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Rickyrowjg · #1 09-28-2006, 08:53 AM

yes , my son needs a hug and I guess so do I. I'm wondering where can get help for my son to deal with issue about his father being in prison again and having to live knowing his father not there for him in alot of ways.

I do wish that the justice system made these men work to be able to give back for their crime and their childern, instead of being locked up and doing nothing. This is a hardship for everybody has to pay as a result of on one man actions, but these men need to be amade to be responsible even though their locked up. They them self got it easy ,all they do is sit around locked up doing nothing and are clothed and fed, etc with out having to work. I'm speaking out for the childern who have parents in jail.

deb · #2 10-01-2006, 10:00 AM

I so agree with you that they should be out here working and being able to fulfill the father role as well instead of sitting inside and doing nothing...

Have you checked out getting your son into counseling? Many times a counselor may know of groups in the area for kids that may help your son as well.. A lot of times if they can interact with other kids going thru the same thing it helps as they don't feel so alone in all of this... ((hugs)) and good luck!

Deb

Toshacat · #3 10-01-2006, 10:59 AM

I agree with you there. Instead of locking them up they should make it easier for us with kids to have them to get the support that we need while they are serving their time.
My husband is on SSI disability and so is our 11 year old daughter, so now that he is not here I have to struggle to make ends meet and may have to go back on Welfare which we had been off except medical for 5 years. It is hard to go backwards instead of forwards. I should not have to be expected to raise our daughter and to provide housing for his 18 year old daughter while he serves his time and I have to get money to him too, so he can get the medical help that he needs too.
I guess I'm just a frustrated mom.
Toshacat

HopeFaithNLove · #4 10-01-2006, 11:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Toshacat

My husband is on SSI disability and so is our 11 year old daughter, so now that he is not here I have to struggle to make ends meet and may have to go back on Welfare which we had been off except medical for 5 years. Toshacat

You should still recieve his SSI even though he is incarcerated. I was at the social security office trying to see if they offered it for people raising children of incarcerated parents. They said if the incarcerated recieved SSI before he went in that he has to report it but his wife would still be eligible for benefits.

Maybe since it is disability they won't do it. I'm not sure. I do know that there should be some type of government grant available to parents raising children of an incarcerated parent. It is just not right that we are the ones who are actually punished in the whole mess. They are honestly putting way to many in prison. The damn prisons are overcrowded anyway. If a person is not violent they should not be stuck behind bars, especially if they dont have children. Any first-time offense that is not violent should be given probation. It doesn't make sense to put someone behind bars that has never been in trouble. A lot of people don't realize how much trouble they could get into for their actions. This would seem to be the knowledgable thing to do to me. If they do illegal things afterwards, then put them in prison. At least this way, they will be competent to actually fully understand the consequences for their actions.

Toshacat · #5 10-02-2006, 12:13 AM

I agree, but you know the system isn't going to change because only the ones that are in the prison sysytem see the injustice of the who judicial system. I'll have to check in with the SSI thing I'm almost afraid to go down there though in case they want there money back that i got this month
Toshcat

HopeFaithNLove · #6 10-02-2006, 12:26 AM

My best advice is to be honest with them. It is not your fault that you didn't know you were supposed to report it! They should understand. You might even get on the SSI website. They may tell you there if you have to repay it. When I found it, I googled Social Security Adminstration Official Site. I think it was the first one to come up!

Good luck and I hope all goes well!

Toshacat · #7 10-02-2006, 08:35 AM

Thanks
Toshacat

Rickyrowjg · #8 10-02-2006, 05:19 PM

Well, I guess it good let out your fustrations, and you are not the only one going through problems, you just never think that some one you fall in love with would end up being a bad thing for your childern to experience.
All I can do is go on doing the best I can do for my child. Keep being the best example for him that I can be and ask God to give the strength to be there for my son.

HopeFaithNLove · #9 10-07-2006, 02:40 AM

Just wanted to let you both know there will be a chat for raising kids with parents in prison on Thursday evening. I believe at 10 PM est, but check the main lobby for this forum.

I know it is going to be a tough road ahead; however, we are strong and can do it. The hardest part of it all is going to see my kids hurting.

And that can be very frustrating.

Toshacat · #10 10-07-2006, 10:30 AM

Hey HopeFaithNLove,
I think we are going to boost the time up to either 9EST so that they can get to bed early. What do you think?
Toshacat

HopeFaithNLove · #11 10-09-2006, 04:21 AM

It is possible that I will be sitting in jail because of unpaid traffic tickets... If I'm not there, that's why...

angie_mia · #12 10-09-2006, 05:51 AM

Good Luck Hope, I hope that we will see you on Thurs.

Toshacat · #13 10-09-2006, 08:40 AM

Well Hope, I hope that doesn't happen I'll keep praying really hard. Keep us posted.
Toshacat