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Maya2007 · #1 12-03-2011, 08:59 PM

We met and hooked up in 2007 and invested my time and energy with him while he was locked up. We were MWI. He got out toward the end of 2009 and lived with me for 6 months before I kicked him to the curb in May 2010. His true color came out. He is a drug and alcohol addict and an abuser. I have not seen him since May 2010. I did talk to him from time to time til February this year. Then, I completely stopped communicating with him. He is 5 hour away from me and he showed up for a court date. I was all fine til he showed up on my doorstep with his girlfriend in the car. Never met the girl nor did I want to. He stayed for 10-15 minutes and left. And showed up again a month after that and stayed for like 1 or 2 minutes used my bathroom and asked for a syringe and left because she is diabetic. I don't beleive him, I think he is using it to get high. I thought about taking a 5 hour trip to visit him, to talk to him for one last time in hope to get the help he needs. He called on Nov 27th after not calling all this time and said he and the girl broke up and asked me for money. He told him NO! I text him and told him not to contact me ever again and that we cannot be friends. That is the last I heard from him.

Like I said, I was fine til I saw him. It sparked my feelings for him again. When he came the first time, he gave me a really long good hard hug and told me he missed me several times. All this while his girl was in the car. I found out her full name and she is 26 years old!!! He will be 45 next week. ARGH!!! Why did he bother coming to my home? This is driving me insane.

will_be_waiting · #2 12-03-2011, 09:12 PM

Why did you bother letting him in your home again to begin with? If he's inside giving you a long, hard hug, all the meanwhile his GF is outside, what makes ya think he's not gonna do the same thing to you with someone else?

RaeNicole · #3 12-03-2011, 09:15 PM

Girl, he doesn't even sound as though he is worth your mental energy.

Exceptions2313 · #4 12-03-2011, 09:17 PM

Hello

Sorry you are going through it.

Not really knowing him its hard to say why he was there. The prior time when he came for his diabetic gf most likely was bs. What diabetic travels around without their kit...I think you already know what that was about.

It def makes it harder when you actually see him I am sure. Its easy to tell someone you are done and never speaking to them and hangup. When they are right there in your face, well I can't imagine that being too easy to deal with. Especially if you still got love for him (which it sounds you do naturally) Only he knows what his reasoning behind coming to your house is. Sometimes people don't realize what they have until its really gone and gone for good. He may be realizing just that...or totally opposite, he may be trying to slide his way back in so he can get what he wants from you. You say he is an abuser and an addict. Addicts are excellent at the game. Just be careful

Good luck

Lisa

GoodBI_girl · #5 12-03-2011, 09:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Maya2007

We met and hooked up in 2007 and invested my time and energy with him while he was locked up. We were MWI. He got out toward the end of 2009 and lived with me for 6 months before I kicked him to the curb in May 2010. His true color came out. He is a drug and alcohol addict and an abuser. I have not seen him since May 2010. I did talk to him from time to time til February this year. Then, I completely stopped communicating with him. He is 5 hour away from me and he showed up for a court date. I was all fine til he showed up on my doorstep with his girlfriend in the car. Never met the girl nor did I want to. He stayed for 10-15 minutes and left. And showed up again a month after that and stayed for like 1 or 2 minutes used my bathroom and asked for a syringe and left because she is diabetic. I don't beleive him, I think he is using it to get high. I thought about taking a 5 hour trip to visit him, to talk to him for one last time in hope to get the help he needs. He called on Nov 27th after not calling all this time and said he and the girl broke up and asked me for money. He told him NO! I text him and told him not to contact me ever again and that we cannot be friends. That is the last I heard from him.

Like I said, I was fine til I saw him. It sparked my feelings for him again. When he came the first time, he gave me a really long good hard hug and told me he missed me several times. All this while his girl was in the car. I found out her full name and she is 26 years old!!! He will be 45 next week. ARGH!!! Why did he bother coming to my home? This is driving me insane.

I don't mean to make a joke but do you have the only clean restroom in town? Are you a PharmD and have a stock of syringes in your home? He is just a mean person, why else would he have the nerve to show up at your home and then inconvenience further by asking "favors"? Diabetics generally carry their own supplies and some use the new preloaded pens to avoid the need for syringe and insulin.

NikNak88 · #6 12-03-2011, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by EM_KAT

I don't mean to make a joke but do you have the only clean restroom in town? Are you a PharmD and have a stock of syringes in your home? He is just a mean person, why else would he have the nerve to show up at your home and then inconvenience further by asking "favors"? Diabetics generally carry their own supplies and some use the new preloaded pens to avoid the need for syringe and insulin.

Kinda what I was thinking also...and why in the world would you give a know addict a syringe?? If she truly is diabetic she would 1. Carry her own supplies 2. Could go to the nearest pharmacy and get some if she was out and 3. You don't know her from Sam I Am so why worry about her medical condition? Don't give HIM a syringe under the pretense "it's for my diabetic girlfriend".

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bumblebee37 · #7 12-03-2011, 09:49 PM

Just guessing here but maybe because he is 1) a drug addict 2) thinking maybe you might give up a syringe or maybe some money 3) maybe just a tad bit of a dickhead...

nimuay · #8 12-03-2011, 10:23 PM

quick answer - thoughtless and selfish. You don't need to know any more.

Maya2007 · #9 12-03-2011, 10:29 PM

I am a diabetic myself is the reason I have a syringe. I just want to make that clear. Why did I give it to him? Basically because I don't have proof that she's not. I know dumb!

You guys basically confirmed what I thought about him. I actually thought it was very inconsiderate for him to even bring his girlfriend to my home.

