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InHisCorner · #51 06-15-2011, 12:01 AM

our kids & i HAVE been locked up and feel more pain and sorrow on the outside then he ever will face in prison. his stupid actions took him away and made soooo many hurt. so now he eats worksout plays games goes to church and school oh and called to say he is going to start a yoga class...while i am sitting here trying to hustle some WIC and food for our kids...yea ok!

DP's Girl · #52 06-26-2011, 09:32 AM

He is more imprisoned because he actually is. Someone tells him when to get up, go to bed, eat, shower, use the phone, and see his family. I can do anything I want to do any time I want to except be with him. I am faithful to him and nothing takes precedence over his calls but church. However my life is not on hold. It might be because we are RWI so I was not used to him being here anyway. I love and miss him terribly but my sons and I live our lives. There are so many things I want to share with him but in the meantime I am not missing out on life and he doesn't expect me to. All he asks is that I take plenty of pictures so I can share it with him and I do. I take pictures of everything from Easter dinner, to our hotel room when we travel, to my son getting a breathing treatment in the emergency room. In two years my boys are getting their promised trip to Barcelona if Dee is here it would be great but if not I will send pics and we'll go again when he's home. I love him and honestly sometimes I feel sorry for myself because I want him here with me so much and want to do the things couple do. But I never think for a second that my life is anywhere near as hard as his. I am always surprised when I see these threads because I have a choice about this life but he doesn't.

SherryRN · #53 06-27-2011, 08:47 PM

Sometimes I feel like I'm the one in prison. I have found myself staying home so I don't miss a phone call and not working on visit days. I also feel guilty sometimes doing the things him and I used to do together. I told him how I felt and he got really upset. I hate that he is in a cell with no AC and has crap to eat. He has lost so much weight and the commisary thing is expensive. I'm sending money so he can eat and I'm living on mac and cheese. Then there's the phone. Constantly putting money on my account so he can call. Then you got lawyer fees. It just sucks! I'm out here but feel imprisioned because I can't enjoy life. I want him home. My kids are out of control and things just suck.

crashgirl · #54 07-04-2011, 10:32 PM

I think my man is physically yet I am emotionally!!! I understand that he is told what to do and when, but he is always telling me about being in sports etc. to jeep his mind of being there. I'm out here feeling as if my heart is being ripped out of my chest everyday! I am working constantly to raise our kids and to keep money on his books and I am depressed every holiday wishing he was home! That's why I agree with the term "we are doing time" I have never been introuble with the law yet I now know the ins and outs of prison life...county, state, and now federal. I'm faithful and he gets released this winter yet right now I take life one day at a time just as he does and I am in the free world but my heart is doing a federal sentence right along side my man!

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sweetcandicane · #55 07-05-2011, 11:27 PM

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Originally Posted by crashgirl

I think my man is physically yet I am emotionally!!! I understand that he is told what to do and when, but he is always telling me about being in sports etc. to jeep his mind of being there. I'm out here feeling as if my heart is being ripped out of my chest everyday! I am working constantly to raise our kids and to keep money on his books and I am depressed every holiday wishing he was home! That's why I agree with the term "we are doing time" I have never been introuble with the law yet I now know the ins and outs of prison life...county, state, and now federal. I'm faithful and he gets released this winter yet right now I take life one day at a time just as he does and I am in the free world but my heart is doing a federal sentence right along side my man!

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You took the words right out of my mouth! Yesterday was so hard seeing our baby watch her first fireworks and he wasn't there. Sometimes he doesn't realize how it feels for me. He says its so bad there but its no picnic out here.

nothang2big4God · #56 09-30-2011, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by thatguysfamily

Has your world stopped because your loved one is in jail? Do you feel you can't do everything you wanted to? Who is more imprisoned: You or your loved one?

I'm new to all this. Me and my husband have been married for 17 years. We're more in love now than when we first married. We've never been apart. Right now, I feel like the victim, but I know he's the one having it rough!

BadGrlGoneGood · #57 01-16-2012, 01:35 AM

My loved one, of course. I'm not being imprisoned, I'm being tormented. I'm not imprisoned though - I can use the bathroom whenever I want, smoke whenever I want, eat whatever I want, go wherever I want, buy whatever I want, sleep whenever I want, etc etc. He cannot do any of that. Of course I am in pain because he's gone but imprisoned I am not.

covenantwmn · #58 01-16-2012, 11:35 AM

I agree that we serve with them, but through the day I can make decisions and go where I want and do what I want when I want. That said, he deserves his punishment, I don't. This just happened and I may soften in time, but for now, it is what it is.

countryzgirl · #59 01-17-2012, 08:24 PM

He's literally and figuratively imprisoned. I'm free and choose to ride this out with him. There's no comparison, IMO.

