So Tired of being ALONE.

[Mz. Canaca]

Hi everybody it's been awhile since I have been on. Anyway the last time I was here was just before I went to Honduras to visit my husband. I did visit and I had the best time of my life. My husband's family treated me like I was a queen. Since my return back to N.C. I have been seeing someone else I dont have the heart to tell my husband. I use the excuse that Im so alone I love this other person and I love my husband too. My husband is so far away. This other person is here for me physically and financially. Am I wrong for wanting to move forward. I lost so much along with my husband my car my house my buisness all I want is to feel NORMAL again any advice or shared experiences is greatly appreciated.

[Just_Be]

Mz. Canaca I'm sorry you feel so alone. I do too.
Obviously, what you do is up to you, but personally, I think you should tell your husband that you are seeing someone else. It's not fair to him or you to keep up the charade. As hard as it may be, you really need to make a decision. If you were staying faithful to him, would you want him seeking companionship with someone else while you aren't there?

[MandyMeMe]

Why did you leave Honduras? I think that you should tell him, unless you want to go back to Honduras to be with him. If you plan on going back i would not say anything. But it really looks like you should do some soul searching right now and take care of you. How are the children handling being away from there dad? I hope that you can work all this out and be happy like you deserve. Take care and keep us updated.

[zunigan]

I truly understand how you are feeling. I waited 27 months for my husband. He is out now and I spend every week end there in Mexico with him. He is wonderful and has been changed so much my his prison time and now living in a country he has not been in for over 17 years. If here were not willing to do the things he knows he should I might have felt the same. Sometimes its just the time to move forward. He needs to know how you feel. He can then also move on with his life there.

[Mz. Canaca]

Thanks everyone for the advice. I've tried telling him he insist that there is no one else for him. I couldnt stay in honduras because one of my three children are from a previous relationship and although the only father shes ever known is my husband her biological dad is giving me hell getting her passport. He hasnt even seen her in 3 years but I cant take her without his signature or approval otherwise I would still be in honduras.

[MandyMeMe]

Oh my goodness, that is what i am going through right now. I can not take 2 of my kids with me and now i'm stuck in limboville trying to figure out what to do. However my kids dad see's them once a month for one weekend. He doesnt pay child support, but will no let them come. I was able to get there passports, however the judge court ordered me to not take the kids to Mexico and if i move to Mexico then the chldren are to live with him and i can only visit with the children in NC. No where else. We have even thought about getting an apartment on the border and trying to live that way. It's just so hard. I dont even feel comfortable being here in the states right now. My family will not help me anymore. The kods were staying with my mom and stepdad and now they say they cant stay with them anymore. I had to come back to the states to figure this mess out. I feel real bad because i have one child with my mexican and he is a wonderful daddy and provider and is just awesome, however i cant be 2 places at one time. I dont know what to do either. PM me is you want to chat. I live in NC when im not in MX.

[openmyeyes]

Mandee, I am so sorry for what you are going through! Is there anyway to get a new hearing and get full custody? I know it takes $ and time but this is the only way I can think of (I am sure you have considered all of the options), have me here praying that everything goes your way.

MZ Canaca, I do hope not to offend, but I find it difficult to believe how someone can start a new relationship before resolving things with the husband first. I am sorry you are lonely, but I do hope this doesn't cause you both more pain in the long run. My thoughts are with your husband as well.

[silvergirl0007]

I think you need to figure out what exactly YOU want, you're torn between two different men and it's very complicating. Personally I think you need to do what is best for your children, which is staying in the states and taking care of them the best you can. Maybe in the future you and your husband will find your way back to each other but he needs to know... and you need to decide between the two.

[zunigan]

Darn Mandy I had no idea you were back here in the usa. I don't know what to say. It has got to be so awful for this to happen. I love my kids but I am so glad they are grown up cause I would hate to have to deal with all this. Hope you can get it figured out soon. Praying for you guys!

[times_up]

Mandy, that's horrible. i'm sorry to hear that you had to come back so quickly. I hope that you are able to resolve this matter, and your ex might be a little more compassionate towards both you and your children.

[MandyMeMe]

I didnt mean to high jack this thread..but update on me...I'm back in Mexico as of monday of this week...i came to an agreement with my ex...which is more in his favor but..i had to let go and trust that God has a bigger plan for us right now. The kids went to live with there dad, and we get them here in MX over the summers and at Christmas time. I get them any time i'm back in the states for visits. No one pays any child support. IT was the hardest thing i've ever done. I cried the whole flight from Charlotte to Mexico City...people were looking at me like i had lost it...and i had. However i'm doing better today...and i have to keep on going and let go and let God handle our situation.

To Ms Canaza...i know it's hard right now..because we all need that affection and love...i wish you the best and i hope that you are able to sort this out. Keep us posted