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krummy · #1 06-20-2007, 07:43 AM

Gentlemen,
I have recently heard a story that just prompted me to write this. Seems that some women just can not believe that there are men who can stand by their women while they are incarcerated. I know we are a minority but we do exist. So I just came up with this little slogan for us. This sort of makes us like the Marine Corp. You know "The Few The Proud The Marines" Well why can't we have our own?

"The Few The Proud The Men of Incarcerated Women"
Stand tall and be proud we are the strong ones who choose to be faithful, loyal , and loving to our most precious ladies who are separated from us. Hope I am not too out of line here. Guess if I am I will hear about it.

BigDaddy72 · #2 06-20-2007, 06:41 PM

True we as the male species are rare in that we are standing with our women. You can see by the sheer numbers female vs. male on this site that it's the fairer sex that stands by thier man. I'm not sure why that it, but it is.

I feel fortunate to have found this site, and that the women here have been so welcoming, and supportive to us. They are always making the nicest comments because they are so surprised we're here and that we really love our women!

I don't think I'm doing anything noble by standing by her side, I just feel like I'm doing what I'm supposed to because I love her.

WifejailedinAZ · #3 06-20-2007, 07:50 PM

Krummy,

Absolutely not out of line. I love it. We as men have always had the reputation of being the ones to stray. But in recent years statistics have shown that it is fairly equal. The difference is the ladies don't tend to brag about it.

Personally, it is a question that Debbie asks me during several of our visits. But I think she finally understands that my devotion and love to her far out weigh the needs of my groin.

Like Big Daddy says, I'm doing what I am supposed to do, I am her husband, she is my wife, partner, lover and best friend. I also have been treated incredibly well by the PTO ladies, and I always try to return to the same to them.

krummy · #4 06-20-2007, 08:44 PM

How true both of you are. The ladies here are have been very supportive to all us men who choose to be the faithful. Although none of us feel like we are doing anything noble, the ladies are first to give us kuddos. And wifejailed, I love the way you put that the love far outweighs the needs of the groin. Bigdaddy, how right you are about how fortunate we were to find this sight. It has been a great blessing.

Kay's man 4ever · #5 06-20-2007, 11:57 PM

I just had my Wednesday night Federal/County GLASS visit with my Kay.

She laughed and blushed at my mail that I shower her with daily.

She feels confident in my love for her, and my fidelity.

Part of being a man is having that "sense of honor" even when no one is looking.

My Kay knows where I am at night - missing and wanting her.

Kay's man 4ever

WifejailedinAZ · #6 06-21-2007, 11:18 AM

Kay's Man,

So eloquently spoken again. I share that sense of honor with you, and know that Debbie is also confident of it too.

You have been a great friend to me and Debbie, we so much appreciate your encouragement.

metro3480 · #7 06-21-2007, 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Kay's man 4ever

I just had my Wednesday night Federal/County GLASS visit with my Kay.

She laughed and blushed at my mail that I shower her with daily.

She feels confident in my love for her, and my fidelity.

Part of being a man is having that "sense of honor" even when no one is looking.

My Kay knows where I am at night - missing and wanting her.

Kay's man 4ever

That was very well said and I am glad to hear things are going well for you two. It is funny how little things become so importan in relationships like this. My wife and are much more open in our communication then before she was imprisoned. In many ways we have become much closer than before and more in love.

Thank you for sharing that with us, it truly brightens the day.

june5 · #8 06-21-2007, 02:59 PM

I just wanted to say that I LOVE the name! Your wives are all very lucky to have you.

BigDaddy72 · #9 06-21-2007, 04:33 PM

I'm probably going to embarrass him but I'm going to call Jack out, Kay's Man 4 Ever. Jack takes more time to help others on this board than anyone I know, help to myself included. I just want to say thanks Jack for being a good friend to myself and many others. You're a great person.

metro3480 · #10 06-21-2007, 05:41 PM

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Originally Posted by june5

I just wanted to say that I LOVE the name! Your wives are all very lucky to have you.

Thank you very much. To be honest with you though, I feel like I am the lucky one. I just got done reading a twenty page letter I got from her today and I am very lucky and blessed to receive the most precious gift of her love. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank god for bringing her into my life. I'm sure all of us feel the same way about our wives and girlfriends. This one the other guys won't agree on, but I am married to the most beautiful and amazing woman in the world.

I never have felt like I have done anything special or deserve some kind of award for standing by her. In my heart, the day I asked her to marry me 15 years ago, I made a commitment to her for life. I'm honoring this commitment I made to her before God and it was for better and for worse. Nothing special about that, just being a man and a husband and doing what we are supposed to do.

BigDaddy72 · #11 06-21-2007, 06:06 PM

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Originally Posted by metro3480

This one the other guys won't agree on, but I am married to the most beautiful and amazing woman in the world.

Ok, I'll let you slide on that cause that's the way I feel about my baby!

metro3480 · #12 06-21-2007, 06:15 PM

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Originally Posted by BigDaddy72

Ok, I'll let you slide on that cause that's the way I feel about my baby!

