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Iamjustagirl · #1 03-27-2011, 02:58 PM

If he ever gets to the point where he can not call or email you as often as he used to, how does he act?

MIKAER · #2 03-27-2011, 03:09 PM

I have had 3 surgeries in 7 months:
1) he was in reception
2) when he was in orientation
3) when he was in lock down
Each time (up to 3 weeks of not knowing) he remains very upbeat but I can tell he is really worried...

Jillian · #3 03-27-2011, 03:22 PM

Well here they can't email, they can call, he tries to stay upbeat about things to help me especially when he knows i am very stressed, as well as i am the same when it comes to him.

deonsgirl · #4 03-27-2011, 03:36 PM

Both of our moods get really low when we can't talk on the phone.

Erics4ever · #5 03-27-2011, 03:48 PM

Yes, by day 4 he's worrying about me/I him. Our last call daily is our good night call. It doesn't feel right when we don't get that. And we are so used to emailing throughout the day, I automatically keep checking for his and still keep sending mine. His letters are longer and get to me in 2-3 days, but mine get to him in about 6, so I do Priority mail so he doesn't have to wait so long.

ifound4ever · #6 03-27-2011, 03:49 PM

Yes, he's edgy, agitated, and sarcastic at first and then he gets all mushy and emotional!

MIKAER · #7 03-27-2011, 04:21 PM

Soooo, those of you who get email, how many times a day can they call???

Erics4ever · #8 03-27-2011, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by MIKAER

Soooo, those of you who get email, how many times a day can they call???

He can call as many times as he wants (as long as he has minutes) but there has to be 30 min between calls.

LadyBlackz · #9 03-27-2011, 04:37 PM

Well he can email me all day...but since he's out of phone minutes, we been bummed and they canceled visits cuz they found someone with chicken pox. So were both kinda

right now. The emails are nice but it takes like 2-3 hours for them to get through. Sux.

MIKAER · #10 03-27-2011, 04:46 PM

Wow...........CA- 2 calls a day no email, letter go out 2 times a week! Grrrrrrrr

Jillian · #11 03-27-2011, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by LadyBlackz

Well he can email me all day...but since he's out of phone minutes, we been bummed and they canceled visits cuz they found someone with chicken pox. So were both kinda

right now. The emails are nice but it takes like 2-3 hours for them to get through. Sux.

OMG i so read this too fast, I thought you said that they found some chick with pox. lmao

Ohusillywabbit · #12 03-27-2011, 04:58 PM

Me & him both get down when he can't call, He's all mushy & just likes to shower me with affection, he won't let his mood effect our conversation he perks straight up, my voice is the best medicine

~*~His Bella~*~ · #13 03-27-2011, 05:07 PM

We haven't had to deal with this yet, but since joining the site and learning he will have no means of contact while in reception, I told him and he got very upset. I'm just trying to prepare him as best I can with what I'm learning as we've never been through this before. I'm the only person he has to call. His father won't pay for calls or visit (due to health reasons, nothing more), so our calls are a big deal. I'm very worried about his time in reception..how we will both handle no calls for an unknown time.

Randysgirl4ever · #14 03-27-2011, 05:12 PM

We are both down when he can't call and sad and worrying about each other.

MIKAER · #15 03-27-2011, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by RexSiChic

We haven't had to deal with this yet, but since joining the site and learning he will have no means of contact while in reception, I told him and he got very upset. I'm just trying to prepare him as best I can with what I'm learning as we've never been through this before. I'm the only person he has to call. His father won't pay for calls or visit (due to health reasons, nothing more), so our calls are a big deal. I'm very worried about his time in reception..how we will both handle no calls for an unknown time.

You can still visit.

~*~His Bella~*~ · #16 03-27-2011, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by MIKAER

You can still visit.

Visit in reception? I thought you couldn't?

**Snowwolf** · #17 03-27-2011, 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by RexSiChic

Visit in reception? I thought you couldn't?

From all I have read on my time here on PTO I've NEVER heard of any reception place allowing visits but I could be wrong. I wouldn't count on it tho.

