Notice to new members intending to register - from January 9th 2012

Mrs.ChrisM · #1 02-09-2012, 08:59 AM

Hi All,

Well I thought i'd join in on the fun and share my countdown. As you can see from my signature Im beginning my countdown at 50 more days...Oh I can not wait! Here's to no more lonely nights, going to events alone and being in a perpetual bad mood due to our wonderful prison system. I stopped the other day in the middle of my busy life with the world speeding around me and finally took a breath and realized "wow" we made it. Here are a few things I have learned along the way.
1. Dont count your chickens before they hatch, the DOC will throw some nasty curveballs at you when you least expect it.
2. Patience...patience and more patience.
3. There is good in all this bad, my loved one will get to come home
4. When those people who you thought loved you the most disappeared or had no faith in you and didn't believe you would make it, its ok, because believing in yourself and your partner is what will really get you through.
5.When you love someone, you know that waiting for them is not a choice it is just what needs to be done.
6. Your allowed to fight and argue with your loved one while they are in prison, it may be more expensive to do so and you may have to do it through a series of 15 minute phone calls and and letters, but a relationship is a relationship no matter where you are you are entitled to all the perks, you may have to wait for some of the better ones but they will come.
7. If he asks you to marry him while he is in there, it does count don't let anyone tell you different.
8. People will wonder why you are with someone in "prison", they will try to convince you that you are better than your partner, but a person's value does not go down just because they are in prison. They are worth the same as anyone else including me.
9. Did I say patience?
10. Dont drink and drive, especially in Arizona.

Now while these things may not apply to everyone else or you have a difference of opinion, its ok because these things helped me get through. I have learned so many more things mainly from him and so long as the things you do to find your way through this mess of our justice system don't hurt others or you, then proceed even if only one day at a time.

To those women who have their loved one close to the gate, smile a little brighter because its almost over. And to those women with some time left to wait, just remember you'll get your turn too. I never really write on here much but I am so grateful this site exists.

And a special thank you to the love of my life coming home in 50 days. Not everyone is equipped to deal with my kind of crazy. I guess we must be made for each other. Genesis 2 21~24.

Sweet Rae82 · #2 02-09-2012, 09:07 AM

Thanks for posting ur count down... I find these count downs so exciting and encouraging

I'm at 22 days until my love comes home.
50 days until u see ur love...

Sweet Rae82 · #3 02-11-2012, 10:01 AM

48 days....

Sweet Rae82 · #4 02-13-2012, 10:12 AM

46 days...

ENSWHITED · #5 02-14-2012, 07:51 AM

Some really great advise!! congrats!! i have 57 days left myself..its been a long 5 years..

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Originally Posted by Mrs.ChrisM

Hi All,

Well I thought i'd join in on the fun and share my countdown. As you can see from my signature Im beginning my countdown at 50 more days...Oh I can not wait! Here's to no more lonely nights, going to events alone and being in a perpetual bad mood due to our wonderful prison system. I stopped the other day in the middle of my busy life with the world speeding around me and finally took a breath and realized "wow" we made it. Here are a few things I have learned along the way.
1. Dont count your chickens before they hatch, the DOC will throw some nasty curveballs at you when you least expect it.
2. Patience...patience and more patience.
3. There is good in all this bad, my loved one will get to come home
4. When those people who you thought loved you the most disappeared or had no faith in you and didn't believe you would make it, its ok, because believing in yourself and your partner is what will really get you through.
5.When you love someone, you know that waiting for them is not a choice it is just what needs to be done.
6. Your allowed to fight and argue with your loved one while they are in prison, it may be more expensive to do so and you may have to do it through a series of 15 minute phone calls and and letters, but a relationship is a relationship no matter where you are you are entitled to all the perks, you may have to wait for some of the better ones but they will come.
7. If he asks you to marry him while he is in there, it does count don't let anyone tell you different.
8. People will wonder why you are with someone in "prison", they will try to convince you that you are better than your partner, but a person's value does not go down just because they are in prison. They are worth the same as anyone else including me.
9. Did I say patience?
10. Dont drink and drive, especially in Arizona.

