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Old 05-07-2012, 01:45 PM
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Any ideas what I can do to help my girlfriend with her depression? She's prone with it her whole life.. And being incarcerated has to be hard enough for a strong minded lady to survive unscaved.. But being fragile? Surely there is something else I can do.. I don't want to see her suffer any more than need be...

I have sent her over 100 letters, cards, pictures, and emails, averaging over two a day.. Almost never miss her calls... She's still in admissions, and getting to a phone is impossible.. Always assuring her how much she means to me, and that I Love her so. We're doing this time together,, and that I'm in this for the long run.. I keeping her informed of the happening at home. Taking care of everything on my side of the wall the best I can. Looking after her kids, seeing that her phone card is full, along with her commissary account, purchased and found a way to get her a new pair of glasses..
I was always able to put a smile on her face when she's at home.. There must be something else I can do?
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Look for a good guide to meditation . . . send it to her. It's probably the single best thing you can do.
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Look for a good guide to meditation . . . send it to her. It's probably the single best thing you can do.
I'm looking right now.. Have been researching for the best one. Can't make up my mind, so I'll send three..
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Can I ask how long you've been with this woman? I sure hope she appreciates all this, man.

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Any ideas what I can do to help my girlfriend with her depression? She's prone with it her whole life.. And being incarcerated has to be hard enough for a strong minded lady to survive unscaved.. But being fragile? Surely there is something else I can do.. I don't want to see her suffer any more than need be...

I have sent her over 100 letters, cards, pictures, and emails, averaging over two a day.. Almost never miss her calls... She's still in admissions, and getting to a phone is impossible.. Always assuring her how much she means to me, and that I Love her so. We're doing this time together,, and that I'm in this for the long run.. I keeping her informed of the happening at home. Taking care of everything on my side of the wall the best I can. Looking after her kids, seeing that her phone card is full, along with her commissary account, purchased and found a way to get her a new pair of glasses..
I was always able to put a smile on her face when she's at home.. There must be something else I can do?
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Can I ask how long you've been with this woman? I sure hope she appreciates all this, man.
I have known her for just over two years... We have had a major stumbling block at the beginning. That was repaired.. Oh and this last time that took her away from me is a biggie.. Know what?? I'm really disappointed, hurt beyond belief in her,,, But I'm not mad... And from what I understand,, this past one was a direct effect of her depression... That we're working on together.. All in all,, she has been the best thing in my life,, other than my five kids. That are all grown, successful and have moved on...

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My girl is going thru trying to win custody of her kid back, contigent upon proving her innocence, of course. But losing her son and her freedom in quick succession has made her incredibly depressed. Making sure that she gets mail and phone calls is definately key, and I also try to include as much handmade stuff as I can; drawings by me or her son, photos, poems, song lyrics, handmade mother's day cards, etc. I think it helps her, so you might want 2 give it a try. