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hesavedme · #1 09-14-2008, 02:10 AM

It's over. After 10 years of BS I decided to leave. Why? Because he brought me down, he never treated me as well as he could have, he always held a grudge, I sacraficed for him and he never did the same for me and because I deserve better. Ladies...I know it's hard to leave someone you know you love but unfortunately love may not be everything. Happiness is everything. (LAUGHS) I'm drunk so maybe I'm just venting and spilling the truth as I see it but I'll will say since I left I have been 110 % happier. I just want you all to know there is better out there. There is more for you out there. Not knocking the inmate relationships at all but if you;ve been in one and it's failed know that you aren't doomed forever. I met a nice guy. A genuinely nice guy. Someone self supporting, nice, thoughtful and although I don't know where it's going I can honestly say I deserve it. I hope that when all is said and done with your inmate relationship you realize it's not worth being broken over. There are plenty of fish out there. Some maybe not so great and other so worth it, it almost seems to good to be true. I wish all of you happiness, don't break your back for someone who may not do it for you.

**Patty** · #2 09-14-2008, 02:12 AM

One door closes and another opens, huh? Well ending a relationship is never easy and I know you've put a lot of thought into this. I wish you all the best as you journey forward.

Take care,
Patty

hesavedme · #3 09-14-2008, 02:34 AM

Oh , I Loved Him With Everything But Sometimes It Just Can't Work...not Cuz U Don't Want It To...it Happens. Thank You Patty. I Hope And Pray Everyone Here Finds What Makes Them Happy.don't Do It If It Doesn't Make You Smile.

mrssunnyb · #4 09-14-2008, 01:11 PM

Sorry For The News Your Giving. I Wish You The Best In Finding The Love Your Looking For.

California Sunshine · #5 09-15-2008, 12:35 AM

(((hugs)))

PTO-110524 · #6 09-15-2008, 09:10 AM

I'm sorry to read this. 10 years is a huge chunk of your life.

I hope you are able to move forward and into a healthier, more satisfying and loving relationship.

((((hesavedme))))

AmyLynn · #7 09-15-2008, 04:02 PM

There is happiness after the hurt of a relationship. I found it.. I wish you all the best.

Compassionate · #8 09-15-2008, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by hesavedme

It's over. After 10 years of BS I decided to leave. Why? Because he brought me down, he never treated me as well as he could have, he always held a grudge, I sacraficed for him and he never did the same for me and because I deserve better. Ladies...I know it's hard to leave someone you know you love but unfortunately love may not be everything. Happiness is everything. (LAUGHS) I'm drunk so maybe I'm just venting and spilling the truth as I see it but I'll will say since I left I have been 110 % happier. I just want you all to know there is better out there. There is more for you out there. Not knocking the inmate relationships at all but if you;ve been in one and it's failed know that you aren't doomed forever. I met a nice guy. A genuinely nice guy. Someone self supporting, nice, thoughtful and although I don't know where it's going I can honestly say I deserve it. I hope that when all is said and done with your inmate relationship you realize it's not worth being broken over. There are plenty of fish out there. Some maybe not so great and other so worth it, it almost seems to good to be true. I wish all of you happiness, don't break your back for someone who may not do it for you.

Fabulous post and so true. Thank you for posting this. When you sincerely put into a relationship--be it friendship or romantic--you deserve to have it reciprocated. I'm glad you have grown from your experience and that you love yourself enough to see that you deserve better. And yes, there's definitely more fish in the sea!

Loving someone who isn't loving you back the same way isn't everything.
Loving yourself the most is everything!

Congratulations!

SpicaRigel · #9 09-20-2008, 11:45 PM

awww hunnie...that took alot of thinking and feeling, and if you feel right about it...YAY!!!
to hell with fish in the sea..check out the guys on the beach! a kiss from them is mucho better than a kiss with a mackeral!
I love the courage you model to leave.there are lots of women here who need to read this.
Keep us informed, and please share with the ones who are sitting on the fence. Courageous lady you are!!!

mrscooper · #10 09-21-2008, 10:28 AM

Making that decision to leave is in fact the hardest one. It seems like you took a lot of time to make this decision and it also seems that it is the best one for you, and for that i say "YOu go girl"
Letting go is hard enough, but letting go when you know you love em is even harder. It just simply means you finally decided to love yourself more..... I know how your feeling, I just sent my divorce papers last week. Actually I think they served him on Friday, now i wait till Nov 13th (date of final decree). Im sure he is sitting around telling his cellies what a bitch I am,, and you know what i dont care, cuz had he treated me with respect i would have stayed by his side for a life time.
You did the right thing,,,

Tamter143 · #11 09-21-2008, 10:33 AM

Read my BLOG - the one titled "I AM HAPPY!"

I let go and I am glad I did.....I still care about my ex but I let go to be happy myself. It was not all about him....it was about me too and I realized that. I was in the relationship for right at 7 years.....(mostly while he was incarcerated - a 5 months out). It was hard but after he did the things he did - I had to move on!

Kudo's for you for being strong!!

Waitin4BlueEyes · #12 09-21-2008, 10:39 AM

Congrats for finding the strength to move on and I wish you the best in your new relationship