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verito7981 · #2 03-12-2012, 11:52 PM

13,9 and 8

MiSsInG mY LoVe Of My LiFe!!!

RVN04 · #3 03-17-2012, 11:33 PM

My daughter is too young to know...she is only 3 so I tell her he is at work...he's been in since 2008 when she was born and will be getting out in a few months so I decided not to tell her

he_is_missed · #4 03-18-2012, 07:18 AM

I've been struggling with this myself...she obviously won't be ready for awhile (she's 18mos) but I always worry how to explain the situation to her...because she goes to visiting with me shell know from a young age that something's going on...her dad and I have decided that when we feel she can understand enough well have a conversation as a family discussing everything.

noreenfm13 · #5 03-18-2012, 10:59 PM

My daughter was 4 when he went in (2011) she is 5 now.. It's been a year and a month.. I tell her he's working. She's gone with me to visit him and she was the happiest little girl ever! She hadn't seem him for a year because he was in the county and I didn't want her to see him through a glass window and not be able to hug and kiss him. It was a very emotional visit for all of us!! The only thing that killed me was when we had to leave. She cried like crazy and didn't want to leave!!! I had to pry her off of him. The c.o even felt bad and told me she's never seen a child get like that. It kills me to see my daughter hurting and not be able to fix it but she's a tough cookie and talks to him every day and is strong about it. She knows daddy will be back one day.

babydeezs · #6 03-18-2012, 11:32 PM

My daughters are three and four and my fiancée went in when youngest was four months old. I thought about telling them he was at work but I didn't want them thinking that I wasn't coming back home like their dad so I tell them daddy's at camp. We decided that if he didn't make parole this year that we are going to tell our oldest she will be five and its getting harder for her to understand why he not here. She wishes on stars for him and writes him atleast three times a day daddy I love you and I miss you and her name is the whole letter sad and sweet at the same time. Didn't mean to ramble on Lol

noreenfm13 · #7 03-19-2012, 11:50 AM

I know how you feel. My daughter is 5 now and she does the same!! She's ALWAYS drawing him things and writing to him. She wants a sibling so bad but knows she has to wait for daddy to come back. It's really sad what our children have to go through

JennCamp · #8 03-22-2012, 09:10 AM

Our sons are 12 and 10: they are still not comprehending whats happening. They are my rock tho, and we've become so, close during this time. But my oldest just got in a fight defending hits little brother because a kid at football praxtice made fun of him for his dad being in prison and not able to be at his football ball practice. They are so naive, they tell anyone their situation...not getting that its not something that happens to all dads.
My husband is an incredible father, sunday I just broke down crying while he's explaining to our oldest what questions he had about liking a girl. Their dad is there, and they've actually adjusted and been such incredible kids....I just pray their attitude stays the same for the next two n half years.