Bad day :(

[cuatroswife]

Well, today has been just awful and I need to vent..

The last few letters I've received from my hubby haven't been too positive. He keeps asking if I'm keeping anything from him and he thinks I don't want to wait. It's already been 7 months since he's been gone, and I'm doing okay...until he pulls stuff like that. That just absolutely breaks my heart. Then on top of that, the stupid phone lines haven't been working and I haven't been able to talk to him about it.
How can I help reassure him that I'm not going anywhere? I knew it was going to be hard when all this happened, and yet I stayed. Shouldn't that at least prove something to him? I'm lost and just need some advice..

[jo_jayB]

Just be strong and have faith. You guys will be okay. You need to tell him you feel the same way you did in Day 1 & that everything will be ok. Just keep being there for him & remember everyday is closer to his coming home.

[R. Lindsey]

My man does the same thing but all we can do is reassure them every day if that's what it takes. Just like us, those guys gotta take it one day at a time. If it were us that were locked up, we'd feel the same way. They just feel so hopeless and lonely in there and he needs your comfort and reassureance. I mean...really...what else can you do besides put some hope in the hopeless.

[Will'sCharlie]

This isn't about you--it's about him, where he is and what he is going through. No matter what you say or do you cannot PROVE to him that you'll be there through all of this. I've found that if I reassure my man of my love and committment to him and then confront him nicely about what's going on that has him in his bad mood and has him spinning in his head, it begins an attitude adjustment in him. It's the voices in their heads that are causing his doubts, not anything you are or aren't doing. Love in the best of circumstances is a leap of faith for everyone involved. You have no guarantee of how he is going to feel or act in the future anymore than he has a guarantee that you will always be there for him--you just have your love and your faith that he feels as strongly for you as you feel for him.