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Hisgirlmeb · #1 04-19-2012, 07:12 AM

What started as penpals for me and my MWI turned into a beautiful relationship. Our families are very supportive of us as they can see the happiness and love we have gined for each other, but others just dont get it. I get everything from its not possible that you love him there is no way to why do you bother caring about an inmate. No matter how I try to explain it which I basically stopped doing I cant mke them see from my eyes what I see when I look at him. I dont see the inmate, I see Michael, wonderful caring and sweet. September really isnt that far people fall in love online so he is in county, I see him every week talk as often as possible. any advice on how to approach this issue because somedays I want to flip my lid.

ILovehim1 · #2 04-19-2012, 08:19 AM

I would just not bother telling people it's easier that way. Once he's out you don't have to mention he was in jail or anything. At least your families are supportive that is what matters the most. My family doesn't know but his family is supportive. It just isn't worth hearing people hate on your choice.

InmateLover67 · #3 04-19-2012, 08:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Hisgirlmeb

What started as penpals for me and my MWI turned into a beautiful relationship. Our families are very supportive of us as they can see the happiness and love we have gined for each other, but others just dont get it. I get everything from its not possible that you love him there is no way to why do you bother caring about an inmate. No matter how I try to explain it which I basically stopped doing I cant mke them see from my eyes what I see when I look at him. I dont see the inmate, I see Michael, wonderful caring and sweet. September really isnt that far people fall in love online so he is in county, I see him every week talk as often as possible. any advice on how to approach this issue because somedays I want to flip my lid.

Flip a lid and tell people to shut the **ck up! You and your man know what you have and that is all that matters. I am so happy to hear that both of your families are excited and happy for you, you cannot get better support than that of family. Enjoy it

I posted these quotes last night; what you think of me is none of my business, and its mind over matter, I don't mind, because you don't matter.

Keep on loving your man and don't let people's comments get to you....as I said, flip a lid and then they will shut up. If they can't say something nice, they need to keep it zipped.

Peace~

RuthieBee · #4 04-19-2012, 08:46 AM

my neighbor is in an WMI relationship. Last week she told me she doesn't mind him being locked up for 16 years, because unlike men on the street, she knows where he is, and has more time to focus on her than any man she has met in the street. SMH! Its those women who tarnish the image of MWI.

NileMusiq · #5 04-19-2012, 09:00 AM

MWI is misunderstood because people WANT to misunderstand it. This society is built on an unspoken caste system and convicts mostly fall at the bottom. However, that is changing when people like us speak up and vote for their rights; When inmates get out and become successful, and grow. Check out MSN's home page...you know they run a section on famous jailbirds. People deliberately try not to think of them as humans who are husbands, sons, fathers, daughters, wives, etc. However, most of us will rally for those who are family members. ROMANTICALLY love a prisoner?! Immediately the choser and the choosen is looked upon as flawed somehow. Must be crazy in the brain. The truth is, they are the same kinds of people that are freely walking around in the community. It's the heart girl! In the end, you simply have to choose someone because of their heart. Free or incarcerated. Do you.

paradise soul · #6 04-19-2012, 09:02 AM

Hun, you are so definitely not alone with this. Its more or less the same for all of us in these relationships. Its about what inmatelover67 wrote: Mind ovr matter. Do not waste your time being mad.
A while ago my man (yes, they for sure also hear this bull**** in there) told me that a cellmate talked to him and said that he is crazy to believe that I am faithful.....being on the outside, thousands of miles away, where I can do what I want and nobody is going to tell him.......... I told my man not to get mad and wanted to calm him down......and he said: Forget it, baby, I told him to pray to find what I found when he got goo much time! LOL

Hisgirlmeb · #7 04-19-2012, 10:53 AM

it dont bother me where he is he loves me and i dont doubt his love in the end we will be together outside the bars and no one will care then he makes me happy that is all that matters

NileMusiq · #8 04-19-2012, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Hisgirlmeb

it dont bother me where he is he loves me and i dont doubt his love in the end we will be together outside the bars and no one will care then he makes me happy that is all that matters

Its like a teen pregnancy..the grandparents go off but when the baby is born...they are ll smiles and love. Well most of them anyway.

**Patty** · #9 04-19-2012, 02:43 PM

When Sebastian and I were in the MWI phase of our relationship we didn't have to deal with any negativity. It wasn't until I met more MWI couples that I realized how blessed he and I were because our situation is so much different from most of the others.

In general people often have a difficult time wrapping their minds around things they have never experienced. Others see only the crime, alleged or otherwise and not the individual. The media doesn't help with its sensationalized stories of inmates and the women who become infatuated - you know the "groupie" mentality.

Now when those that perceive the MWI relationship negatively happen to be family or friends some of the above can apply but you have to throw into the mix the fact that they care about you as well. In other situations they do not respect the decisions that one makes because of unrelated past history.

You can talk and argue until you are blue in the face but the results may disappoint. Some may change their opinions over time, others will not. Recognizing that, it seems the best thing to do is to give them what they cannot or will not give you - acceptance. You simply accept that they have a viewpoint different from yours and are entitled to it and keep it moving. At the end of the day, there are only two people in the relationship that really need to approve and those are the two who are in it.

Hisgirlmeb · #10 04-19-2012, 05:54 PM

they see only what he doesnt give me because of the bars that seperate they dont see that he gives me so much more then i have ever received before

Tjames85 · #11 04-20-2012, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by NileMusiq

Check out MSN's home page...you know they run a section on famous jailbirds.

Wow thank you for pointing that out. My baby will really be inspired by something like that. From the first day I met him knew one of hs biggest hang ups is being seen as a felon. With the way people treat us, for loving them, its no wonder they sometimes can't understand how we can love them.

Hisgirlmeb · #12 04-23-2012, 07:08 AM

If more people took the time to think outside the box, in a society where its ok to be 'in love' with a complete stranger off the internet then it is to love someone who they see and talk to and know the feeling of looking into their eyes and judge them only because they made a mistake poor judgement, but often are ready to do right, who can do right when so many refuse to see change?