. I don't know what's going to happen when my bf comes home, not sure we are going to be able to still live here bc now if something happens in the park they are going to assume him first, which is so messed up bc I'm a dispatcher for the sheriffs office down here so I know all the things that go on in this park and know there are some people so much worse here than what my bf did!! But just bc he's in jail having to pay for what he did they are going to just jump to him. It's not fair! Any thoughts or ways I can try to deal with this types of people better?

Yes, the trailer park can evict you if it's proven that he lied about his criminal history, if he failed to register, etc. Naturally, if there are "shady" things happening there and he paroles then this could become and issue. As far as them judging, people fear prison. Most trailer parks are pretty tight knit and there are usually kids all over, people want to know their neighborhood is safe. As far as every time something bad happens the cops showing up at your door that's not entirely true. If the cops are looking for drug dealers and he doesn't have a history of using or selling then why waste their time on him? Good luck either way.

bl6ckr0s3 · #10 03-31-2011, 02:52 PM

I'm sorry to hear about ur situation. Hopefully things will b ok in the end. There's always gonna be haters & people who just don't give a s*** about our situation. I guess while doing business w/ other people it's usually best NOT to talk about ur personal business w/ others where it could affect u & ur love 1 in the future. Talking about such things is usually ok w/ ur other love 1s, friends, may-b close co-workers, & etc. U just gotta watch out who u talk to about that sorta thing. Best of luck!!