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america<3 · #1 10-07-2011, 02:05 PM

today is my boyfriends birthday! he is 22 years old now. my god

he has 2 more years to go. he will be 24 when he gets out and i will be 20.
i hate that i cant spend his birthday with him or mine. its upsetting. i have been talking to his family all day and they are kinda helping.

how do you deal with his birthdays and yours?

Heliba · #2 10-07-2011, 02:09 PM

I spent his birthday trying to figure where the hell he had disappeared to!! It wasn't until 2 days later that I found out he was in jail! :0

america<3 · #3 10-07-2011, 02:11 PM

That sucks.
He went to jail the day after my birthday. And is now in prison. I just got his new address from his mom and when I send his a letter it will be my first one.

Angeleyezob · #4 10-07-2011, 02:17 PM

He had his 23rd birthday two days ago. The first since he left and we havn't even hit my birthday yet. I sent him a card and told him how much I wished I could celebrate with him. Then I described what we would have done if he would have been home. Just send your love and tell him that you are thinking about him. It was a rough day but its just one more thing to check off the calendar. Only 2 more of his birthdays until he is home.

america<3 · #5 10-07-2011, 02:32 PM

Yeah I got 2 more of his and 2 more of mine without him. I'm hoping I will get to visit him on some of them.
I'm planning a trip to Vegas to visit his siblings hope that will help me out some.

Me&myCutiePie · #6 10-07-2011, 03:14 PM

Happy birthday too him

My mans 26th birthday was last week I hate being away from him especially da birthdays & holidays

FastCarGirl · #7 10-07-2011, 04:21 PM

Happy birthday to your honey. Frankie's birthday is Oct 15th. He'll be 31. He's been down since he was 26. For my birthday, I went to the movies, something I love to do. For his birthday, I'm ordering him a food box, and got him a bunch of stuff that I'm going to mail out next week (although he's not allowed to open it until Saturday). And I got him some more western books that he likes. So he should feel pretty spoiled for his special day.

america<3 · #8 10-07-2011, 04:40 PM

Oh i dont know what I'm going to do on the holidays.

zzSuezz · #9 10-07-2011, 04:55 PM

My honey's birthday is in November. If all goes as it's supposed to, he will get a furlough the day after his birthday...fingers crossed. Happy Birthday to your honey!

america<3 · #10 10-07-2011, 04:57 PM

I was hoping to get my letter and pictures to him by his birthday but that didn't happen to I hope I can do it early next week.

Camsbabygrl · #11 10-07-2011, 07:54 PM

His 23rd bday was in aug & my 23rd was in sept so it has been pretty rough but even though it sucks I just sent him some sexy pictures and a sweet card and he sent me a card. Its doesn't sound like much but that card is the best thing I got for my bday! But I am dreading christmas cuz even tho hes only been in for 2 yrs on this bid this will be the 6th christmas in a row hes been locked up. Me and his mom have a bad day on cgristmas every year. Im so excited that he will be home next year for it! It will be the best holiday ever to have him home. Thats what I'm asking santa for lol

Heliba · #12 10-07-2011, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by america<3

today is my boyfriends birthday! he is 22 years old now. my god

he has 2 more years to go. he will be 24 when he gets out and i will be 20.
i hate that i cant spend his birthday with him or mine. its upsetting. i have been talking to his family all day and they are kinda helping.

how do you deal with his birthdays and yours?

Sorry - I forgot to say in my earlier post -- Happy Birthday to him!

MnNice · #13 10-07-2011, 09:34 PM

my hubbys 23rd birthday is coming up on the 28th of this month, and he has one more in there, my birthday was in june but we were in a huge fight, i got 2 more birthdays while he is in there, but i plan on surprising him with a visit since its on a Friday!
hang in there

futureperry · #14 10-07-2011, 09:46 PM

My babe's birthday is today too!! He turned 26, this is his(our) 6th bday of him being in... They never get easier

