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Scotties_Girl21 · #1 05-04-2012, 10:14 PM

This is not my regular forum so I'm new here. A little background my sisters 24 and a recovering pill addict. She was on felony probation for attempted trafficking opium and heroin with a suspended sentence of 18 months. She has a 8 yr old daughter and.just days ago found out she's pregnant again. She was violated on her probation and missed her court date and now she's running to avoid the sentence. I have her daughter and looks like ill be her caregiver for awhile now and most likley be getting the baby when she gets caught and gives birth in prison. A little background on me...I'm 21 have a 3 year old daughter and I'm 7 months pregnant with my 2nd child and my bf is incarcerated but will be home within the next few months, I go to school full time right now and needless to say this is all piling up on me and its ALOT to deal with. Ill do whatever it takes to raise her daughter and make this as easy as possible on her just having a tough time with all this happening at once.

Klewis · #2 05-04-2012, 10:20 PM

Wow that is awfully a lot for someone so young and going through life herself. Have you spoke to your man about your plans with your sister's children. That is going to be a lot for him to stick around and handle. Two babies young in age, you, your 3 year old, his problems and a 8 year old. I hope he is a good man because love you are definitely going to need some help. My sister is on drugs and she left behind a 14 year old that is just on the loose and she is pregnant again. It takes a special woman to care for a baby that is born with problems. I just want to say bless you and I am glad to know there are people like you on this earth.

Scotties_Girl21 · #3 05-05-2012, 07:03 AM

Yes thank God for my bf he is so supportive. He said he wants to stand by me and help with these kids. If it weren't for him idk wat I would do. He helped me before he went in with my niece, her mother was doing the same things then. And he and my daughter love each other so much. I'm just getting through this one day at a time and although its a lot I'm used to having to step in with my sisters daughter because she's not been the greatest mom.

mandarose · #4 05-05-2012, 07:16 AM

Wow seems like a lot on your plate.. normally you should be able to look up to your older siblings but I guess not possible in this situation..
Sorry you even have to go thru & deal with any of this! You must truly be a strong person.. bless you because i know it can't be easy..

<3 missing sha<3

Momma Ann · #5 05-05-2012, 07:26 AM

you should file for legal guardianship for the child. Go to Family court and they will help you. This will allow you to put her in school etc. and if she gets any child support from the father, you can collect that--or file for it if you need to--

Scotties_Girl21 · #6 05-05-2012, 08:06 AM

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Originally Posted by mandarose

Wow seems like a lot on your plate.. normally you should be able to look up to your older siblings but I guess not possible in this situation..
Sorry you even have to go thru & deal with any of this! You must truly be a strong person.. bless you because i know it can't be easy..

<3 missing sha<3

Thank you and yea its not going to be easy but ill get through it.

Scotties_Girl21 · #7 05-05-2012, 08:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Momma Ann

you should file for legal guardianship for the child. Go to Family court and they will help you. This will allow you to put her in school etc. and if she gets any child support from the father, you can collect that--or file for it if you need to--

Yes as soon as she turns herself in or gets caught that will be the first thing I do.

Olderthanmost · #8 05-05-2012, 08:40 PM

I applaude you from the bottom of my heart for what you are doing.

I pray that you have a good support system to help you with the kids so that you can keep your mind on your studies at school. You are a special person, don't ever forget that. You are trying to give everyone a normal life! Don't forget, during all of this, to make some "me" time. Give yourself some alone time. Keep us posted. You will be in my prayers. I am asking God to give you strength! God Bless!

gachristy · #9 05-05-2012, 09:50 PM

You are an absolute angel!!! I hope you sister realizes just how much you love her to do all this. Maybe when she does get caught she'll get clean and be able to see what she's doing to her kids and you. Your boyfriend is a keeper, and hope that he can stay out to help you. Life is tough, but children...what a blessing! Take care and keep us posted!!!

Scotties_Girl21 · #10 05-06-2012, 07:11 AM

Thank you ladies, really. Its very hard and to say I didn't struggle would be a lie. But I have faith God will not put more on my shoulders than I can carry. Its a shame my sister is doing what shes doing but she's the one that's going to have to live with the guilt on her heart, I'm so mad at her right now. But I'm trying to do the right thing and keeping faith that things will get better. I know when my boyfriends released he will be such a huge help and I can't wait for that. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers and I will keep you posted on how things are going.

Momma Ann · #11 05-06-2012, 07:45 AM

I truly believe you can start the guardianship proceedings right now. You are the care giver for the child--her mother is on the run. Get it started.

Scotties_Girl21 · #12 05-06-2012, 08:41 AM

Yea I'm pretty sure your right. Im going to do that ASAP.

Scotties_Girl21 · #13 05-13-2012, 10:16 PM

Just a quick update. My sisters on the run and tonight on mothers day she stopped by to see her little girl/My niece. It was one of the most heartbreaking things I've ever witnessed. She says she's turning herself in on Friday when she has the bond money. She stayed for less than 15 minutes and I had to console my niece after she left because she was just sobbing. This is so hard but you know what? I didn't cry once, I stayed strong and held back tears until my eyes were stinging. Someones gotta be strong and if not me who else? That Lil girl needs her mama so badly and it truley breaks my heart. I resent my sister and have so much anger because of her stupidity. She knows this little girl needs her and she's on the run from the police living in a SHED, pregnant with the biggest peice of shit man I've ever met in my life. It truly makes me wonder if me and my dad hadn't been here to step in where would she be right now? I don't even want to imagine. My bf will be home in two months and he's supported me through this, the hardest part of my life. Ill get through this. As of right now I have no choice. Trying to look at the bright side and make it best I can.