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Princess1029 · #1 01-15-2012, 11:02 PM

Well I have this best friend who's been there for me since my husband left which I love her dearly for. We have been friends I'd say like 3 years.. Well in Oct she went to visit my husband with me. I told her I'd pay for everything except if she could pay for her food it'd really help considering I had to put my dog in doggy daycare which was $150..so the trip was about $700.. well she was supposed to pay it the 2nd week in Nov never did finally i kept asking..i finally flipped out the other night & got $20 today from her.. I heard from her sons dad who was at her house the other night that her boyfriends friend was there talking about I'd tell that bitch fu*k off(talking about me- she doesn't know I know this) then anytime I bring it up she tells me all her bills as if I care, I have them too and I had to pay out of pocket this semseter at school and get no school loan so its much harder this semester I had originally planned to get current on everytihng with loan money.(the boyfriends friend said well its not ur fault she has 5 credit cards blah blah- again she doesn't know I know that either.) Anyways she has been debating on getting back with her sons dad or her ex..I have been cheering for the little kids dad and her to work out.. but I guess she is with the ex still letting the sons dad stay at her house (the bf isnt here where she lives he is in the military so he is stationed 600 miles away)..she cheated 6 times in 6 months while he was over seas. anyways she nver told me I found out thru her bfs friend they were together & he said "well if your her best friend call and ask her about it" well being the nut job I am I took it as he was saying I wasnt her best friend like IF you were you'd call or something I dunno.... anyways I came home tonight and compleatly lost it..I saw a status that she said she doesn't lie, yet the ex knows nothing about her cheating... and I was like oh really is that being honest mayb e I'll let him know what really happend... and was flipping out that just because I live with family doesnt mean I dont have bills. I have phone mins, visits, email mins, phone bill, car ins, 4 credit cards, animals...ect..I have like $1000 in bills plus saving for visit & next semester at school. Plus owe my grandms friend $1500 for school she loaned me.. Anyways we got into a huge fight I said I was telling her no bf about her cheating, her bills are no more important she can get help I cant, I am stressed blah blah.. It just hurt my feelings her of all people knows what I go through..it was the year mark on the 6th of Jan and I have honestly been having such a hard time with it since I dont know why.. I am kind of PMSing..I want to not be friends with her if she is going to be that way, and do things like that..but shes literally my ONLY FRIEND..Its hard to just stop having a friend.. I was telling a girl at work about something and she was like ignoring me basically..lol geez.. I just need someone who listens and responds.. Am I being totally dramatic about this entire situation ..I feel like I am halfway losing my mind

Hardt · #2 01-15-2012, 11:11 PM

If you said you would pay for the trip and she only needed to pay for her food, didn't the $20 cover some of her food? Girl, you need help in learning how to handle your money. I know you don't want to hear that right now, but if you look for someone to help you figure it all out, you will be better off for it. Find an organization that will help you budget. I wish you well, and hope you can find new friends.

Princess1029 · #3 01-15-2012, 11:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Hardt

If you said you would pay for the trip and she only needed to pay for her food, didn't the $20 cover some of her food? Girl, you need help in learning how to handle your money. I know you don't want to hear that right now, but if you look for someone to help you figure it all out, you will be better off for it. Find an organization that will help you budget. I wish you well, and hope you can find new friends.

What? I don't think you got what I said.. she spent at least $30 in food but I paid at the time so she needed to pay me back for that..I think you totally read wrong..

Princess1029 · #4 01-15-2012, 11:24 PM

Maybe it was confusing when I typed it.. i had basically loaned her the money in oct so she has been supposed to pay me back for it..that is why it was so irritating.. not sure if I made that clear or not only thing I could think of where the budget comment was coming from.

