Can you stay with a man you don't trust (and why?)?

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by WaitingOnEddie

Another thread got me thinking....can you stay with a man you don't trust? If you can...why are you able to do so?

I see so many threads of women who don't trust their guy...

I just know for me, if I didn't trust him...I wouldn't be able to stay. This lifestyle is hard enough without having to worry about all the nonsense.

Relationships are supposed to be built on trust and communication. If I did not trust my fiance, there is no way I would be with him. Not an option to be with someone I cannot trust.

This lifestyle, I am assuming you mean prison? I would not be with someone I cannot trust, prison or on the streets.

Peace~

[Klewis]

I could not be with no one I did not trust for the simple fact that would be a relationship I was trying to force. It would come with a lot of friction. I could never enjoy it because I would be constantly thinking the worse and making myself believe the worse. It wouldn't be fair for neither one of us or fun. You have to have trust. You have to trust that your mate really loves you and is interested in you. Then you have to trust that your mate has a life and rather they are around you or not that you are still a part of their life. Then you have to trust that your mate will communicate with you to keep that trust going. You have to be able to trust that your mate is only being intimate with you and only you. So as you see trust is definitely that bubble that keeps the relationship intact and protected.

[patient4love]

Absolutely not! Relationships are built on a foundation of honesty, trust and open communication. Without that there is nothing to build a solid relationship on and there will always be issues with the "cracks" in the foundation!

[KayGee19]

No. I wouldn't want to live miserably. I trust my love with my life. He always has had my back and will have my back. As I will and do have his. A relationship any kind of relationship without trust isn't a solid one.

[Eka16]

Nope! Thats got to be the worst feeling in the world not being able to trust him it leads to doubting him and turns into a disaster.

[an87]

I have to be honest that I don't 100% trust my man. He always has my back, yes, he stands up for me, stick with me when I do something dumb, whatever, but he does lie to me. He isn't a cheater, but his lies usually revolve around drug use, or where the money went, or something along those lines. I know he doesn't WANT to be a drug addict for the rest of his life and he was sober for most of our relationship, so I'm willing to keep working at the relationship. I love him deeply and I know he loves me and I think our relationship is worth whatever work we have to put into it. If I doubted his love or caught him cheating? Nope, I'd be done. But I know that drugs can change someone into a completely different person.

[iholditdown4him]

Nope. Honesty, trust, faith, loyalty....without it...there is nothing.

waiting for my Christopher

[Rick's Girl Ont]

No, I couldn't do it. I have my dignity and self respect. I don't worry about my guy cheating but I worry about him successfully finishing his parole because he is back in on a violation. He has 8 months of it left when he gets out and I told him if he lands himself back in prison, I'm gone. No ifs, ands or buts. Life is too short. I promished to be loyal to him even when he's in prison and I expect the same when he gets out. Remember, they put the "us" in trust for a reason.

[misscadibaby]

I think the problem is a lot of women TRY to stay with someone they don't trust. It will never last and/or be a healthy, strong and prospering relationship if that is the case.

[InLoveWithaG]

You can't be with someone you don trust, it just causes more issues because it's impossible to be truly happy BUT I do think one can regain trust and perhaps move on together but I think taking a break, regaining trust, and THEN committing to eachother once again is the best way to go about this....not trying to regain trust while still in the relationship, that just gets confusing and crazy

[Ms. Tazzie]

*I* believe Pipsqueak and TLAn4ever and a few others are about the realistic ppl here.. I mean come on ladies,, the majority of us have been in at LEAST 1 sucky relationship with a bum that for WHATEVER reason we didn't trust,, and stayed for WHATEVER reason.. Yeah,, of course you left EVENTUALLY,, but was it instantaneously???
For *ME* trust is EARNED not GIVEN.. I don't think anyone knows EXACTLY what another person will do if put in the *ideal* situation. That's why we are *individuals* with our own minds,, we don't think in unison with our mates..
So to answer the question,, I *have* stayed with a man I didn't trust,, but *I* stayed until it just became *Obvious* that something was wrong.

[missin.him.much]

Originally Posted by Zachary's Woman

*I* believe Pipsqueak and TLAn4ever and a few others are about the realistic ppl here.. I mean come on ladies,, the majority of us have been in at LEAST 1 sucky relationship with a bum that for WHATEVER reason we didn't trust,, and stayed for WHATEVER reason.. Yeah,, of course you left EVENTUALLY,, but was it instantaneously???
For *ME* trust is EARNED not GIVEN.. I don't think anyone knows EXACTLY what another person will do if put in the *ideal* situation. That's why we are *individuals* with our own minds,, we don't think in unison with our mates..
So to answer the question,, I *have* stayed with a man I didn't trust,, but *I* stayed until it just became *Obvious* that something was wrong.

I cudnt agree any more w/ your post .

[hisbabyny]

i have stayed with a man i didnt trust in the past but it was

basically HELL!
I also stayed with men that lied, but then again so did I i lived and learned
I also do NOT trust anyone 100% about everything...trust is definetly earned over time in each area' and i never say never' cause the one i trust 100% is God.