Intro--Shelly029 from Ohio

[Shelly029]

Hi Everyone,

My son just went to FCI Elkton in Ohio last Tuesday. It was a week before I heard from him. Finally I got a letter stating that he was in the "Special Housing Unit" - the hole. He said he would probably be there for 2 weeks. His sentence is for 12 months and he was a self surrender. It is so difficult not being able to communicate with him. I have been writing him everyday but have just received one letter from he said he had to borrow a stamp. He was on presciption medicine when he went in and they took him off his meds. I am not sure if everyone has to go into SPH when they get there or it is because he was withdrawing. It is hard for me to know that my son is in a room for 23 hours a day, 5 days a week and then all weekend they do not get out all all. I am going crazy not knowing if he is ok. When I call they do not tell you anything.

[Johnos_girl]

Originally Posted by Shelly029

Hi Everyone,

My son just went to FCI Elkton in Ohio last Tuesday. It was a week before I heard from him. Finally I got a letter stating that he was in the "Special Housing Unit" - the hole. He said he would probably be there for 2 weeks. His sentence is for 12 months and he was a self surrender. It is so difficult not being able to communicate with him. I have been writing him everyday but have just received one letter from he said he had to borrow a stamp. He was on presciption medicine when he went in and they took him off his meds. I am not sure if everyone has to go into SPH when they get there or it is because he was withdrawing. It is hard for me to know that my son is in a room for 23 hours a day, 5 days a week and then all weekend they do not get out all all. I am going crazy not knowing if he is ok. When I call they do not tell you anything.

That sounds really rough. I didnt realise they could not give the meds. That could cause more problens I would think? Im from new zealand so dont know how it is there. But I welcome you to p.t.o and I hope things improve for you and your son soon.

J.G

[Shelly029]

Hi Johnos Girl,

Thank you for your support. I think once he is out of the SHU it will be alot better for him, and I will feel better too being able to communicate with him and see him. I knew it would not be easy buy I never expected it to be like this.

[addictsmom]

Hello and welcome to PTO. We are so glad you have joined. Look around and make yourself at home. If you need any help navigating the site, just holler and someone is always here to help! Also go to the main forum page and check out the Parents with Children in Prison forum. I am a mom too and it is a great place for us moms to support each other with out kids.

Diane

[Shelly029]

Hi Diane,

Thanks so much, I will check out that forum. I new it would be difficult but not this difficult.

[survivingainteasy]

Welcome!!! I am new here son just went in 6 days ago and I have found many here that are so full of compassion and have kept me sane (as well as one can be) You will find great comfort and knowledge here. Im only 6 days into the sentence and today is my first day that i didnt feel just worthless. It is hard, but it will get better... Prayers to you and your son....

Originally Posted by Shelly029

Hi Everyone,

My son just went to FCI Elkton in Ohio last Tuesday. It was a week before I heard from him. Finally I got a letter stating that he was in the "Special Housing Unit" - the hole. He said he would probably be there for 2 weeks. His sentence is for 12 months and he was a self surrender. It is so difficult not being able to communicate with him. I have been writing him everyday but have just received one letter from he said he had to borrow a stamp. He was on presciption medicine when he went in and they took him off his meds. I am not sure if everyone has to go into SPH when they get there or it is because he was withdrawing. It is hard for me to know that my son is in a room for 23 hours a day, 5 days a week and then all weekend they do not get out all all. I am going crazy not knowing if he is ok. When I call they do not tell you anything.

[Shelly029]

survivingainteasy,

I am so glad I found this site, thank you for your support and I will be praying for you and your son also.

[ckelly518]

Originally Posted by Shelly029

Hi Everyone,

My son just went to FCI Elkton in Ohio last Tuesday. It was a week before I heard from him. Finally I got a letter stating that he was in the "Special Housing Unit" - the hole. He said he would probably be there for 2 weeks. His sentence is for 12 months and he was a self surrender. It is so difficult not being able to communicate with him. I have been writing him everyday but have just received one letter from he said he had to borrow a stamp. He was on presciption medicine when he went in and they took him off his meds. I am not sure if everyone has to go into SPH when they get there or it is because he was withdrawing. It is hard for me to know that my son is in a room for 23 hours a day, 5 days a week and then all weekend they do not get out all all. I am going crazy not knowing if he is ok. When I call they do not tell you anything.

