Expecting #3 but freaking out.

[lmlindsey]

Hi everyone. I am kinda rooting around for some ideas on how to handle this huge step I will have to handle alone. I am hoping someone knows and can share how they keep it together.

So about a month before my husband was set to go to trial I started noticing I was feeling kind of well...pregnant ( did not have any symptoms at all prior) Sure enough I was. So at the beginning of Dec I was told I would be due in March. We were not planning on having any additional children until this garbage was over and we knew everything was stable again. Obviously things took a very different direction then everyone expected. I freaked out so bad that I considered adoption several times. Husband totally against it and I know deep down I am just trying to find an out. We are totally aware we did this to ourselves.

Anyways I have a 4 year old and a 16 month old. I am not too scared financially because I know I have to live a very simple bare minimum life. We were already used to living off of one low income for 4 people. But...one of us was always at home to handle baby duties. Unfortunately most of my family is either elderly,disabled or far away. So I really do not have a strong support system.

How do you do it? I'm so scared to go in the store alone with my 2 children let alone add a third. I am so nervous. I need some positive feedback. I know its possible but it still feels so impossible!

[TraeNBoo]

Oh bless your heart honey. I have 3 kids aged 10, 5 and turning 3 this sunday. My oldest is a LOT of help. 4 is young but maybe you can have him/her help delegate the 2 youngest. Good luck, it's definitely not easy but its possible.

[shortyncute]

All you can do is take it one day at a time. Remember to breathe. There are many women out there that do it on there own with 3 kids. You can do it too. How long did your hubby get? If you dont mind me asking. You will be ok, just make sure you take it day by day. hugs.

[lmlindsey]

Thank you so much ladies. This calmed my nerves quite a bit.

One day at a time I gotta keep that in my head! Because its the only way. Luckily both seem to live being little helpers.

Don't know the sentence yet so unfortunately that is still up in the air. I guess it varies tremendously.

[MattandTiff]

I'm right there with you. I have three kids and am expecting number four in four weeks. It is not easy and I'm sure it will only get harder. I'm just trying to make the best of the situation and not dwell on the things that are out of my control. Now that I am our primary source of income I decided to go back to school. So, I juggle three kids, a pregnancy, school, and work.....not to mention taking time to visit my hubs and write letters. This situation will only make you stronger. If you can get through this, you can get through anything!