Intro-- butterflybride from Indiana

[butterflybride]

I'm LeannaRae. 23 years old, 5' 11.5" tall. with brown eyes, brown hair, & a light complexion. I have two offenders that I love, in two seperate prisons. One is my father - in Wabash Valley in Indiana - and the other is my soon-to-be husband - in New Castle Correctional in Indiana. They are both sex offenders. My father has been in prison since 2002 (I think- was in jail since December 1999). Still has until 2035. **shakes her head** They threw more than just the book, they threw the whole darn bench, judge and all I think. I rarely get to see him. (Havent since 2004 honestly. :-( ) My fiancé is serving his second stint. This is the suspended time from his original sentence - he failed a poly & so he violated his probation. So, he's back doing time again... We started dating the day before my 17th birthday & have been off & on for almost 7 years (7 years on 9/6/2009). We've been engaged like 5 times, & finally we are both adult enough to go through with it. He should be out by July 15th, 2012 at the latest, but he can file a sentence mod if he ever completes S.O.M.M. classes. (Does anyone know what those even are?) Anyway, that's pretty much it. If ya wanna know anything else just ask. :-)

[Greek_Koukla]

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[LeaAnn]

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[Sarah_Herdman]

Originally Posted by butterflybride

I'm LeannaRae. 23 years old, 5' 11.5" tall. with brown eyes, brown hair, & a light complexion. I have two offenders that I love, in two seperate prisons. One is my father - in Wabash Valley in Indiana - and the other is my soon-to-be husband - in New Castle Correctional in Indiana. They are both sex offenders. My father has been in prison since 2002 (I think- was in jail since December 1999). Still has until 2035. **shakes her head** They threw more than just the book, they threw the whole darn bench, judge and all I think. I rarely get to see him. (Havent since 2004 honestly. :-( ) My fiancé is serving his second stint. This is the suspended time from his original sentence - he failed a poly & so he violated his probation. So, he's back doing time again... We started dating the day before my 17th birthday & have been off & on for almost 7 years (7 years on 9/6/2009). We've been engaged like 5 times, & finally we are both adult enough to go through with it. He should be out by July 15th, 2012 at the latest, but he can file a sentence mod if he ever completes S.O.M.M. classes. (Does anyone know what those even are?) Anyway, that's pretty much it. If ya wanna know anything else just ask. :-)

Honey,
Dont be pissed, u will be I know it, But how can u possibly love a sex offender? As a victim of sexal abuse and rape survivor I cannot possibly grasp how u can love a man that hates woman, men, little boys or girls? without castration ir really intensive therapy u realize that they will not stop and inside prison they are minnos- the lowest of the low. Other prisoners hate the chesters and they are often the victims on the inside. And for u to have a sex offender father then marry one? Doesnt that sound a little freudian on ur part. Maybe u should get some therapy while hes out of your life and please dont get pregnant to this creep until u know what u r truely doing to ur children. My man's sister married and had children with a sex offender and he molests their children and his oldest son started molesting his 4 year old sister. The whole family is noe broken apart and in shambles. She started drinking, hes back in prison-again- and the kids r all split up. Ugh Im sorry but I cant help but be hateful towards ur 'husband' and sorry for you.

[Tahnzie]

What if he didn't molest a child, or rape anyone? What if he was 18 and his girlfriend was 15? I don't know the details, but it's awfully easy to jump to conclusions when someone hears "sex offender."

I am a survivor of molestation and the thing that horrifies me the most is for someone to be labeled a "child molester" when in fact the label is not deserved.

Tahnzie

[butterflybride]

I'm not "pissed." I see it like this, opinions are like buttholes, everyone has one, & no 2 spew the same crap. I have loved both offenders (& NO, not in a sexual way with my FATHER!) since I was little. My father's case, I don't know all the details of - BUT I do know every last piece of red tape on my fiancé's case file. I know the girls involved, & I know what is truth & what is not. I stand by my fiancé, not because I'm "addicted" to offenders - far from it! My father knows my fiancé as well, even though the last time he talked to him was over 10 years ago. My family - my father included - approves of my staying with him throughout all of this. & as for me having a sex offender labled father, as well as marring one? That very well may sound freudian to you. Let me say this - the heart knows what the head may not, & one cannot help who one loves. As far as therapy, I've had plenty due to my childhood, & I know enough to say that I DO love my soon-to-be husband, & the simple fact that you dwell on the past of your family shows that you aren't TRYING to look for the positive in all situations. EVERYTHING has some ray of sunshine, no matter how small or hidden. I'm sorry for you too, as you resent millions of people due to the absolute horrific actions of one. Sex offenders are people like me & you, & they can & DO move on and change (at least most). Even the men who raped me, at a young age I might add, I do not feel "hateful" towards. One is a repeat offender, and is now locked up for quite some time, & the other two have done their time & are now living their lives as close to "normally" as a sex offender can. I even worked in the same office as one of them for 2 years. He appologized, and I let him know it was past late, but that I knew he was trying to make nice. He never said 2 words to me all the time his cubicle was beside mine (except for the work required chatter when needed), & I never made any comments to anyone about his "status" as I felt that was not my place. I will keep you in my prayers.

[rosedealer]

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