And yes we both get down when he can't call. We only have maybe 2-3 calls a month as it is because of finances and those few are the highlight of my month, as well as the one or two visits IF I can make it. It's about an 8 hour ordeal to go visit him, for a 90 minute visit. Well worth it yes but with MAJOR back issues that makes sitting up for more than an hour at a time painful, you can imagine me after 8. My son has to get my wheelchair to the car to get me into the house

My Honey doesn't know how bad i get but he doesn't need to know either. Now due to gas prices, we don't even have visits. It sucks

Snowwolf

FastCarGirl · #18 03-27-2011, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Snowwolf

From all I have read on my time here on PTO I've NEVER heard of any reception place allowing visits but I could be wrong. I wouldn't count on it tho.

And yes we both get down when he can't call. We only have maybe 2-3 calls a month as it is because of finances and those few are the highlight of my month, as well as the one or two visits IF I can make it. It's about an 8 hour ordeal to go visit him, for a 90 minute visit. Well worth it yes but with MAJOR back issues that makes sitting up for more than an hour at a time painful, you can imagine me after 8. My son has to get my wheelchair to the car to get me into the house

My Honey doesn't know how bad i get but he doesn't need to know either. Now due to gas prices, we don't even have visits. It sucks

Snowwolf

They allow visits in reception in Ohio. I'm not sure if they are allowed in the first 3 day orientation, but they can get visitors based on their inmate # ....certain numbers get visits on different days of the week.

FastCarGirl · #19 03-27-2011, 05:38 PM

I get angsty when he can't call. He knows this and calls as soon as possible. So far not being able to call or write hasn't been a big issue for us, we keep in constant contact.

After his hospital trip he called me over his mom because he knew I'd be worried.

bebegrl · #20 03-27-2011, 05:54 PM

My mood changes more than his. He's in Reception so all we get are letters and sometimes those take awhile to get. You can visit them in Reception. You just have to be approved. And that takes a while.

LoveBuggy · #21 03-27-2011, 05:57 PM

We had a lot more phone calls when he was in the jail. Actually we went quite a few months without them because I just couldn't afford them. We don't have email here. We write daily and visit once a month.

It was hard getting used to less calls then no calls. Honestly you get used to it. Then you stalk the mailman.

Please be thankful for those calls and emails ladies.

Also in Virginia you can visit in reception after they get medical clearance. Not all states have no visitation in reception.

Iamjustagirl · #22 03-28-2011, 08:34 AM

It becomes a need

JenZ · #23 03-28-2011, 09:18 AM

I wish we had email . . .but we don't and we just were able to start talking last month and we have not spoken in almost 24 years. Before we were able to speak all we had was letters. . . now that we can talk on the phone . . .he gets frustrated and down if he can't "hear my voice." I have to admit that I feel the same way if I don't get to talk to him at least once a day!

He averages 2 calls per day (it gets expensive, but I can afford it right now) and more on the weekends. If I am not home for the call - he has no issues - he knows that between work, household stuff, the kids and trying to find a new home for us to live in, that I am really busy.

I guess you can say that if someone else makes it so he can't call me . . .then yeah he gets frustrated and angry. If I am not home to take the call . . . he knows I am just busy . . . he has gotten worried in the past . . .but has since gotten over it...I need to remind him that shopping with 2 young ladies can take forever! lol

Iamjustagirl · #24 03-28-2011, 09:21 AM

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Originally Posted by JenZ

I wish we had email . . .but we don't and we just were able to start talking last month and we have not spoken in almost 24 years. Before we were able to speak all we had was letters. . . now that we can talk on the phone . . .he gets frustrated and down if he can't "hear my voice." I have to admit that I feel the same way if I don't get to talk to him at least once a day!

He averages 2 calls per day (it gets expensive, but I can afford it right now) and more on the weekends. If I am not home for the call - he has no issues - he knows that between work, household stuff, the kids and trying to find a new home for us to live in, that I am really busy.

I guess you can say that if someone else makes it so he can't call me . . .then yeah he gets frustrated and angry. If I am not home to take the call . . . he knows I am just busy . . . he has gotten worried in the past . . .but has since gotten over it...I need to remind him that shopping with 2 young ladies can take forever! lol

Wow, you're about to reunite after 24 years. Good Luck to you both!!!

Tina · #25 03-28-2011, 09:25 AM

It depends on what is going on but for the most part he handles it okay. Where he gets upset is when we were all set for him to call and something prevents him from calling or me from picking up the phone. That's when I get the most upset too. Its the little things tht get to ya...