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A place to post all of your "what-if's" (because we all know long term sentences aren't exactly a piece of cake), and get support from fellow long haulers.

What if within this 15 year sentence I get so sexually frustrated that I cheat? I love him, and it's been 2 years and I've been good so far. But it's not easy. What if I actually screw up?
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What if,,, they give him the max sentance. 20,,,, im 46..........
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What if... They don't let him out on parole?
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Just curious, what purpose do the "what if's" serve? Not trying to be rude, I just am not understanding. Seems to me focusing on "what if's" detracts from more important things.


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I think the "what ifs" are things in a lot of our minds just never said out loud so it is a way of letting it out and to know others are thinking the same thing.

My what if is also what if they don't let him out on parole?
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What if I wait 26 years, he gets out on parole and things just arent how I thought they'd be when he got out? What if he wanted to enjoy life without me or with someone else when he gets out?
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What if he comes home and we live HAPPILY EVER AFTER!
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What if...

I make a move and kiss him...

His appeal goes in our favor...

All our plans for the future come true...

What if he doesn't get out and yet we still love each other enough to continue on until the end...

We do something totally new and different and actually survive this prison thing and become the best people we can be and have the strongest love we've ever known...
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I make a move and kiss him...

His appeal goes in our favor...

All our plans for the future come true...

What if he doesn't get out and yet we still love each other enough to continue on until the end...

We do something totally new and different and actually survive this prison thing and become the best people we can be and have the strongest love we've ever known...
What if we do too?? That'll be awesome!!
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5 years from now, he comes home and everything works out for us and we are happy together?

5 years from now, he comes home, and we prove all the nay-sayers wrong?
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5 years from now, he comes home and everything works out for us and we are happy together?

5 years from now, he comes home, and we prove all the nay-sayers wrong?
<3 keep strength. Don't worry about people who don't need to be in your business! Be there for one another. We are in the same boat! God will hold our hand and walk us through this!
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What if he comes home and I can't love him like he loves me because of the past abuse I have gone through. What if I am just scarred for life.
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What if he comes home and I can't love him like he loves me because of the past abuse I have gone through. What if I am just scarred for life.
And, what if.....you're not scarred for life?


Beach...ohhh....what if they DO change those rules...how wonderful that would be for ya?!


Mridgeman....m'love and I have discussed such things already, and we have come to our agreements.
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Well even if I am my Fiance' told me he would be patient with me and help me to get unscarred so we shall see if I am or if I am not. I hope my mind won't give my X husband that much power. I just realized today as I was watching this talk show about this guy abusing his X girlfriend that I am not over it. The guy just kept answering every question with a what about what you did to me. It made me soo sick that I just had to stop watching.

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Beach...ohhh....what if they DO change those rules...how wonderful that would be for ya?!


Mridgeman....m'love and I have discussed such things already, and we have come to our agreements.
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This was a great post. Everyone has what if's. What if you do sleep with someone else? There is also "So whats". Life in prison isn't like going to the office 9-5. I think the rules kind of change. I also think that people that really love each other talk about the what ifs. You are still there for each other. I would be curious to see how many loving a long term or lifers have talked about these things and came to solutions and agreements. Great relationship are made from great communication.
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Ohh! WHAT IF... they changed the rules and we could get family visits!? Ohhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!! Be still my heart!
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I agree...these are things never said aloud, and I posted it here because this is a place where people understand.
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What if... I get so used to being alone that I hate having him home
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Sometimes, I ask my self exactly that same question. What if after all this years alone I get so used that I hate having him... (But is confusing because I love him)...
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What if they don't let him out on parole ? How does parole even work?
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What if.... They don't let him out & I'm alone forever because there's no one I wanna be with more than being with him????
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What if he doesn't want me when he gets out?

What if he played me for a fool?

What if he really does love me?
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What if, those who have judged him unfairly have to suffer the same affliction he will.

What if no one had a record after serving, and you could actually get on with a full life, with out a label.
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What if he wins the appeal...
What if God keeps watch over us like he has and miracles happen...
What if we can one day post how he got out, that he once had life but now is living life again outside...
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