NikNak88 · #10 12-03-2011, 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Maya2007

I am a diabetic myself is the reason I have a syringe. I just want to make that clear. Why did I give it to him? Basically because I don't have proof that she's not. I know dumb!

You guys basically confirmed what I thought about him. I actually thought it was very inconsiderate for him to even bring his girlfriend to my home.

I kinda figured you were a diabetic....so no worries there

And yes....it was very inconsiderate for him to bring ANYONE you don't know to your home. Especially the new gf.

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**LeBeau** · #11 12-03-2011, 11:01 PM

If she's diabetic, she can go to a damn pharmacy and get supplies- don't let him near you again.

esteli · #12 12-04-2011, 09:07 AM

You know Maya, you may have feelings for this guy and a soft spot for him. Obviously he knows it and is using you to get what he wants.

He is disconnected from you. He doesn't feel for you. His hug is only to manipulate you. You also have to consider that serious harm may come to you if one day this drug addict needs money, food, shelter, basics and your name is in his head as a person to go to for these things.

Get away from him, don't let him believe you are an easy go to person for basics or supplies. Be careful proceed with caution. This type is more dangerous than you think.

CoNpal · #13 12-04-2011, 05:54 PM

Your ex brought his girlfriend to your home because he is a self absorbed, using jackass. No matter how hard, you must be strong and not give this man another moment of your attention, time, love or money.

skellerton · #14 12-04-2011, 06:26 PM

He is using your hurt feelings to inflate his own ego. He's probably about a mile high right now just thinking that TWO women are falling all over themselves to be with him! He's a jackass, not a stud .... and that should help you put a cap on anything you felt for this guy, because he's lower than whaleshyte.

Geauxin'KraZee · #15 12-11-2011, 07:18 AM

Wow ! What an ass wipe this dude is ! Honey, next time he comes a knocking'- just call the 5-0 ! Don't even open the door !

He's Home 2011 · #16 12-12-2011, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by will_be_waiting

Why did you bother letting him in your home again to begin with? If he's inside giving you a long, hard hug, all the meanwhile his GF is outside, what makes ya think he's not gonna do the same thing to you with someone else?

i am thinking the same Thing.

he is not at all worth it......

your better off,and i would have never let his sorry culo in period.

nanna linda · #17 12-12-2011, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Maya2007

We met and hooked up in 2007 and invested my time and energy with him while he was locked up. We were MWI. He got out toward the end of 2009 and lived with me for 6 months before I kicked him to the curb in May 2010. His true color came out. He is a drug and alcohol addict and an abuser. I have not seen him since May 2010. I did talk to him from time to time til February this year. Then, I completely stopped communicating with him. He is 5 hour away from me and he showed up for a court date. I was all fine til he showed up on my doorstep with his girlfriend in the car. Never met the girl nor did I want to. He stayed for 10-15 minutes and left. And showed up again a month after that and stayed for like 1 or 2 minutes used my bathroom and asked for a syringe and left because she is diabetic. I don't beleive him, I think he is using it to get high. I thought about taking a 5 hour trip to visit him, to talk to him for one last time in hope to get the help he needs. He called on Nov 27th after not calling all this time and said he and the girl broke up and asked me for money. He told him NO! I text him and told him not to contact me ever again and that we cannot be friends. That is the last I heard from him.

Like I said, I was fine til I saw him. It sparked my feelings for him again. When he came the first time, he gave me a really long good hard hug and told me he missed me several times. All this while his girl was in the car. I found out her full name and she is 26 years old!!! He will be 45 next week. ARGH!!! Why did he bother coming to my home? This is driving me insane.

Hi

I wouldnt worry so much about him bringing his girlfriend to your place, i would just be glad he is out of your life, by seeing his girlfriend maybe should have showed you he had no respect for you or your feelings after all the support you have given him.
Allow yourself now to move on with a very hard lesson learned, and take that wisdom and knowledge with you into the future so you know the kind of person to stay away from or let into your life, as we are totally responsible for who we bring into our lives as a potential partner,and for our lessons in life, we cannot save people, we can only help not carry, the rest is up to them, he can change by choice or stay the same by choice these are his lessons to learn not yours.
The future has much to offer you yet, in the way of better happier more exciting and positive times so let yourself receive what you are deserving of in the way of a loving secure r/ship.
Good luck you will be fine always honour yourself and your truth it will be and is your greatest guide in life.
Nanna linda.

DP's Girl · #18 12-12-2011, 05:19 PM

The most important thing you can do is love yourself. The next thing is to be honest with yourself. If you love yourself you won't allow someone to treat you anyway they choose. If you're honest with yourself you'll admit your reason for wanting to drive 5 hours is not to get him the help he needs and talk to him one last time. He hasn't called you since nov 27 when you told him not to. Leave well enough alone. Don't lie to yourself and believe he really loves and misses you. If he loved and missed you he would not have brought another woman to your home, used you for supplies, and called you only to ask for money. I understand loving someone who isn't good for you, most of us have been there but you have to love you more. Treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated and others will have no choice but to do the same.

Humuma · #19 12-13-2011, 11:17 PM

As a recovering IV drug user let me just state. An addict is thinking to use regardless. You are not stopping yhem from using by refusing to give a clean syringe. I understand not wanting to contribute to a drug habit, but by you giving him a clean rig you kept him from using a dirty used needle, and possibly from getting transmitted something. 85% of needle users have HepC .. i do not think god, because pharmacies where in at don't question syringe purchases. There's ever a clean needle exchange program.