what can I say or do for her?

[babygirlsmom]

I know Bran doesn't have the time that most of yalls children might have. We only like about 2 more months. She has been in jail since July 21st last year. She knows she has to do this because there is no choice but at the same time she is at point she thinks she can't take it anymore. She is a strong young lady. She looks at me for to be her guide. In her mind, if moma can make it then she can too. I try to always give her words of advice and tell her to keep her head up. I was just wondering if you had any advice that I can give to her. As long as mom stays strong she does too.

[Gavin123]

My son has a long way to go... I try so hard to keep him up-beat even laughing at visits. On the phone I just tell him to breathe, it'll all be ok. With 2 more months, tell her she can do this that you'll be right there with her. I try to sound reassuring all the time. Tell her how strong she is and how great it will be when she gets home. You are saying great things, maybe something is just stressing her out right now. Tell her she's come this far, only a little more to go.

I'm sorry after all that time, and close to getting out that she's having a hard time.
You both will be in my prayers {{{HUGS}}}

[babygirlsmom]

thanks that is wonderful advice. I always tell her to keep her head up we are almost there.

[TandBWolf]

Ya know, it doesn't matter how long it is, it is hard when your child is in jail/prison; period. I agree with Gavin123, point out how far she has come, to keep her head up and that you are praying for her. Just saty encouraging. You both will get through this! Hang tough!

[sleepless in Tu]

My daughter has a liitle over 2 more months to go.And she has been so strong and positive throughout this whole ordeal.All of a sudden her letters started changing a little bit.Mainly along the lines of having to deal with so much drama.One girl had not been contributing with her ice tickets and she was just handing out ice cubes to anybody.My daughter told her" we don't mind carrying you for awhile until you get some extra money for ice tickets but please don't just keep handing the ice out because then everyone who used their ice ticket is running out of ice"Simple,right? Oh my gosh what a nightmare!This girl became a witch!My daughter said "i can't beleive all of this is over frozen water!" So it seems to be little things like that,also, you can never be sure of who is your friend,so she is trying so hard to make sure everything is done perfectly so she doen't lose her good time.I've heard from the other parents that stuff such as this is common when it gets close to coming home.I try to stay positive and I send a letter at least every other day.I talk about our countdown on PTO etc. anything to show how time is moving forward.

[babygirlsmom]

I think most of it is just the wanting to come home and knowing it is coming but not fast enough. I know she is a strong young woman. Both of our girls will be just fine and we will keep each of them in our prayers.

[Ted's mom]

I think they have some anxiety about whether or not they will be OK. They have been in such a controlled environment that in many ways did not allow for any choices to be made. I think on one hand they imagine how things will be so great when they get out but they also know what they are up against - living with parents, parole, finding a job, starting from scratch financially, and for many sobriety. These are issues that can cause a lot of fear and dissappointment. They know how much they will let us all down if they fail. I know that they are excited but they also have a tremendous amount of pressure to live up to their own and everyone elses expectations.

My son told me that some people who have lots of time are just twisted enough to find amusement in messing with people who are close to getting out. He also said that your friends cover for you so you can't get in a bad situation and lose your good time right at the end. Either way though it would feel like more drama and tension.

[sleepless in Tu]

Yes Ted's Mom, your son is right those twisted people are making me so nervous !I just keep praying nothing happens.There are 3 girls that my daughter is very close to,and that helps knowing there are 3 extra pairs of eyes watching out for her.Also on the day she is to be released there are 4 other girls from their unit that are getting out on the same day.I'm hoping this takes some of the focus off of my daughter(not that I want anything to happen to the other girls!They've completed their time so they deserve their release without extra hassle too).I'm also not sendig her extra things at all anymore such as books etc.I've also cut down the amount of money I put on her books by half.Has your son mentioned anything about how sucessful these twisted people have been?(don't worry about frightening me,I'd just like to know)Do you think the COs would take this into consideration if God forbid someone decided to be cruel and plant something on her?I just pray nothing goes wrong.

[bumblebee37]

If it was my kid that only had 2 months to go I'd be . LOL
Tell your daughter to sleep threw the next few months, like a bear in winter! 2 months is a hop, skip, and a jump!

[MAMAW TIA]

Give her your love and stand beside her.And support her.She will make it in GODS name .LOVE AND PRAYERS FOR YOU BOTH,LOVE TIA

[Tracy147]

Take small steps...work towards Fridays!!! Each Friday that comes, is another week done! It will be here in no time. She will make, before she knows it, it will be here. Tell her to count her blessings, as there are many people out there that have years to go, and would give anything to only have 2 mths left. Take care....

[paigetteg]

Originally Posted by bumblebee37

If it was my kid that only had 2 months to go I'd be . LOL
Tell your daughter to sleep threw the next few months, like a bear in winter! 2 months is a hop, skip, and a jump!

I'm with you bumblebee,I would be literally jumpin for joy...I would be out my mind happy..lol

[LAKitty65]

Encourage her to stay out of the drama. I was just reading on another thread about how people inside try to mess with people on purpose when they are close to getting out. That's totally messed up. Tell her NOT to get sucked into that trap!!!!

That may be part of why she is seemingly get so anxious right at the end. She should be happy that she is almost done.

Tell her to ignore the haters, the drama queens, and to lay low. Keep her head up and it's gonna all be over in a snap. Now you're counting down actual days, not months!!! This is very exciting.