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buttapecan · #1 07-15-2011, 11:13 PM

Hi, I'm new to this site. My man is a lifer, meet him through a family member. Been talking for like two months. This whole experience is new to me. . I'm in my late 20's, we really like each other but sometimes i second guess myself because he has life without the possibility of parole but he's still fighting it. Is anybody else in this situation?

TnT102012 · #2 07-16-2011, 12:15 AM

Hi there... I am not nearly as young as you are, but yes, this is a whole new situation for me, as well. We have been a couple for about 6 weeks. It certainly isnt the ideal situation, is it?

I would never have thought that this was how we would be together after all the years apart...but, I love him so if this is the way it has to be, so be it.
PTO is a great place to find answers to questions and support when you need it. A voice of reason when you think you are losing your mind or just a place to vent. I've been here just a few weeks and am amazed every day by the strength of the posters here.

JKB's Girl · #3 07-16-2011, 07:13 AM

I have known my man since I was 15, he went in when I was nearly 17, and it was too much reality for me then. It took me 26 years later to re-enter his life, but by then I was in my mid 40's, had done the marriage thing, had children, had an opportunity to do the things that most women do. Had I tried to stay with him from the beginning, I don't think it would have worked. We don't have family visits here, so I think not having the opportunity for sex (hell, I still have a problem with this now, lol), not being able to have his children, well.......it would have been too much to ask of me then. Everything that comes with this walk now is almost too much now and I am 50 years old.

All I'm saying is to think long and hard before committing to this relationship with him.......you truly have no idea yet what it entails.......while it is very rewarding in its way, it is also very heartbreaking.

buttapecan · #4 07-16-2011, 09:00 AM

Thanks for the advice! I'm done having kids from a previous long-term relationship that didnt work. So I lived my life at a young age. I guess I will take it slow and see where it goes but I really like him. Glad to know Im not the only one in this situation..... Im loving this site already.