Feeling alone and sad

[dasieygirl2009]

Well today has been a bad day. I miss him more today than ever. he tried to call today and because its so expensive and I have no job he couldn't get through cause there is no money on the account. Him being gone is getting so much harder cause he would be able to fix all this if he was here and to make matters worst his letters aren't coming like they should. Just feel really alone.

[nandoslady]

Keep your head up it Will get better,I know its hard...maybe the mails just slow right now but I'm sure he trying too...

[Beauswifey]

I know how you feel. We've all had days like that, I'm sure. No money on the account, so you can't talk to him, and he doesn't write as often as you think he should, so you start feeling neglected. Sometimes, my mind gets a little bit carried away, and I start wondering if DH put me on the back burner of his list of "priorities". But, at the end of the day, I know that he loves me.

My suggestion to you would be to write him a letter letting him know how much you love & miss him, and how much his letters mean to you. There's nothing wrong with telling him that you want to hear from him more. If you're willing to wait for him on the outside, then the least he can do is show you that he appreciates it.

[Sad_Eyes]

Originally Posted by Beauswifey

I know how you feel. We've all had days like that, I'm sure. No money on the account, so you can't talk to him, and he doesn't write as often as you think he should, so you start feeling neglected. Sometimes, my mind gets a little bit carried away, and I start wondering if DH put me on the back burner of his list of "priorities". But, at the end of the day, I know that he loves me.

My suggestion to you would be to write him a letter letting him know how much you love & miss him, and how much his letters mean to you. There's nothing wrong with telling him that you want to hear from him more. If you're willing to wait for him on the outside, then the least he can do is show you that he appreciates it.

I agree. I have wrote my bf letters when I feel this way and it makes me feel better and keeps my mind busy. I basically just talk about missing him and how it is hard, but that I am hanging in there, my thoughts, etc... and that hearing from him means so much to me. But yes like others say, do not be afraid to tell him how you feel or that you are stressed, etc...a relationship is a relationship no matter the circumstances! Hang in there. It will get better!

[dasieygirl2009]

Thank y'all. This is all so new to me and I write him often but I feel alittle bad when I say anything about being stressed cause he is under stress enough. He always worries about me stressing and I love him for that. We have had a rough relationship and I believe with everythingwe have been through that we can make it through this too. I mean he did leave me for 2 years before he got into this stuff for my best friend and we made it through that and still love each other very much

[Beauswifey]

Originally Posted by dasieygirl2009

Thank y'all. This is all so new to me and I write him often but I feel alittle bad when I say anything about being stressed cause he is under stress enough. He always worries about me stressing and I love him for that. We have had a rough relationship and I believe with everythingwe have been through that we can make it through this too. I mean he did leave me for 2 years before he got into this stuff for my best friend and we made it through that and still love each other very much

Believe me... you shouldn't feel guilty for venting to him. A relationship goes both ways...you're supposed to be there for him, and he's supposed to be there for you, no matter where he's at. Just because he's in prison, that does not mean he's exempt from being there for you emotionally. You still should be able to share things with him (not just the good things, either), and let him know what you need from him. Even after almost 5 years of marriage, I still have to give DH a reminder every now and again...lol.

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by dasieygirl2009

Well today has been a bad day. I miss him more today than ever. he tried to call today and because its so expensive and I have no job he couldn't get through cause there is no money on the account. Him being gone is getting so much harder cause he would be able to fix all this if he was here and to make matters worst his letters aren't coming like they should. Just feel really alone.

Keep your chin up, we all have these kinds of days. Tomorrow is a new day and maybe you will get a whole bunch of letters at one time

Peace~

[MrsMallory]

Originally Posted by dasieygirl2009

Well today has been a bad day. I miss him more today than ever. he tried to call today and because its so expensive and I have no job he couldn't get through cause there is no money on the account. Him being gone is getting so much harder cause he would be able to fix all this if he was here and to make matters worst his letters aren't coming like they should. Just feel really alone.

You will have days like this and the others are right..writing him will help you feel better. In the mean time u should try and find a job..maybe even too jobs and just work ur butt off so u can improve both u and his situation..plus it'll keep u busy which will help with ur loneliness.

[Rachel C]

Yes we all go through days like you're having.....it's par for the course of being an inmates girlfriend/wife.

There are better days ahead for you. As someone wrote everyday is a new beginning. I hope you go the mailbox and see a letter in the mail waiting just for you.

Good luck to you and your LO.

[Mrs. Happy]

Originally Posted by dasieygirl2009

Well today has been a bad day. I miss him more today than ever. he tried to call today and because its so expensive and I have no job he couldn't get through cause there is no money on the account. Him being gone is getting so much harder cause he would be able to fix all this if he was here and to make matters worst his letters aren't coming like they should. Just feel really alone.

I feel the same way. I'm having a hard week! I miss my husband soo bad. To top it off no calls, no letters at all this week...

[ilovecoffee]

Cheer up Buttercup! It will come a day where you get flooded with your man!

[BFAV4EVER]

As others have said we all have days like that. It IS one of the worst feelings when they try to call and you have NO way to put money on the phone. When I'm having one of "those" kind of days/weeks, I go back and read his letters, write him a letter, look at our pictures, pray ... and then get out of the house! Even if it is just to go for a walk to clear my head, window shop, or call a friend and talk about anything BUT him.

You definitely need to communicate with him though what you are feeling, you'll never get through this and not resent him if you don't tell each other everything! Yes he's stressed, but he can handle it!

Your days will get better ... big hugs to you!!!

[dasieygirl2009]

Thanks for all the support. Today is a little better, don't feel as depressed but still missing him like crazy. I have been talking to him about everything and he just reassures me everything will be okay and this time apart is just going to make our marriage stronger. We talk about a lot I just feel so bad when I do stress him out. I guess a lot of the feelings I was having was because I told him in the last letter that I have decided to go back to school and get my GED and when that's done I am going to be going to nursing school. I was kinda feeling bad about getting on with life without him but I know he loves me and wants me to do what makes me happy.

[dasieygirl2009]

Update ladies...I got a letter today from my man. He said he could tell I was upset the last time I came to visit and he wanted to let me know he understands how hard this is on me and he just wants to reasure me that he loves me very much that I am his last. Thought before. Bed and first thought in the morning when he wakes up....thanks for all the support