Hi Shelly my fiancee is locked up in a ohio prison as well unfortunately when the first are incarerated they go through a whole orintation process and they have 2 wait 2 get a phone pin and they basically observe the prisoners to see their needs and eventually decide what parent prison will benefit them. I also was going crazy and writing him evryday but it sometimes takes awhile for the mailroom 2 give them their mail and 2 send ours out the first few weeks are the hardest and like u the guards wouldnt give me any info regarding him they kept saying write a letter which i had but he didnt have any money on his books yet and he to had to borrow paper a pen and envelope to write me so sad. Hang in there it gets better once he gets settled in im praying for you and ur son.

[Shelly029]

ckelly,

Thanks so much for your support and prayers. It really helps to know that it is not uncommon to experience these things, you just feel so helpless and frustrated not to be able to find out or know anything about your loved ones.
Prayers to you and your fiance. In the one letter I received he said he had to be there 2 weeks so I am praying he will be out of there anyday and be able to communicate with me.

[DP'sMom]

Hello Shelly,

I am new myself just joined today, but when my son was beat unconscious and taken to the hospital last week, I called and spoke with a woman, remembered to ask her name and used it when speaking with her, and cried to her, looked it worked I got answers. No it was not just a tactic just I realized I appealed to her most likely being a Mom herself. But then again, as a Mom, I will do what ever it takes!

I have had training in dealing with the public, when calling anywhere for any reason. Use the person's name, it makes it more personal for them, and always use respect, and remember you get more flies with honey then you do salt. And I did start crying because I could not control it.

God Bless,

[ckelly518]

Originally Posted by Shelly029

ckelly,

Thanks so much for your support and prayers. It really helps to know that it is not uncommon to experience these things, you just feel so helpless and frustrated not to be able to find out or know anything about your loved ones.
Prayers to you and your fiance. In the one letter I received he said he had to be there 2 weeks so I am praying he will be out of there anyday and be able to communicate with me.

Your are so welcome stay strong because he will lean on you alot but make sure you take care of you as well so if you ever need to vent or someone to listen im here. Im no expert but its a hard process you have good days sometimes I can make it days without crying then sometimes I cant stop and you know what its ok sometimes Im angry at him for even getting hiself in this mess but its all apart of the process take care and once he gets settled it gets much easier.Oh its really helpful to go to saveonprisoncalls.com and signup the calls are 91 cent a minute and it helps they give you a 15 day free trial to make sure it works on your phone good luck

[lin787]

Welcome to PTO, we are all in the same place, helping each other get through it all. Im a recent Ohio transplant to Fl.

[Shelly029]

Originally Posted by DP'sMom

Hello Shelly,

I am new myself just joined today, but when my son was beat unconscious and taken to the hospital last week, I called and spoke with a woman, remembered to ask her name and used it when speaking with her, and cried to her, looked it worked I got answers. No it was not just a tactic just I realized I appealed to her most likely being a Mom herself. But then again, as a Mom, I will do what ever it takes!

I have had training in dealing with the public, when calling anywhere for any reason. Use the person's name, it makes it more personal for them, and always use respect, and remember you get more flies with honey then you do salt. And I did start crying because I could not control it.

God Bless,

Hi Trisha,
I am so sorry about what happened to your son. I hope he is doing alright, that had to have been terrifying. Thanks for the advice. It is so hard not to know what is going on. Prayers for you and your son.

[Shelly029]

Originally Posted by ckelly518

Your are so welcome stay strong because he will lean on you alot but make sure you take care of you as well so if you ever need to vent or someone to listen im here. Im no expert but its a hard process you have good days sometimes I can make it days without crying then sometimes I cant stop and you know what its ok sometimes Im angry at him for even getting hiself in this mess but its all apart of the process take care and once he gets settled it gets much easier.Oh its really helpful to go to saveonprisoncalls.com and signup the calls are 91 cent a minute and it helps they give you a 15 day free trial to make sure it works on your phone good luck

Thank you, that is so nice of you. You are right I do need to take care of myself, I also have a 10 year old son who needs me. Once he gets out of the hole and I can communicate I will feel so much better. I didn't think it was going to be this hard. If you need someone to talk to I am here for you too. Thanks I will checkout the website for prison calls. I am so glad I found this forum, everyone has been so helpful.

[closer2mydreamz]

Welcome to PTO, glad to have you join us.