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Missen Him · #1 08-30-2009, 07:38 PM

im so sad right now..i just put my beautiful baby boy to bed...and it saddens me so much that his daddy isnt here to experince any of his firsts with me..These are such important times...my son is only 3 weeks and he has changed and grown so much in such a short period of time..My son deserves to have a father just like he deserves to have me. but right now that is not possible..It wuldnt be so bad if i at least could write him or had an addresse to send pictures..but he just got transfered and i cant seem to find out where to..He hasnt even seen what his new born son looks like...how sad...

akaptrosa · #2 08-30-2009, 08:24 PM

Awe...(((hugs))) My heart goes out to you. I pray you hear from him soon. In the meantime, be sure to take lots of pictures of your little peanut! I wish you the best.

Missen Him · #3 08-30-2009, 08:32 PM

trus me i have so many pictures ready to send to him as soon as i get the addresse

dizsqueen · #4 08-30-2009, 08:42 PM

Congratulations on your new baby!!!! Babies truly are blessings. It is sad that his dad can't be around, but the good thing is the baby won't even remember any of this when he grows up!
One thing I will say is make sure you have a good support system around you helping you out and please please please be careful to not let your mans absence stress you tooooo much. You just had a baby and your emotions are out of whack and you are really susceptible to post-partum depression, which is a very real illness!!!!

Missen Him · #5 08-30-2009, 08:45 PM

i hear u on that girl...My hormones are evywhere..sometimes ill jus look at my son and start bawlen cuz he reminds me of his daddy...But ima be ok..aint like my man is doin life..yeah hes looken at 3-6 but he will still be able to be there for my son throughout his teenager years in the worst case scenario and thats when a boy needs a male role model the most

dizsqueen · #6 08-30-2009, 09:07 PM

See that, he has an outdate....some people on this site would love to be able to say that they have an outdate to look forward too so count your blessings for that. I'm a mom of 3 boys and although it would be nice if your man could be there, trust and believe, there is nothing that you as his mom can't do! I'm raising all 3 boys by myself and they aren't missing out on nothing....I run ball with them, I wrestle with them, (although I do draw the line at videogames

). IMO around 6 is when a boy really needs his Daddy around so you will be fine!!!!

Missen Him · #7 08-30-2009, 09:10 PM

yep..and i hear u on the doing it all on ur own and being fine..were women..and we can do anything we set our minds too...This ish is just making me stronger by the second...And i have a little piece of my man with me eveytime i look into my baby boys eyes..The way i see it...My Man isnt dead...so i shuld be thank ful...
Nothing is ever set in stone...and he isnt doin no lifer sentence...so i shuld count my blessings..and im sure wit the speed of a boy running around...the time will go by fast

cblueiis · #8 08-30-2009, 09:11 PM

Babies are a blessing and God's promise of hope to us all. Is there anyway you can find out where he is since you are his wife? Good luck to you and keep taking pics of that precious baby boy...

Missen Him · #9 08-30-2009, 09:16 PM

i been trying to find out where he is..but by the way im not his wife..YET...just his childs mother...but even so i shuld be able to find out..he was being held at niargra county jail..and i called there they said he got transfered...i called a jail housing number..and they said they wuldnt have any info on him in kentucky yet cuz he jus got transfered...so basicaly im confused..lol they said call back in a week..so ima do that..i have his inmate number tho..so hopefully that helps??

Missen Him · #10 08-30-2009, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by cblueiis

Babies are a blessing and God's promise of hope to us all. Is there anyway you can find out where he is since you are his wife? Good luck to you and keep taking pics of that precious baby boy...

o yah by the way...babies are a blessing and a promise of hope for the future..thats why i named my son Jeremiah...'For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.".Jeremiah. 29;11.....Hope for me and his daddy...our son is a pathway for a BRIGHTER FUTURE FOR BOTH OF US!

His_D.A.B. · #11 08-30-2009, 09:33 PM

Have you tried the Locator # (202) 307-3126? I'm not sure if it would help. My man is in federal down in Manchester, KY. He went from Chicago to NewYork (1 night), to Atlanta (2 wks), and finally to Kentucky. I found him every time with that number. Sometimes they will tell you that he's in transit, which means they don't want u to know where he is for safety precautions. Oh yeah, congrats on the baby.

