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NowHisWife · #1 07-20-2010, 08:09 PM

I was just wondering what your means of contact is with your loved one.

My means of contact:

I see him once every other week and talk to him about twice a day for 1/2 hour each time(calls are now $1.44 per call when close to 4 years ago it was $8!!!).

He writes about 3 times a week. He consistantly gets 2 letters a week from me.

I've been trying to match his 3 a week for a few weeks now.

What about you?

DannysGirl11984 · #2 07-20-2010, 08:16 PM

I write him everyday and he writes everyday. we talk on the phone once a week for thirty minutes and i visit him once a month. he calls every nite and says something different (like the little msg thing in the beginnnin) he will always say goodnight and that he loves me and stuff... but i never except the call.... you girls know what im talking about??? lol. like the part that says whos calling to except the call or not.

bssugafoot · #3 07-20-2010, 08:20 PM

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Originally Posted by LuvsParticipant

I was just wondering what your means of contact is with your loved one. Do you feel that helps or hinders your relationship?

Means of contact:

I see him once every other week and talk to him about twice a day for 1/2 hour each time. He writes about 3 times a week. He consistantly gets 2 letters a week from me.

I've been trying to match his 3 a week for a few weeks now

WHat about you?

Our means of contact in the beginning was letters and a weekly visit. The letters were and are still very crucial to our relationship and it makes it grow stronger every day! For the past month our relationship depended on letters but unfortunately the system wasn't giving him my letters because he was in R&C which causes inmates to have dead time from a week or longer until they transfer to where they will stay for the remainder of their time. However, we have upgraded now that he is in what they call his parent institution we have letters, calls, and on Friday a visit. The letters are must crucial because it keeps us informed and helps us vent and it cheers us up. I am a bit spoiled because when we was in the county jail I was getting letters almost everyday and so was he. We are a bit spread out now and I kinda hate going to the mailbox and finding nothing from him. Although I try to make sure I mail him something daily just so he can have mail call! It keeps his spirits up!

iloveyoumore · #4 07-20-2010, 08:31 PM

We talk on the phone daily. I visit every other month or so and we write letters sometimes.

NowHisWife · #5 07-20-2010, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by DannysGirl11984

I write him everyday and he writes everyday. we talk on the phone once a week for thirty minutes and i visit him once a month. he calls every nite and says something different (like the little msg thing in the beginnnin) he will always say goodnight and that he loves me and stuff... but i never except the call.... you girls know what im talking about??? lol. like the part that says whos calling to except the call or not.

Too cute! How creative!

ilikbenme · #6 07-20-2010, 08:43 PM

Me and my man don't get visits or phone calls....but we've both decided that we will not bother with them when they are allowed. Phone calls are not only expensive but would become addictive to us. Visits would be hard to deal with the "see ya"s and the emotions. We've agreed on at least one really good letter a week with random ones in between....if we feel like it. Sounds really lax but we have a long way to go and don't want the anticipation of letters to get stale....Christmas any day either of us gets one! Not to mention the occasion JPay emails I send him (he calls them his telegrams! LOL) Works for us!

NowHisWife · #7 07-20-2010, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by bssugafoot

Although I try to make sure I mail him something daily just so he can have mail call! It keeps his spirits up!

Nice!! Very important!

NowHisWife · #8 07-20-2010, 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by ilikbenme

Works for us!

Cool! If it aint broke what's there to fix??!! I love the no pressure aspect of your relationship.

FERNIESLOVE · #9 07-20-2010, 08:53 PM

Our means of contact is mainly letters i write him about 4-7 pages everyother day. He writes me 2-3 times a week. Our letters always end with "see you in my dreams" we are having our first visit this coming saturday but he doesn't know it! I'm surprising him i haven't seen him in 13 months! I'm excited!! (happy dance) lol

Fancy · #10 07-20-2010, 08:53 PM

I get a full contact picnic visit for about 6 hours every week. I could go both Sat and Sun for this...but I go once a weekend, it is 44 miles away.

No letters. He does send me a gift about once a month..birdhouses, candleholders, musicboxes....

We get to talk on the phone several times a week.

akaptrosa · #11 07-20-2010, 09:35 PM

I get a 1/2 hour visit every week.

A letter every mail day.

About 2 phone calls a week for 20 minutes.

Boomboomschick · #12 07-20-2010, 10:01 PM

A letter to me once a week but he writes his kids at least one (one for each child so 3 there) he tells each one to tell me some thing different and always tells them to give me a great big hug from him (awww he also told him that I'm here to keep their huggers working and he gave me bunches of hugs to give them while he's away...to cute especially when they say "can I get a daddy hug lol) he writes his parents my mom and my sisters at least everyother week and tells them something for me too. He calls once on the weekends to talk to the kids and one day during my lunch just for me. I'm a horriable pen pal so he gets like two really long letters a month...lol with a handful of jpays....love them being called telegrams btw

He was just accepted into this program and I get to see him Tuesday (since march) and we (kids and me) get to go up once a week and have dinner with him. He will be close to (30 minute drive instead of a 3 1/2 hour drive)
Yay me!!

SexyDiva20 · #13 07-20-2010, 10:20 PM

Seeing as that I cant afford visits or phone calls my bf and I communicate through letters only. Before I started school we were writing and recieving letters about 2 or 3 times a week. Now that Im in school I barely have enough time to sit down to write let alone send a letter off so they are down to about 2 letters every 2 weeks. He is due home (God willing) in 3 weeks so...

