Its been a long time.My x called....

[sassynesss]

i used to be on here all the time, but i really dont even recognize the faces anymore. the good thing about pto is that I know its all love.

travis and i are over. we have been for quite some time now. the one thing I told travis since I was 16 years old is that where there is no trust, there is no love. im almost 22 now, and he still hasnt grasped that concept. he ended it, like he always did, and expected me to come crawling back, like I always did. we had a huge fight about everything he's ever done to me, and that was it.

ive since had another relationship come and go. of course, ill always love travis. he was literally my first everything. but some things are meant to be.


he called last night to ask if we can be friends, but i know travis, and i know he wants to be with me. im not exactly sure what to do. that was the first time we've talked since july. ill always love him, but I really dont want to continue going down the same path again..

thoughts?

[hischubchub]

hes an ex for a reason. thats how i see it.

[Kenneth_Lorie]

You can not keep going through all these changes with him. From what you say you two have broken up quite frequently and that its always him that breaks it off instead of trying to work things out. If you can be friends and only friends I will say go for it. Only you and your heart know if you can only be friends and not go back to him as a couple. Only you know whats in your heart.

[Snowwolf]

i really dont want to continue going down the same path again..

You said it yourself. I'm sorry your hurting, things were broken off and trust violated... if you can't trust him, what kind of relationship, even as a friend, can you have? JMHO and welcome back

Snowwolf

[LeStrange]

Keep moving on...Why look back on someone you just stated will NEVER grasp the concept of trust? Is he contributing anything positive to your life? I think not so move on.

[C.Ricks'sLadii]

I feel the same way. Its like all the things we've been thru..now we goin back to the beginner stage....Ugh..Friends.. I wud like to kno the answer as well..[quote=sassynesss;6111197]i used to be on here all the time, but i really dont even recognize the faces anymore. the good thing about pto is that I know its all love.

travis and i are over. we have been for quite some time now. the one thing I told travis since I was 16 years old is that where there is no trust, there is no love. im almost 22 now, and he still hasnt grasped that concept. he ended it, like he always did, and expected me to come crawling back, like I always did. we had a huge fight about everything he's ever done to me, and that was it.

ive since had another relationship come and go. of course, ill always love travis. he was literally my first everything. but some things are meant to be.


he called last night to ask if we can be friends, but i know travis, and i know he wants to be with me. im not exactly sure what to do. that was the first time we've talked since july. ill always love him, but I really dont want to continue going down the same path again..

thoughts?[/quote]

[Fancy]

I remember you sassyness. I used to be tennwife. Some of us are still here!

I am still hanging in there waiting on my hubby.

Wishing you much peace in your life.

[pisces317]

if i would've left my xx on good terms maybe i could'nt do the time,he rather i left now something like that,but like travis my xx was horrible nope we cant be friends,i dont even speak to my xx anymore sometimes its better to just move on instead of building false hopes that time and space will make him change,i would'nt recommend friendship with a man who's breaking up with me about anything wheneva he wakes up upset and feeling himself

[tnm8]

trust isn't built overnight and only you know if trust can be built there. my ex B and i have broken up several times throughout the years and he also wants to be friends but i told him to respect the fact that i need to get over a lot of things and not to talk to me for a while. if your guy is constantly violating your trust its a different story... if he's going to be just your friend, then its just friendly talk, right? no love duvie talks about the past etc....

[skellerton]

I guess the question is "Has this relationship done you any good? are u a better person for it? did it make you grow and learn about life/love/yourself?" If it was just one hurt after another, then I'd say it's time to distance yourself from it because you NEED to do all those things and this might be stopping you. If you think otherwise, then you probably aren't ready to leave it, and are still thinking some of this might come your way.

[mari g]

The only thing I can say is that if things were going good for u ever sense u guys broke up..why go back to the same story. ...if u keep it as friends with him things mite get out of hand. ..