Did you judge people in prison before you had a loved one there?

[SGV girl]

I know right off the top I was guilty of doing this, but I wonder am I the only one? I know before I got involved with G, my opinion of a person in prison was that they were where they deserved to be for whatever they did. And I KNOW I judged people harshly depending on their crime...

I admit I was ignorant, and thought, "Man, he's in there for murder? How can ANYONE love that person? How could ANYONE write that person or want to be in LOVE with that person...he has no respect for life!" BUT..since being here, that opinion has waned, as have many other misconceptions and prejudices I held on to...perhaps to justify my own lil life!

So the question is this...did you/do you judge people in prison differently now that you have a loved one there? Did you/do you make distinctions in the "levels" of crime? For example, "He only stole something, he didn't kill anyone" or "He only uses drugs, he didn't hurt anyone but himself" to try to minimize how you deal with your situation???

I'm curious to know...was it just me...what have you all learned???