I budgeted enough on the phone for him to call whenever he wanted to (within reason- he says if it was up to him he would only get off the phone for counts LoL) we had "adult" calls whenever he wanted... Our son and I had birthday cupcakes for breakfast in honor of him.. And when he called in the morning (as he always does to wish our son a good day at school) we yelled HAPPY BIRTHDAY instead of hello LoL (he really liked that) I also sent "adult" pictures with icing and cupcakes

for him... Our son wrote a happy birthday note and drew pictures for him and we made a card from online that allowed us to upload our pictures and write what we wanted on to it; mailed it in time for him to receive it today.. I also wrote a super long letter to him explaining what he means to us, how we couldn't bare to be without him, how excited we r to finally spend his day with him (2 to 5 more bdays til then) told him that once I don't have restrictions on what I can send or do for him that he will feel as special as he truly is to me... I told him all week that I wish I could do more and that I feel really lame for not being able to... He said that talking to me whenever he wanted on his day and knowing we love him is perfect enough... I still wish I could do more tho LoL

We have our arguments, for a lot of petty reasons, but at the end of the day we love each other and that will never change... He's my jerk and im his brat LoL and as long as he knows that.. Then that's what matters..

A birthday and holidays are truly difficult to celebrate, when one is on the inside.. But take it as: ways to be more creative in how to show them how important they are to you.. It also allows one to prepare for when they come home and how many ways it may be celebrated.. At least, that's how it is for us

I hope ur man had a happy birthday, as happy as it could be...

ImzadiValentine · #15 10-07-2011, 10:00 PM

My husband turned 27 yesterday. He won't get out until just after he turns 28. He will never be 27 and free.

america<3 · #16 10-08-2011, 01:53 AM

His birthday was hard but I got through it without crying. I haven't got any phone or visitation approved yet. He just move last month and I just got his address last week. My week has been extremely busy so I wasn't able to get him a letter this week but I'm hoping I have time next week to send one and some pictures.
I don't know how holidays will be. This will be my first year during holidays that I'm not able to talk to him or spend them with him.

futureperry · #17 10-08-2011, 12:03 PM

Keep your chin up hun... Stay strong.. If u ever need anyone to vent to or just talk, u can pm me

queenlynch · #18 10-08-2011, 12:50 PM

It's hard, no doubt, to keep smiling when you just wanna spend time with the one you love on a day that means so much to the both of you. My man's birthday was September 18th. I smiled that whole day, but there were tears behind the smiles at times. It happened to fall on a Sunday which was the only day in the week my man was able to use the phone, so we got to talk at least.
I know two years is a long time to be waiting on something to happen, but if you wanna be there when he gets out don't focus on the length of time remaining. It works for me to look at things in a different light. I tell myself that 3 years (probably how long I'll be having to wait) is only 36 months. Months are only 30 days long and it don't take long for one of those to go by. I can take it one step at a time then instead of trying to stomach the whole thing at once.
And, besides, my man does not want me feeling sad about the time he has to do. It cannot be changed, and we have a rule in our kingdom: things not under our control will not destroy our hearts. Things we can control we will take pride in doing our best at! It lofty, but it's amazing what can be done when you set your mind to it!
Don't let your head beat up your heart, babygirl. Smile. Keep holding your head up, knowing this too shall pass. :hugs:

america<3 · #19 10-08-2011, 01:51 PM

Thanks futureperry and queenlynch. It's been hard. I try to take each day for it is but I spend everyday alone and every night alone. So I have way to much time to think about things and it gets to me.

queenlynch · #20 10-08-2011, 08:50 PM

Your welcome, sweetness.

futureperry · #21 10-08-2011, 09:24 PM

Anytime

revolm2008 · #22 10-08-2011, 10:12 PM

His 24th birthday is in November and I'll be 22 October 17th, this will be our first birthday not together in 3 years! ;( I miss him like crazy on an ordinary day, I can only imagine what birthdays and holidays will be like. God bless my inmate!!!!!!!

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kclynn · #23 10-08-2011, 10:16 PM

UGH my man's birthday is on the 18th Omg its going to be miserable with him not here also for the children's birthdays and on top of that the holidays ugh

jennyg · #24 10-09-2011, 08:19 AM

My man's bday was on 10-7-11 also he just turned 20 and its his 3rd birthday in. I visited him the day after which was yesterday lol and mailed him pics and a sweet card he loved