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imnluv · #26 12-29-2011, 07:37 PM

Thats wat he used to tell me all the time. But why in the world did it have to be in this kind of situation? I mean my lo has about 50 yrs. I love him so much & hope & pray that something will happen to get him out of there a lot sooner. Im tryna keep the faith. Just dont understand why i had to find my soulmate like this.

Hillbillybel · #27 12-29-2011, 08:33 PM

I read this on someone's post and I adopted it because it was so perfect, it is what I tell others out there when they care to judge me for standing by my husband's side..

"You may see him as a mean person, but I see him as God's child and God gave him to me"

My husband and I are from two different worlds, like someone else mentioned. He had a LONG criminal record, had the best job a convicted felon could get, did tattoos on the side, he ran the streets gang banging, he was cold, never smiled, he looked mean, he hardly talked and definitely NOT my type. I on the other hand, had never been arrested, I'm a social butterfly, laughs at everything, I'm am educated, work hard, own my home, have job stability/security. I had goals, I knew what I wanted and where I wanted to go in my life, I was CERTAIN that I had control of my life.

But you see, what I didn't have was God. I was severely traumatized early on and built a very strong wall up and completely around me, not giving room for anyone in. When I shut the world out, I shut God out, I blamed him for my insecurities, my hurts, my sense of guilt and abandonment and bla bla bla

One day, I went to get a tattoo from a guy that did a friend of mine's tattoo, he did them out of his house. Ladies, little did I know, when i met him, I had no clue my life was about to change, little did I know I was meeting my future husband. In a very short time, he had managed to take down that well constructed wall I had built up around me, piece by piece, then, he took my heart. He made it "feel" again, he turned something that was so dead and he watered it, respected it and love it until it came back to life. We are complete opposites. We would get the craziest looks from people, it was actually funny.

But here's the thing. As different as we appeared to be, the reality was that on the inside, we were both, the exact same, so much so that it was scary. The love that grew between us, the heartbeat we share, the trust we have in on another. We learned later, that we both, in our own thoughts, wondered, to ourselves, what did we do so good to deserve a love like this. When we talked about it, we came to the decision that it was God, the He crossed our paths for a reason, only He knew that we could save each other, that we could trust each other, that we could endure the road He was about to take us on. Together, we believe that this is only a test, a test to see if we truly discovered what TRUE love really means, what one is willing to do for the other. He gave up his life as he knew and I chose to stand by his side. I married him, after his arrest, prior to sentencing, not having a clue to how little or how long I was going to have to travel this journey. He was sentenced to 210 months. It's a long time, trust me I know, but, we trust in God that He brought is to it therefore He WILL bring us through it.

Maybe we had to endure this to find God, because to be honest, before my husbands arrest, God didn't matter to me, because I felt I didn't matter to Him. But like many, when something happens, then we reach out to God, that's what I did, so we feel that this happened because God knew it was the way for me to reach out to Him and trust Him and regain my faith of that little mustard seed that I once had a very long time ago.

So yes ladies, I do believe that God does put people in our lives for a reason. Although we may not see it or understand it, we just have to KNOW and BELIEVE and TRUST that HE knows what HE is doing and not question Him or not get in the way of His work.

Sorry this was long, but I was speaking from my heart... God Bless & Happy New Year!

imnluv · #28 12-30-2011, 05:28 AM

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Originally Posted by bluesmnm

I read this on someone's post and I adopted it because it was so perfect, it is what I tell others out there when they care to judge me for standing by my husband's side..

"You may see him as a mean person, but I see him as God's child and God gave him to me"

My husband and I are from two different worlds, like someone else mentioned. He had a LONG criminal record, had the best job a convicted felon could get, did tattoos on the side, he ran the streets gang banging, he was cold, never smiled, he looked mean, he hardly talked and definitely NOT my type. I on the other hand, had never been arrested, I'm a social butterfly, laughs at everything, I'm am educated, work hard, own my home, have job stability/security. I had goals, I knew what I wanted and where I wanted to go in my life, I was CERTAIN that I had control of my life.

But you see, what I didn't have was God. I was severely traumatized early on and built a very strong wall up and completely around me, not giving room for anyone in. When I shut the world out, I shut God out, I blamed him for my insecurities, my hurts, my sense of guilt and abandonment and bla bla bla

One day, I went to get a tattoo from a guy that did a friend of mine's tattoo, he did them out of his house. Ladies, little did I know, when i met him, I had no clue my life was about to change, little did I know I was meeting my future husband. In a very short time, he had managed to take down that well constructed wall I had built up around me, piece by piece, then, he took my heart. He made it "feel" again, he turned something that was so dead and he watered it, respected it and love it until it came back to life. We are complete opposites. We would get the craziest looks from people, it was actually funny.

