For wives of the drug addicted!!

[Jendee]

It is possible for them to clean up!! Is very rare..but it can happen. When I met my husband he had been using meth or coke what ever was around for 20 yrs...he now has 8 yrs clean, been working at the same place for 6 yrs and h just bought his fist house!! He did it without rehab :/ we just moved a few states away. Coming from in and out of prison living in the tunnels of el cajon with nothing but his Pipe. It amazes me everyday!!

My previous BF also he father of my first 2 childern was also an addicted and he is still using and now on the run from parole, he has lost everything and it saddens me to see him still doing it

sooo my point is you never know..its up too you to decide if the risk is worth it

and btw there is no meth in this part of Texas!! Nothing but sober people such a change from San Diego I love it!!!

[Tommy2tone]

It goes both ways my wife went to prison for drugs, and yes I have a resentment about being left to care for two girls, both had drug problems and I'm out of answers, so make the best of your life and do the best you can but really it's not any different for the men with gfs that are just as addicted, the single dad is just stuggling to make it work as the woman. I do hope you find the new area a positive change.

[sbdalton]

Originally Posted by Jendee

It is possible for them to clean up!! Is very rare..but it can happen. When I met my husband he had been using meth or coke what ever was around for 20 yrs...he now has 8 yrs clean, been working at the same place for 6 yrs and h just bought his fist house!! He did it without rehab :/ we just moved a few states away. Coming from in and out of prison living in the tunnels of el cajon with nothing but his Pipe. It amazes me everyday!!

My previous BF also he father of my first 2 childern was also an addicted and he is still using and now on the run from parole, he has lost everything and it saddens me to see him still doing it

sooo my point is you never know..its up too you to decide if the risk is worth it

and btw there is no meth in this part of Texas!! Nothing but sober people such a change from San Diego I love it!!!

Don't know what part of Texas you are in, but Meth is rampant throughout Texas.

[GuerosMama]

I am not his wife but we are in a serious relationship. He was on Meth when he got locked up, and was clean for awhile but I am almost positive he has relapsed. I know its in his power to change and its up to him. I know an ultimatum wont make him quit and I know he needs support to help.him- but I don't know how. He doesn't want to be open with ne about using because he's afraid ill leave- but I want him to be open about it because I want to help him get the resources he needs but he just doesn't seem ready. Is it naive to stay with him kknowing he is an addict? I know full well I can't "love him sober" and I know it will be hard...but I really love him and I feel that leaving him won't help with him getting clean. Idk I guess my question is that I'm going off an assumption that he is using again, and if he is what can I do for him and for myself to give us both the tools we need to try and fight this?