MANDI.LICIOUS · #5 01-16-2012, 12:23 AM

That comment was way off it confused me...did u over react in my opinion no but I'm known to go off in left field as well lol as far as being her friend idk I couldn't be friends with someone who does things I'm not koo with or who could have ppl think I'm like which in this case is a cheater if u can survive this without her let her go

~15 MONTHS TIL HE'S HOME~

IloveyouRuben · #6 01-16-2012, 12:50 AM

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Originally Posted by MANDI.LICIOUS

That comment was way off it confused me...did u over react in my opinion no but I'm known to go off in left field as well lol as far as being her friend idk I couldn't be friends with someone who does things I'm not koo with or who could have ppl think I'm like which in this case is a cheater if u can survive this without her let her go

~15 MONTHS TIL HE'S HOME~

Not to mention that girl is a liar...birds of a feather flock together so if you aint a liar then STAY AWAY from her!!

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Princess1029 · #7 01-16-2012, 12:59 AM

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Originally Posted by IloveyouRuben

Not to mention that girl is a liar...birds of a feather flock together so if you aint a liar then STAY AWAY from her!!

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My husband worries she will influence me, which I know she wouldn't but I guess with him being away it's understandable with her track record..We don't hang out tho, we really just talk..She is sooo different then me though it's crazy we are actually be friends!

Princess1029 · #8 01-16-2012, 01:02 AM

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Originally Posted by MANDI.LICIOUS

That comment was way off it confused me...did u over react in my opinion no but I'm known to go off in left field as well lol as far as being her friend idk I couldn't be friends with someone who does things I'm not koo with or who could have ppl think I'm like which in this case is a cheater if u can survive this without her let her go

~15 MONTHS TIL HE'S HOME~

Okay, good I am glad I wasn't the only one totally confused, that is why I tried to explain twice what I was saying..I was like what

... I get mad about one thing and like a whole bunch of things get brought up even if they aren't valid in the argument at the moment.. I just bottle things up though-- I make big deals over small things never fails.. Its just me.. lol. I don't talk as much as we used to..I guess its a good point to drift apart more.. I am about to start school so I'll be pretty busy between that & school.. so maybe that'll be a good time to let go of the friendship! --Because I def don't lie to my hubby or cheat wouldn't want others to think I did just because she is my friend.

MANDI.LICIOUS · #9 01-16-2012, 01:11 AM

Maybe this will be the perfect time...the saying goes u r who ur friends are liars hang with liars n hos with hos I've had to give up quite a few "friends" especially 1s who r still going to the club every weekend if ur husband thinks she's a bad influence its probably cuz he sees what u don't...I've been in ur shoes n it gets a little lonely at times I miss my "friends" but I'm better off without the drama

~15 MONTHS TIL HE'S HOME~

NeverDull · #10 01-16-2012, 01:32 AM

Princess...you definitely don't deserve this! If you kept track of what she owes you then that is what she owes you. Obviously the boyfriend and cheating thing bothers you a lot and that IS a separate issue. I know you want to hold on to her since she is your only friend, but if she is causing you a lot of stress the drama may not be worth it. Hopefully once you go back to school you'll find someone else to take her place.

Princess1029 · #11 01-16-2012, 07:38 AM

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Originally Posted by MANDI.LICIOUS

Maybe this will be the perfect time...the saying goes u r who ur friends are liars hang with liars n hos with hos I've had to give up quite a few "friends" especially 1s who r still going to the club every weekend if ur husband thinks she's a bad influence its probably cuz he sees what u don't...I've been in ur shoes n it gets a little lonely at times I miss my "friends" but I'm better off without the drama

~15 MONTHS TIL HE'S HOME~

Yeah..I'd probably be better off less drama..less stress.. means I'd probably be happier.

Princess1029 · #12 01-16-2012, 07:41 AM

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Originally Posted by NeverDull

Princess...you definitely don't deserve this! If you kept track of what she owes you then that is what she owes you. Obviously the boyfriend and cheating thing bothers you a lot and that IS a separate issue. I know you want to hold on to her since she is your only friend, but if she is causing you a lot of stress the drama may not be worth it. Hopefully once you go back to school you'll find someone else to take her place.

It was probably more but I just said $30 she didn't want like fast food so we went to places we could sit down & had nvr been too..which is why $20 didn't cover her food...I have no clue why I care about her cheating it just bugs the heck out of me.