But here's the thing. As different as we appeared to be, the reality was that on the inside, we were both, the exact same, so much so that it was scary. The love that grew between us, the heartbeat we share, the trust we have in on another. We learned later, that we both, in our own thoughts, wondered, to ourselves, what did we do so good to deserve a love like this. When we talked about it, we came to the decision that it was God, the He crossed our paths for a reason, only He knew that we could save each other, that we could trust each other, that we could endure the road He was about to take us on. Together, we believe that this is only a test, a test to see if we truly discovered what TRUE love really means, what one is willing to do for the other. He gave up his life as he knew and I chose to stand by his side. I married him, after his arrest, prior to sentencing, not having a clue to how little or how long I was going to have to travel this journey. He was sentenced to 210 months. It's a long time, trust me I know, but, we trust in God that He brought is to it therefore He WILL bring us through it.

Maybe we had to endure this to find God, because to be honest, before my husbands arrest, God didn't matter to me, because I felt I didn't matter to Him. But like many, when something happens, then we reach out to God, that's what I did, so we feel that this happened because God knew it was the way for me to reach out to Him and trust Him and regain my faith of that little mustard seed that I once had a very long time ago.

So yes ladies, I do believe that God does put people in our lives for a reason. Although we may not see it or understand it, we just have to KNOW and BELIEVE and TRUST that HE knows what HE is doing and not question Him or not get in the way of His work.

Sorry this was long, but I was speaking from my heart... God Bless & Happy New Year!

That was beautiful!

Hillbillybel · #29 12-30-2011, 09:43 AM

Thank you... Happy New Year...

Quote:

Originally Posted by imnluv

That was beautiful!

imnluv · #30 12-30-2011, 07:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bluesmnm

Thank you... Happy New Year...

Ur welcome!! & HAPPY NEW YEAR TO U ALSO!!!

Kmadrid7 · #31 01-02-2012, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by ohsweetmaryjane

Oh, I know he was. I am completely convinced that my boyfriend helped save my life, or at least my sanity. I was in an abusive relationship and meeting my boyfriend and interacting with him, seeing how a real man treats a woman, made it possible for me to gather the strength to leave my abusive ex with my boyfriend's emotional support every step of the way. I do not know what turn my life would have taken had I stayed in that relationship.

And for those reasons, my boyfriend is not only the man I love and want to spend my life with, but also my hero.

That's exactly where I'm at... My husband is abusive as well... There are alot of things that he does that makes me very unhappy ...until the man in my dreams came into my life.. He is special and we both love eachother. I prayed and asked d
God did you put this man in my life?? I pray this is God's will .. I'm actual happy... A new start and a new future..

Nicholas'ladyy · #32 08-25-2012, 01:27 PM

Yes, I strongly believe each person who enters our life God placed them their for a reason.
As previously stated in post above, I believe God sent him to better me and for me to better him.

jandj10 · #33 03-16-2013, 07:06 AM

Yes i believe me and my man were put in eachothers life's by god!!!! I believe god put us together to better eachother i know he makes me want to be a better women... And I make him want to be a better man...

JACKIE310 · #34 03-18-2013, 02:35 PM

Yes i believe God made us cross paths because we saved each other . The love we share is stronger than anything we can imagine. Im so grateful that he's the man God chose for me to create a family with !

Klewis · #35 03-18-2013, 02:52 PM

Yes I believe my fiance' was put in my life for a reason. I mean we did go our own separate way for 17 years but when we did reunite it was like we did not miss a day. I feel this man was made for me and I was made for him. We mix very well.

tomcres · #36 03-19-2013, 09:35 AM

Absolutely! When I first heard and read about her case, something about it just stuck in my mind. I was bothered by the injustice I felt had been done to her. Several weeks later I was in a Bible study and we were studying Matthew 25:31-46 and our pastor asked us how many of us visit the sick or the prisoner. I still had her case on my mind, and I decided to write to her. I really didn't know what to write, and I didn't expect a reply. I just wrote that I felt that she was treated unfairly and wrongfully convicted and that I was sorry it had gone that way for her and asked if there was anything I could do for her. She wrote back and was very sweet and charming. We wrote back and forth for a while and God has always been a big part of our conversation. We are both Christians, and she has been a tremendous encouragement to me in my faith. I found myself falling in love with her and my life has been forever changed. I thank God every day for the love that he put in my heart for her and for bringing her into my life. I definitely feel God working in our lives. It's like I was made to love her.

cmsb · #37 03-19-2013, 09:44 AM

I have seen the hand of "God" since the day that my love was arrested. So many things, hard to count them all. But everytime I need him, everytime I am in dispair...suddenly my phone rings at a time that is not one of our scheduled times.
As for him, if I were not here watching over him and his world. He would have nothing left. Doubtful he would even be able to do the time.

We were together just long enough to build a bond and as time goes on, even more so.

Sad_Eyes · #38 03-19-2013, 10:24 AM

I do believe God brought my husband into my life for a reason. I was on a downward spiral in general and my relationship with him literally saved me from myself and going further down. He was also doing poorly and is now seeing there is life beyond prison. He reminded me what it was like to feel joy and happiness and to love again. It was not a perfect beginning, but we both agree this is the happiest we have ever been since we became a couple and are now newlyweds.