I have to say definatley prison reduction...My son got 6 yrs and has to serve 85% with no good time..He was railroaded by a judge anyhow for the crime he comitted,it was a non violent crime.He was addicted on meth which he needs help for and asked the judge for help on his drug addiction....in stead the judge gave him 6yrs at 85%and no help for his drug addiction.
If I had to choose itd be the VISITS forsure my man is serving 32 to life no elgibility for parole and we have a one year old son. he got sent from jail to prison yesterday. These visits are the only way him and his son are going to have non broken ties. I could do the time without sexin my hubby even though itd be nice but I'm more for it because i know how it feels to have dad ripped from my hands and to this day i dont talk to my dad and with these visits its the only way my husband can see our son learn to walk and talk and eat with a spoon and act all silly and actually be there for those moments. This is the most important time of my sons life and i dont want my husband to miss out on that. Your only a baby once you cant get those back once there lost.
A thousand miles seems pretty far
But they've got planes and trains and cars
I'd walk to you if I had no other way
Our friends would all make fun of us
and we'll just laugh along because we know
That none of them have felt this way <3
my first answer was for FAMILY VISITS. but i sat here and thought about it for a good 5-10 min LOL. Now id have to say REDUCTION.
i guess this answer really depends on how often the person gets to visit and how long their partner's sentence is.
AND you have to factor in if the couple is married or not. because if you're not married to the man....your not getting family visits.
We are in our early 20's have two kids. One 7 and another 3. And my husband has another 8 years to go. As much as i would love extended visits so the kids can spend a longer time with their daddy....reality will have to soon set it once the visits are over. and its hard! for EVERYONE. Family visits, at soonest, come once every month and a half. They also cost alot. if you're working, you have to request the time off. If a lock down happens in the middle of your visit, it WILL be cut short or even canceled. Kids have to take days off of school. And as kids get older, it gets restless for them being stuck in a room with limited things to do after a day or two.
I decided REDUCTION because not only would i love my husband home asap. So would the kids. They want to share every day with him as soon as possible.
I lived in CA, my husband was transferred to AZ. I worked super hard to save up money and we drove out every other weekend if not every weekend to visit him. My husband enjoyed getting out of program every weekend and it gave the kids a chance to see daddy every week.
I moved to KS ending of last year to help with family. and i must say, i'll pass up a family visit if that means i get to see my husband every weekend again. its so hard for the kids. they miss him soo much more. and a month or two in between visits crushes my daughter's (3) heart. She cries for him more when she doesnt get to see him every week then seeing him for a whole family weekend visit. i guess it gives the kids consistency....which they need while growing up.
He calls every day but its not the same, he still miss so much. Rather have him home sooner so he actually get a chance to watch them grow. Not be out later when the kids are already grown up....it will cause a lot of resentment.
We are in California so once my fiance and I get married we are eligible for family visits, but in order to have family visits you have to have a release date. So, I am sensitive to those who are married or planning to marry who are not eligible. The thing is that I view family visits as just that for family so it is a change for all of the bonds not only the physical aspect of marriage. However, with all that said if my fiance could get 50% he would be home because he has done that and then we will get family visits everyday so of course I would fight for that. If we can pass this legislation on the three strikes then we will all win.
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Id take reduction if that meant he have no indeterminate sentence and so the reduction would be on the 15 yrs. then wed be great, because hed have an eventual out date and everyone would be able to spend time with him.
Otherwise if pick family visits. we dont qualify for them but if we did and he was still 15-life wed take those in a heartbeat.
Right now I would take trailor visits. He's only got 18 months left and I miss him terribly. However in ny u can't have frp visits unless your married and we are not. And I guess they exclude most sex offenders also so there is a double whammy