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I was thinking after my latest issue my bf very rarely says he is sorry. I am not sure, however, if that is a bad thing. He changes whatever he did that was an issue. So even though he doesn't say it, he realizes that something needs to change and acts. I was thinking I would rather have that kind of person, than the one who says "I am sorry" but never change a thing. Just a side note, I am fine with this...I know when he is sorry even though he doesn't say it..it works for us!

Does your loved one say I am sorry, and does that usually change things?
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Yes he ALWAYS says he's sorry,at some point.And yes,things do change,but not necessarily as quickly as i'd like them to!!
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Good point. Sorry means shit if you dont back it up.

J actually takes a while to come around and apologise ... but when he does I know he's being genuine and he's serious about it. So worth the wait I suppose lol
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J says he's sorry about things...usually it's how he's said something or if he feels like he's been a "selfish a$$hole" as he puts it It does help, but I also know that chances are he's going to say something the wrong way again even if he's trying not too But it's nice to know he makes the apology and the effort to change.
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He says he is sorry too quick sometimes just to get past my fussin at him.
But I keep telling him Sorry dint do it You did!
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yes, he always says he's sorry if he was wrong. and he tries to fix it.
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Boy oh boy. That man's pride. It may take a while, but when he does apologize, he really does see what he said or did wrong. And like Marcsbeth said, the change doesn't always happen as fast as I would like.

But....I'm sure he feels that way about me as well.
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It takes him a while but by the time he says it I know that he means it
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He will tell me he is sorry...and he does change what the problem was....he may fall back down the road...and then we have to go through it all over again...but he does try very hard.
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I guess in our case sorry means that he is wrong about something...and he would rather just change it than admit to someone he may be flawed..lol!!
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LOL...well that makes sense....that way he never has to actually say he messed up...LOL. Its good he changes it though...some never even do that.



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I guess in our case sorry means that he is wrong about something...and he would rather just change it than admit to someone he may be flawed..lol!!
LOL! I so totally get that. 'Cause I know that mine just hates to admit that he's flawed. I'm tellin' you, the man has an ego that is HUGE!
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LOL! I so totally get that. 'Cause I know that mine just hates to admit that he's flawed. I'm tellin' you, the man has an ego that is HUGE!
yeah, he is so freakin stubborn when it comes to these things..he will change but NEVER admit fault! Even when it is clearly his fault and we both know it! It is kind of hilarious, it must be something inbred in some men!!
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sometimes he says he's sorry, and also changes at least for a while and keeps tryin not to do or say whatever it was again --- it is not always fixed as quickly as i want it to be, but the attempt and tryin means more to me then the "im sorry" yes i do like when he says he's sorry but to me it means more that he either fixes or trys to fix the "problem" Or there is times he doesnt say sorry but does talk bout it and says what an ass he is or was being and that's his way of saying he's sorry
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He says he is sorry..he actually has no problem with saying it.

One of the most beautiful things he has ever said was..

I'm sorry....then before I had a chance to say "i forgive you" (it was in a letter but he knew i'd say it)

He said "Don't forgive me..defeat me"


I thought that was so deep..and so beautiful given the circumstances.
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Ray tells me he is sorry AND he changes whatever behavior it was that made him apologize. It wasn't always this way. Over the course of the years we have figured out what makes each other tick and how to express apologies. He doesn't need me to say I am sorry, he can tell by the look on my face, but I need me to say it when I do something wrong. We BOTH change our behavior. If I were to choose, thank God I don't, I would choose the change in behavior. Telling me he is sorry and then continuing with the same behavior leads me to believe one is truly NOT sorry and doesn't love me enough to change that behavior. JMHO
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He is not the saying sorry type of guy and neither am I. He is more of actions speak louder the words type which suits me fine. Anybody can say sorry, it does not mean they mean it.
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To him, apologizing and saying sorry are two completely different things. He will apologize, but he very rarely says he's sorry.
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