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Old 04-10-2012, 06:17 PM
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What are the rules/guidelines/etc. for proposing marriage, getting engaged, married? And are there rules about wedding bands for the men?
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There's no rules for proposing or getting engaged. In that respect or in the easiest terms you or he will propose and then you are engaged. For the most part the cdcr is uniform when it comes to the rules and regulations of marriage. First he would have to request the marriage packet from the chaplain.

Enclosed is two parts to the packet Part A he fills out and part B he will mail to you to fill out. Both have to be filled in it's entirety and return to the chaplain. If you have been married before it has to be dissolved no questions ask. You will have to show paperwork that you are indeed divorced. Also you have to be a approved visitor on the list with valid Id and or birth certificate.

The chaplain will forward to his counselor for review and approval after that the chaplain will inform you by mail and him that you have been approved. If you purchase a ring for him the cost of the ring cannot exceed $100.00.

The process normally takes about 60-90 days for approval upon completion you set a date. The application is good for 1 year after that you have to reapply. I think that's it at least what I can think of at the moment I hope this helps
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Thank you so much for the help! I wanted to ask something else, too.

Okay, so for him no ring can exceed $100. Can it still be a metal band with a tiny diamond accent on it to match mine?

Also, what am I allowed to wear? He has been incarcerated since 1993 and we know these men never get to see beautiful things or anything beyond CDCR requirements.

I was hoping to wear something better than my old friend, Richard Ramirez's wife, Doreen Lioy's frumpy white dress.

I know thinks cant be sleeveless so I could always wear a lace bolero?

If I am allowed to wear what I want with certain rules, I don't want it to look silly but I want my man to see me dress especially for the occasion and to look beautiful.
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As long as the ring does not exceed $100.00 he can have it. Be sure to have a receipt as well. As for the wedding dress sadly this is prison and rules and regulations will still apply. There was a thread on wedding dresses a few years back with pictures if I can find it I will post the link. I'm sure you can find something very pretty for your special day. Good luck and many blessings to you both
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Thanks so much! And if you can find that thread that would be so incredibly helpful!

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