Now while these things may not apply to everyone else or you have a difference of opinion, its ok because these things helped me get through. I have learned so many more things mainly from him and so long as the things you do to find your way through this mess of our justice system don't hurt others or you, then proceed even if only one day at a time.

To those women who have their loved one close to the gate, smile a little brighter because its almost over. And to those women with some time left to wait, just remember you'll get your turn too. I never really write on here much but I am so grateful this site exists.

And a special thank you to the love of my life coming home in 50 days. Not everyone is equipped to deal with my kind of crazy. I guess we must be made for each other. Genesis 2 21~24.

LadeeInWaiting · #6 02-14-2012, 10:34 AM

What a great wasy to start your countdown .. Lovit !
Glad you started a countdown - so we can all help you celebrate

Sweet Rae82 · #7 02-14-2012, 10:42 AM

45 days

Sweet Rae82 · #8 02-15-2012, 01:51 PM

44 days Mrs.ChrisM

Sweet Rae82 · #9 02-16-2012, 07:15 AM

43 days. I'm so happy for you.

LadeeInWaiting · #10 02-20-2012, 10:28 AM

Good buy 40's. Hello 30's. Happy 39!!

Mrs.ChrisM · #11 02-21-2012, 08:19 AM

Thank you all so very much! 38 days...

Paulie'sGirl · #12 02-22-2012, 10:22 AM

MrsChrisM, thanks for your wonderful insight...this one is for you!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KNZH-emehxA&ob=av2e

13MmeHomard13 · #13 02-23-2012, 09:22 AM

Can it be true?

36 days
are left for you!

LadeeInWaiting · #14 02-27-2012, 09:07 AM

32 days !!! Yeah

Paulie'sGirl · #15 02-29-2012, 08:03 AM

OK, MrsChrisM, you finally reached your 30 day mark!! Whoot whoot for you.

You started this countdown with some really wonderful advice, and if you have any more to share in the next 30 days, we'd love to hear it...

SweetRae is on her last 2 days, so now, MrsChrisM it's ALL ABOUT YOU!!!

Enswhited, you are coming up as well!! So we are all here to cheer you on to the finish line!!

It's going to be an exciting month to celebrate, as we many loved ones coming home!!

ENSWHITED · #16 02-29-2012, 08:39 AM

this was given to me years ago.. thought id pass it around!

Paulie'sGirl · #17 02-29-2012, 09:06 AM

OH, YES, I have seen this too and it is so very informative and scares the hell out of me as well. Thanks for sharing with us...we should all read this a couple times a year, as I see comments in this, that I didn't think applied to me a year ago....and now, I'm thinking....OMG seriously!?!! I think we have all seen changes in our loved ones...I know I would NEVER be the same, if I was locked up for a year, or 2 or more!!

LadeeInWaiting · #18 03-01-2012, 01:19 PM

Goodbye 30's hellow 20's !!! I wish you a wonderful, exciting and fast moving month of March!

Mrs.ChrisM · #19 03-02-2012, 08:28 AM

Thank you! No more years, no more months. My loved one comes home in days and it feels very weird to say it out loud. It's all so unreal. The whole time all I could think was this was never going to end, this is taking so long. Now Im looking back thinking wow that went fast 2 1/2 years gone already? And as I look forward, Im thinking OMG, I still have so much to do! AHHH! There's not enough time! HeHe...but then I remember he's coming home and "I" dont have to do anything anymore. "We" will have all the time in the world to get things done...together. Yayy!!

LadeeInWaiting · #20 03-07-2012, 12:30 PM

23 (22 1/2) yeah !

Paulie'sGirl · #21 03-16-2012, 05:53 AM

14 days!! and ps...LadeeInWaiting, you're next!! you have a 100 day starting soon as well!

Darnold · #22 03-17-2012, 10:55 PM

Wow this is amazing! This gives me hope that the end does come. I can't wait until that day for us even though it's a ways but we are down to 1682 days so one day

Paulie'sGirl · #23 03-19-2012, 08:19 AM

11 days....

Paulie'sGirl · #24 03-21-2012, 11:38 AM

9 days....

Mrs.ChrisM · #25 03-21-2012, 02:01 PM

LOL, Thanks 9 days! Whoohooo!!!