Angry at Husband's Indifference

[Debylg]

Ok - so I have to vent ladies! I've held everything together, went from being a stay at home mom with 3 kids, to a working mom with 2 kids and an irresponsible adult child with 4 grandkids that I have taken care of for the last 7 1/2 years and 100% was the financial lifeline. I am now having some medical issues (btw - the only time I've been hospitalized is with the birth of my kids). I have to have surgery - not major, female issues and I will be getting a version of a hysterectomy.
So my husband calls, does tell me he loves me, but jumps right into - I need you to jpay me $30 or $40, yes I still have $103 in my account - just do this for me. I want to keep ahead. AFTER I just told him I was having surgery..... He didn't miss a beat - oh you'll be ok - you've held it together for 7 1/2 years now. I am FURIOUS with him. I don't have much family near, I have to ask his mother to take a day off to take me (which she is happy to do she said) - but he was so FLIP. OMG - right about now, if he was here, I'd fight the feeling to punch him.

Am I overreacting with this? I'm FURIOUS!

[BadGrlGoneGood]

No, you're not overreacting. He sounds like he was being completely self-absorbed.
That sucks that he acted like that about it.
I think you should tell him how bad it hurt you, how unimportant it made you feel, and how you need him to care about what's going on with you.
I would want to punch him too if I were you.
Sorry you're going through that.
I hope you make it through your surgery okay and recover quickly. You sound like a good mom and grandma who a lot of people depend on. They should all be more appreciative of you.

[Sheryl P.]

Send him over,I would be happy to kick him in the shins for you

[denisegallegos]

No your not over reacting!
As prison wives we have a lot to deal with more then the "average" wife.
And having health issues on top of it all!? Well its just to much!
I understand what ur saying, your husband should have more compassion and not worry about himself staying ahead, you just gave him important news, he really went about it the wrong way.
If my husband reacted that way i would confront him .
I'm sorry for you, hope u will okay and hope ur man realizes what you do and how important you are.

[nimuay]

You are soooooooooooooo right to feel hurt! If HE were the one having surgery you best bet he would be insisting you be there to hold his hand and fix all the boo-boos, and whine his ass off if you weren't.

[HardHeadedWoman]

i wouldnt jpay nothing!!!!

[TraeNBoo]

But forreal though?! I wouldn't jpay anything either, he must have lost his damn mind! Keeping you in my prayers hun

[Fancy]

Sounds like after 7 yrs he forgot he is a husband.

Now, he is just an inmate that needs funds.

Wishing you a safe surgery.

[Liz & Adam]

Praying all for you. How insensitive of him?! I would want to do more then punch him! :angry

[Debylg]

Originally Posted by HardHeadedWoman

i wouldnt jpay nothing!!!!

HAHAHA! He will be waiting for sure on that money!

[Will'sCharlie]

I think it's the nature of the locked-up beast that they have tendencies to become self-absorbed and disconnected from what is happening with their families. Afterall, they have little to do but spin in their heads and they are not exposed to their families daily.

That said, that man needs an attitude adjustment and quick. There's been a few instances when I saw that "it's all about me" thing start with my man and I nipped that in the bud IMMEDIATELY.

Money for his books--hell no, not until he can show some appreciation. And it's time for him to be reminded that even if he is locked up, he is the man of the family and he needs to begin acting like it.

You are in my prayers. Please keep us updated on your health.

[Princess1029]

Id be angry too! Not very nice of him to be that way. I hope surgery goes well.

[Debylg]

Quick Update to surgery - all went well. I had to laugh, coming out of anesthesia they were trying to get me to open my eyes.....I just wanted to sleep. My mother in law said - tell her David is here - she'll open her eyes. I remember quite pointedly saying - if David is here - tell him it's going to be 4-6 weeks!! LOL. The nurses busted out in laughter when my mother in law told them he was in prison and I was mad at him.
He did apologize to me the next day saying he was scared too, but knew that I "had it under control" and he was praying for me. for all the well wishes.

[Sheryl P.]

Glad to know you are doing well :-)
Men can say the most stupid things when they are worried!
That was a funny comment ,4-6 weeks lol.