Thank you, that is kind of you. I promise not to make that statement again

WifejailedinAZ · #13 06-21-2007, 08:42 PM

Ditto, I think we can all agree we are all married to the greates woman alive!! And I am going to hop on the band wagon here with Big, Jack is one incredible man, from day one, he has been a rock for me, and Debbie surely does appreciate him.

Speaking of Debbie, I saw her for our 30 minutes tonight, it was one of our best visits so far, no tears at all, we played footsies under the table when the DO wasn't watching, she even tried getting a little frisky with her toes.

It was awesome to see some of the Debbie I knew at home resurface.

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Originally Posted by metro3480

Thank you, that is kind of you. I promise not to make that statement again

Kay's man 4ever · #14 06-23-2007, 01:05 AM

To all the kind folks on this site:

I would like to share a personal thought with you about my life and marriage.

Recently, I had some surgery and had to do the usual hospital stuff.

They said, "get into the little blue gown with buttons down the back". (OK, I thought, but I hoped that they would have fixed that sartorial faux pas by now, but NO!). Ok, ....No problem.

Then they said, "strip off the wedding ring". I was so pi$$ed!!!!!!!!!!!!

It was like they wanted take my marriage, not just my pants.

In a wave of emotion I realized how much I loved my wife, and the personal inscription she engraved on this simple gold band.

Over the 13 years, I have lost my car keys, misplaced my driver's license, but never lost the wedding ring.

Even when it (the ring) fell off on my honeymoon in the warm Mexican ocean, I treaded water over that spot till a diver fished it off the sandy bottom.

Jack
Still "Kay's man 4ever"

krummy · #15 06-24-2007, 08:49 PM

Great story Jack. That sort of puts things in perspective of how we all feel about our wonderful wives. Thanks for sharing my friend.

mommaof5 · #16 07-03-2007, 08:35 PM

its nice to know that there are guys out there who do stand by their woman when my mom got in trouble and the going got tough her loser husband got going!

WifejailedinAZ · #17 07-03-2007, 08:46 PM

I'm sorry to hear that Momm, my wife tells me about how many of the girls get no visitors or have no one to call. Many are there because of the poor excuse of a man they were with to begin with. They take the rap under the illusion of "love" and the minute they get locked up, the looser dissapears.

It's sad that in today's day and age, specially in the younger generations, many men have lost all respect and appreciation for whatI consider is God's greates gift to man, Woman.

krummy · #18 07-05-2007, 08:21 PM

Very well put wifejailed. I agree with you that woman is the greatest gift God every gave man other than the sacrifice of HIS only SON. They are precious and should be treated as so.

mommaof5; unfortunately that happens way too often. My wife is constatnly telling of ladies who were abandoned by their men when they were incarcerated. It's very sad because as wifejailed said many are there because they took the rap to keep him from going. I am so sorry this happened to your Mom. Prayers for you all

metro3480 · #19 07-05-2007, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by WifejailedinAZ

I'm sorry to hear that Momm, my wife tells me about how many of the girls get no visitors or have no one to call. Many are there because of the poor excuse of a man they were with to begin with. They take the rap under the illusion of "love" and the minute they get locked up, the looser dissapears.

It's sad that in today's day and age, specially in the younger generations, many men have lost all respect and appreciation for whatI consider is God's greates gift to man, Woman.

You are so right on that one. The sister of a friend of mine is serving a life sentence in a Thai prison for trying to smuggle 5.5 pound of heroin out of the country. While her boyfriend, the man that professed his "undying love" for her and the one that talked her into doing this favor for him, walks around free as a bird. Sad thing is, once she got caught, her supposed "boyfriend" totally abandoned her and turned a deaf ear to her.

mommaof5 · #20 07-07-2007, 07:00 AM

this wonderful man she was married to in part helped her get where she is at due to the fact of his financial stuation when he sought her out after my father had passed away & she bailed his butt out of his financial bind he was in i am certain this is why he married her but other things went on & now she is where she is & the house that she bought & paid for with my daddys life insurance money the money he had saved from breaking his back to provide for his family which from job related circumstances resulted in his death that a** is going to get. it makes me sick when i think about it her ex comes from a wealthy family & when his parents die he stands to inherit a million dollar trust & so in order to please his momma & daddy he left my mother at a time when she needed people the most her "friends" did the same thing not one person called her once she plead, all she had during this was her family. an attorney here in town had some kind of grudge against her former father in law & got a copy of her charges highlighted her name, all the counts against her mad numerous copies & posted them all over one of the main buildings downtown i of course gave the fellow a call & a piece of my mind & he took it down but that is the crap she had to put up with another acquaintance of theirs popped off a statement the day after she was sentenced "huh 33 months is all she got" & it goes on & on & on im sorry to ramble but it makes me mad the more i think about how people who supposably loved & cared about her could turn their backs on her at a time when she really needed someone. thank god we have a a huge family that is close knit & we have stuck together through this & we will til the end.