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LacyDusty'sWife · #1 12-15-2011, 10:59 PM

First off my parents hate my husband even before we got married!! This is his second bid in two years and they don't like that IV stuck by his side!! Well my hubby is about 4 days from comeing home so my parents sat me down and had a talk that I knew was comeing...... well basically they offerd to pay for my husband and I to go to counciling WTF!!!

Msquiroz · #2 12-15-2011, 11:29 PM

Wtf!!! Wow, tell them to butt out of yalls relationship!!! thats wat I tell my family... tell them...hell no you won't go to counseling

FluffyMcNutter · #3 12-15-2011, 11:33 PM

why are you upset about their offer? Is it because they don't like him? Is it because you think they're saying there's something wrong with your marriage?

It seems to me that if they are offering to pay for marriage counseling, then you can use this to strengthen your relationship. Just make sure you and your husband get to pick the therapist.

LacyDusty'sWife · #4 12-15-2011, 11:45 PM

I'm not mad exactly just supprised I guess!! I mean no doubt it would do us some good but I don't know exactly what the reasoning behind them offering it!!! Kinda confused!!!!

FluffyMcNutter · #5 12-15-2011, 11:59 PM

My guess is that their thinking is that maybe some counseling might mean he will think twice about doing whatever it is he's doing that gets him locked up. Or maybe they've accepted the fact that you're not leaving him any time soon, and so they want to make sure you're in as good of a relationship as possible. Or maybe they think a therapist will have the same opinion they do and that you just might actually listen to a neutral 3rd party. Who knows. Their motivation doesn't really matter as long as you and your husband get to make sure that you're working with a therapist you both like.

If you two go and it helps strengthen your relationship, then you can give your parents a big, genuine smile and say, "Thank you." If their offer is coming from a genuine place, then they'll be happy. If it's from a manipulative one, then it will come back to bite them in the butt. Win-win situation

MTJen1130 · #6 12-16-2011, 12:20 AM

Why do they think you need counseling? What did he go to prison for? Is there is a history of domestic abuse? Honestly, I don't know a couple that couldn't use some counseling (myself included). It sounds like a loving gesture to me.

countryzgirl · #7 12-16-2011, 01:09 AM

I think it's a cool offer. Counseling can be wonderful in the right circumstances. It can't hurt to check it out, right? If you don't dig it, you can always choose not to continue. I say give it a go. At least then your parents can't say you didn't try.

Tina Bee · #8 12-16-2011, 01:53 AM

My husband and I did marriage counseling by choice. It was an ok experience, not the worst. You just have to find a counselor who's on the same level as you two. I wish someone had offered to pay for our marriage counseling sessions. Take them up on the offer. It can only help, not hurt as long as you tell your husband where you two are going beforehand.

thatwiz · #9 12-16-2011, 09:12 AM

It's a wonderful idea. I think both of you may gain some insights from it. He's obviously had some problems being locked up twice in a short period-it probably will benefit him greatly as its obvious he has some sort of issues. Prison doesn't address anything and it won't hurt him and you might as well be a part of it.

BFAV4EVER · #10 12-16-2011, 10:34 AM

I can see where your family is coming from, my family is now on the fence about B, so I am suggesting counseling for the two of us. For him to work out his issues of the past, for me to work out trust issues (I've always had) and for us to work out our future. It might be what you both need to heal from the bids in prison, give you an open forum with a neutral 3rd party to talk through all the emotions YOU'VE had and the worries HE has/had.

I hope it works for you both and makes you even stronger! AWESOME that he is coming home so soon!!! YAY for you!
Happy Holidays!

heartbreak · #11 12-16-2011, 01:08 PM

Hell I wish someone would pay for counciling for my husband and me. I know we could use it ( not that we have serious problems, just so we can learn to talk better). I don't know to many couples that couldn't beneifit from that. Who cares what thier motives are, it boils down to how you and your husband use the info they give you.

nimuay · #12 12-16-2011, 05:21 PM

Hug your parents!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's generous and kind.