Sexy_Bella · #60 01-18-2012, 02:39 PM

no, im not the one thats in prison, he is.no matter how upset,mad,tired, etc. i get im not in prison. i can decide when im gonna go to bed,when im gonna eat,where i want to walk at or to.

denisegallegos · #61 01-21-2012, 07:08 PM

Well of course he is. ... my heart is going through torture,
But
I can eat what i want when i want
I can have fresh air at any moment
I can look at the beautiful blue sky
Or the night sky
I can go come as i please
I can kiss and hug my daughters day or night
So I'm pretty free!!!!

tee22 · #62 01-22-2012, 04:57 AM

My loved one is. I can't imagine not being able to come and go as you please. Having no freedom I can't wait til my baby's home.

jazzyone903 · #63 01-22-2012, 07:53 AM

I feel as though I'm in prison too. I keep busy by surfing the websites and keeping update on whats happening in the TDOJ wesbsite. I'll just be glad when this nightmare is over!

Anne Morris 87 · #64 01-29-2012, 09:23 PM

I spend, I would say at leat 90% of my day at home. I sit in my room for the most part listening to music and watching religious programs on television. The majority of my day is spent laying on my bed.

The little bit of time that I do spend outside of the house is spent, spending time with my mom and taking care of business outside of the house. I would say that most days, my time outside of the house averages about an hour to an hour and a half. I allow my mother to do the driving!
I just bought myself an ID bracelet that I plan to have engraved and I do not plan t take it off, once I get used to weaing it. God knows that any prison you walk into, where the inmates wear ID bracelets require them to leave their I bracelets on 24\7. At some point, I plan to have his name\my name engraved on it and should I be so lucky as to have it happen that one us of finds the other, I plan to have his ID number engraved on it below our names. This is another idea, I have thought of to show my support.
I am a loner, so I do not really have any friends outside of my house that I associate with.

Sounds like a prisoner to me. What's your thoughts on this?

143forever · #65 01-29-2012, 10:31 PM

Him. I can go where i want, eat what i want, call someone whenever i want, sleep when i want, wake up when i want, use the restroom alone, shower alone, wear what i want, watch what i want on tv, smoke a cigarette when i want, drink a beer when i want, socialize with people i want to socialize with, walk out my front door whenever i want. I could go on and on. If anyone actually believes they are more imprisoned then their mate, i think that's an awfully selfish way to think....

Anne Morris 87 · #66 01-30-2012, 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by 143forever

Him. I can go where i want, eat what i want, call someone whenever i want, sleep when i want, wake up when i want, use the restroom alone, shower alone, wear what i want, watch what i want on tv, smoke a cigarette when i want, drink a beer when i want, socialize with people i want to socialize with, walk out my front door whenever i want. I could go on and on. If anyone actually believes they are more imprisoned then their mate, i think that's an awfully selfish way to think....

I will take a moment here to say that those on the outside do have far more freedom than those serving time in correctional facilities and I will agree with you that it would be selfish for anyone to think that they have less freedom than their loved one in prison. Still, it is possible for one to become like a prisoner in their home or a prisoner to their own emotions.

FreeJoe · #67 01-30-2012, 06:49 PM

Of course our LO are far more imprisoned. We may feel for them and experience a variety of emotional pain and stress,but in all reality we good it good.
And though yes they made mistakes that led them there, but most inmates don't deserve half the treatment they receive at these correctional facilities. So yes my hunny has it far more worst than I do.

jazzyg · #68 01-30-2012, 07:01 PM

My boo taught me this the first week I met him I come first all the times cause if I'm not good nobody I'm taking care of will be so I have to say ME for right now it goes queen then the king comes after LOL wen Bey gets out king will be first

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rokn.ruby · #69 01-31-2012, 12:46 PM

defiantly the man in jail - though the burden of my responsibilities caused me to feel like dying at times - being in a max security level prison cannot compare to misery of being out and free.

niki511 · #70 02-08-2012, 05:13 AM

he is absolutly more IMPRISONED. however, i think its harder for me handle. when he got sentenced, it hardly effected him. yet i broke down crying at the thought of him going back again. he kept talkin bout how he missed the homeboys up there, but all i could think of was how i was gonna miss him. its hard not havin someone there to wipe away the tears when things go wrong, or smile with when things go right. its hard making decisions alone, i question every little thing- he used to fix every problem and guid me thru everything. together we were on top of the world. now im spinning in circles, watchin these walls come crashin down, while i pretend its all ok so he wont worry. but the worst part is, i cant fix things for him

n016s · #71 02-22-2012, 12:55 PM

He is physically more imprisoned than I am obviously, but I truly feel like it is worse for me then it is for him. His life is almost on "pause" right now while he is doing his time, however, I need to go on with life without him with me. I have the burden of doing stuff for him, paying for collect calls, sitting in a room for 2 hours for a 20 minute visit. It is extremely frustrating that we need to do everything while they just sit in there. I am sure they'd all love to be out in our position, but I really think they have NO IDEA what strength it actually takes to be in love with someone in prison. They think they have it tough, which yes they do, but so do we and they need to see that as well. (Sorry for the rant, currently dealing with this issue with my boyfriend)