Missen Him · #12 08-30-2009, 09:35 PM

what u need for that locator..just his name..and id number?

smokeyswife · #13 08-30-2009, 09:37 PM

congrats on your new baby boy... do they have a inmate locator in canada... if not, then just wait until you hear from him, and send him all those pictures,.. Pictures are priceless... I know how hard it is for daddy not to be there, but as long as you take trillions of pictures and your constantly telling him what the baby is doing, he will be there. Not in person but in spirit..
When you hold the baby rather its changing, feeding, or just laying there you make sure you tell him all about daddy and show him pictures all the time.....
Hope you find him soon, so you can share everymoment with him

Missen Him · #14 08-30-2009, 09:41 PM

thanks...and yeahh i know how important pictures are..i got so many ready to send him..just trying to find him..but i guess all i can do is wait and wait till he reaches out...hes in kentucky..not canada..im in canada...the min i get that addresse to where he is...eveything will be soooooo much better...im even planning on making a trip down there to show him his new baby boy

His_D.A.B. · #15 08-30-2009, 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Missen Him

what u need for that locator..just his name..and id number?

Just his name and birthdate. His i.d number would be helpful, but they can also give you that.

Missen Him · #16 08-30-2009, 09:48 PM

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Originally Posted by His_D.A.B.

Just his name and birthdate. His i.d number would be helpful, but they can also give you that.

i have his id number...he gave it to me..its his id number for ky prisons..does that number stay wit him forever as long as he is in the system...or do they get another one

His_D.A.B. · #17 08-30-2009, 10:23 PM

My man's # only changed one time. It only changed bcuz he went from a detention center to an actual federal prison. I gave the Locator agent the I'd number I had, and she told me he had a new one. She gave it to me with no problem.

Missen Him · #18 08-30-2009, 10:27 PM

His_D.A.B. · #19 08-30-2009, 10:28 PM

Missen Him · #20 08-30-2009, 10:29 PM

hopefully it works cuz i called this vice line off the website...and they said that id number wasnt on the records..but this wuld be the first time for him bein locked back up in KY..he just got transfered back to there..and he said it might take a week to show up in the records?? so im keeping my fingers crossed

mrschris · #21 09-01-2009, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Missen Him

o yah by the way...babies are a blessing and a promise of hope for the future..thats why i named my son Jeremiah...'For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.".Jeremiah. 29;11.....Hope for me and his daddy...our son is a pathway for a BRIGHTER FUTURE FOR BOTH OF US!

oh this is just beautiful! i may name my son jeremiah just because of this.

i'm a copycat i know!

SarahAne · #22 09-02-2009, 01:31 PM

I totally hear you. My son was 2 months old when my man went in. He'll be 2 in February so he missed ALL the firsts, I don't even think he was smiling yet... maybe.

I took/take LOTS of pictures of him doing his firsts. first food. after he first rolled over, first teeth, etc. and send them to him so he can feel like he's seeing it all for the first time too. Try to catch some of it on video too so he can see it all when he gets out. I know your son is small yet but I'd show him pictures of his daddy anyway just to keep his face in his mind, I tell my kids all the time how much daddy loves them and misses them, plus he talks to them and we go visit him twice a month. He tries to talk to them about activities he'll be doing with them when he gets out, just to plant that visual in their minds of what a dad does.
My man had 2-6 and when he gets out in Dec. he'll have done about 20 months so don't let his long max date scare you too much, he just needs to behave and do EVERY PROGRAM and then some, anything that's offered to him, he should take. Is he federal or was he extradited to KY?

kenslove · #23 09-02-2009, 01:43 PM

I feel for you. I am pregnant and will have my baby alone too. I just keep concentrating on the fact that my baby will only be 18 months old when his daddy is eligible for parole... he will be too young to remember all of this. Think of it this way... you will always have a piece of your man that NO ONE can take away. Good luck to you.

SweetMichelle09 · #24 09-02-2009, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Missen Him

im so sad right now..i just put my beautiful baby boy to bed...and it saddens me so much that his daddy isnt here to experince any of his firsts with me..These are such important times...my son is only 3 weeks and he has changed and grown so much in such a short period of time..My son deserves to have a father just like he deserves to have me. but right now that is not possible..It wuldnt be so bad if i at least could write him or had an addresse to send pictures..but he just got transfered and i cant seem to find out where to..He hasnt even seen what his new born son looks like...how sad...

oh So sorry to hear that my Son is the world to me wow it must be so sad right now this is such a special time in your life right now.Take many many pictures and more pictures everyday of the baby sleeping,awake,smiling

and everything else he does maybe even record some things he does on a video.He will grow so fast but he will always be Your baby no matter how old or grownUp he is.Just stay strong!