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joshgirl4ever · #1 05-15-2012, 11:09 AM

Im having a hard day. Today I miss him

usednabused · #2 05-15-2012, 11:54 AM

No, no, no... Stay strong you can do it.

I'm going to tell you what I was told, when you start missing the good concentrate in all the bad and try to remember the reason why you are staying away from him. I know is not easy, but the end of the road is near and your journey will pay off.

Stay strong

we are here for you and we are together in this

countryzgirl · #3 05-15-2012, 11:56 AM

Sweetie - time has a way of rounding out the sharp edges of memory. I don't think you miss him. He was monstrous to you - remember? I think you miss the idea of who you wanted him to be, who you believed he was deep down inside, who you hoped he would be if only he would "get it" and be the man you thought he really was. Here's the thing - he IS the man that is in prison for DV. That is HIM. The rest is a mirage, a fantasy. Please take off your misty-rose colored glasses. You know, the ones you wore to cover the black eyes he gave you.
You said in another post you are getting DV counseling. Good for you! I suggest you go to a meeting or call your counselor. The feelings you are experiencing today are normal and part of the recovery process. That means you are moving forward - yea! Know this: They WILL pass - you simply need to let them be and try not to react to them. They're just feelings...they will subside if you allow yourself to calmly feel them and then let them go. Maybe try some guided mediations? I use them often and they are a great help when I'm overwhelmed. Chin up, Love. You can do this! You ARE doing this! Go you!!
Good luck!

MRS.GRIFFIN · #4 05-15-2012, 12:17 PM

Sending prayers your way girl

just hold on it gets better,,, have faith in the man above, he will see you through

nimuay · #5 05-16-2012, 08:43 PM

Hey girl, How ya doing today?

joshgirl4ever · #6 05-16-2012, 08:52 PM

I dont want to go back I am just disapointed with all of it. Its so sad that it wasnt real and he didnt love me. I really loved him with all my heart. I dont understand how someone can be so fake for so long exspecially someone you made a child with. So im just sad

fyrcry · #7 05-16-2012, 08:58 PM

I can sympathize with how you are feeling. I miss Chad so bad that some days I feel like my heart will jump out of my chest. Those moments are lessening over time. You will make it through this. Stay strong.

fyrcry · #8 05-16-2012, 09:02 PM

Let me clarify: I miss who I thought Chad was. I miss something I never really had to begin with. I'm sure it's the same for you. Prayers and strength for you.

bricesPnut · #9 05-17-2012, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by fyrcry

I can sympathize with how you are feeling. I miss Chad so bad that some days I feel like my heart will jump out of my chest. Those moments are lessening over time. You will make it through this. Stay strong.

I totally agree with you :-)
And if I really missing him I try to think about how nasty he use to be with me.... And I end up my missing with " FUCK YOU" lol

joshgirl4ever · #10 05-17-2012, 10:18 AM

im sure it will pass in time too.