HisSugarPie · #14 07-20-2010, 10:25 PM

Visits are whenever I have the time, money and opportunity to schedule an appointment. I try to go minimum of once a month. I travel 4 hours, usually leaving at 3:30 in the morning for an hour long visit. Letters are a must for us. I usually get one a week and he gets anywhere from one a week to one a day. He is in a SHU unit, so no phones, no contact visits *sad*. It's been a year and eight months since I have touched my man's skin and believe me, it is something I miss.

Ronsbaby · #15 07-20-2010, 10:44 PM

my baby is in federal so we are spoiled cuz we have emails (corrlinks) so we send several everyday to each other
letters and cards (they are not so constant though cuz of the emails but i miss the hand wrote letter's and i keep tellin him tryin to get him to write me some at least here and there but then again i been slacking too for the passed cpl of months and not been handwriting as many cards or letters
phone calls are different every month it depends on how many we use at any given time --- like some days we go thru more then leaving less for other days leaving no calls for some days each month

visits every weekend again now --- he's 220miles away from where i live now, but waiting on a house to close and once i move it's going to be over 300miles but i will make the trip every weekend i try to visit 2 days (fri and sat) i do stay over nite -- if i have to go on a sat i have to leave in the middle of the nite in order to arrive early enough to use up those 2 points! fri visits are only 3hr visits

winter is going to suck cuz i dont know that i want to drive in the pa mountains or the one's in md and west virginia -- i dont like driven in that bad weather localy let alone like that's going to be!

loveslady · #16 07-21-2010, 12:19 AM

He and I talk about 3-4 times a week for 15 minutes per call, we write each other roughly 2 times a week as well, our visits are scarce as he is over 380 miles away from me. I can't put money on his books, phone, and make that trip while taking care of all my bills, and school. I saw him in may and june, and plan to see him sometime soon maybe end of august or mid september. i wish he was closer to me so we could see each other more often. he is federal so we used to have email and we would email 2-5 times a day back and forth. i really miss that but hopefully the facility he is at now will get email soon and we can talk even more.

Wes'sGirl! · #17 07-21-2010, 12:41 AM

I visit every weekend... 2 hours on fridays and saturdays. He calls three times a week 15 mins each and the calls are 5 bucks each

JTsBabyGirl · #18 07-21-2010, 09:38 AM

We see each other at least 2x's a month...sometimes more. We speak at least everyother day for 15 mins...and we write each other once a week...but those letters are usually long ones...

kag896 · #19 07-21-2010, 11:57 AM

We write several times a week though not daily. We are at about once a week visits right now but I was going to see him a couple times a week before when I was on break from school. I miss seeing him that often. We don't really talk on the phone now because it's too expensive for me right now but he has managed to call a handful of times for just a few minutes here or there.

missMBC · #20 07-21-2010, 12:10 PM

i see him on sundays and if his family bails out for whatever reasons i get to have that day...i talk to him like 3 times a week for about 20minutes and that's because I have a prepaid phone and i can't afford to put 25 dollars every other day.......i get at least 2 letters but he promises to write more...i did however just add a phone line to my house so that i could receive collect calls from him at home and it wont cost my rommie a thing....reception in my area sucks balls...good post btw

xoox
missMBC

PAN3CITO · #21 07-22-2010, 01:24 AM

My means of contact with my man have so far been letters but hopefully some day it will upgrade to phone calls &visits but i know visiting will be the hardest since he is sooo far. But i cant complain i love my letters <3 i can reread them as many times i want

bowife · #22 07-22-2010, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Ronsbaby

my baby is in federal so we are spoiled cuz we have emails (corrlinks) so we send several everyday to each other
letters and cards (they are not so constant though cuz of the emails but i miss the hand wrote letter's and i keep tellin him tryin to get him to write me some at least here and there but then again i been slacking too for the passed cpl of months and not been handwriting as many cards or letters
phone calls are different every month it depends on how many we use at any given time --- like some days we go thru more then leaving less for other days leaving no calls for some days each month

visits every weekend again now --- he's 220miles away from where i live now, but waiting on a house to close and once i move it's going to be over 300miles but i will make the trip every weekend i try to visit 2 days (fri and sat) i do stay over nite -- if i have to go on a sat i have to leave in the middle of the nite in order to arrive early enough to use up those 2 points! fri visits are only 3hr visits

winter is going to suck cuz i dont know that i want to drive in the pa mountains or the one's in md and west virginia -- i dont like driven in that bad weather localy let alone like that's going to be!

my hubby is in fed also and you are so right about corrlinks..we both are totally spoiled...we communicate very often and the phone calls are great also...Im in Atlanta and he is in SC so visits are not as often but i do try to do every other month if possible. much love and continued happiness for you and your hubby as well.

Tiny xo · #23 07-22-2010, 09:39 PM

i email him almost every night. i also write him almost every night. he writes me almost every night, as long as he has paper.

we get to talk for a half hour every day; two 15 minute phonecalls.

the last time i saw him was a month ago before he was transferred. now he's over 4 hours away. the visits there are 3 hours long so i'm hoping i get up there soon. he comes back to our home city in december but i can't wait that long to see him!