I am on Probation he is on Parole can we date?

[csea815]

I just met a guy and things are clicking between us. He was just released from NY State Prison and place on parole. I am on felony probation with the county. I am just wondering what we should do.. Should we be up front with the Parole officer? Will my Probation officer care?
I work full time, go to the counseling I have to go too, pay everything I owe and have a functional relationship with my probation officer. Meaning we have no problems and I do what she wants and she is happy then and doesn't bother me. I have only been on a month and she is already only seeing me once a month.
As for him he is looking for a job and going to all the things he has to as well.
I am wondering if being upfront with them is a good idea or if we should just wait and see what happens.
I just am really well being a little girly about this worried. I really like that guy and I would hate for it to be over before it started.

[robby340]

You need to check your probation papers to see if you are allowed to associate with known felons. Since you are on good terms with your p.o., it would probably be a wise move to let him/her know what is going on, just to CYA if nothing else.

His parole is another matter. Most parolees have standing orders not to associate with known felons (especially those still under some type of supervision), and it is a good way to get violated. My suggestion would be for you to tell your p.o. and to let him handle his own. If he is not honest with his p.o. IMO it is a good indicator whether or not this relationship will work out.

[Igor Louis]

What robby340 said. If you start associating, and yours or his Officer finds out after the fact, they will probably be a bit more upset than if they're told up front.
As a general rule, association with others on supervision, is frowned upon. But you should each talk with your respective Officer and have them give the "yea" or "nay."

[pale]

Originally Posted by csea815

I just met a guy and things are clicking between us. He was just released from NY State Prison and place on parole. I am on felony probation with the county. I am just wondering what we should do.. Should we be up front with the Parole officer? Will my Probation officer care?
I work full time, go to the counseling I have to go too, pay everything I owe and have a functional relationship with my probation officer. Meaning we have no problems and I do what she wants and she is happy then and doesn't bother me. I have only been on a month and she is already only seeing me once a month.
As for him he is looking for a job and going to all the things he has to as well.
I am wondering if being upfront with them is a good idea or if we should just wait and see what happens.
I just am really well being a little girly about this worried. I really like that guy and I would hate for it to be over before it started.

No, don't date him. If you do, one of you will or both of you will wind up back in prison.l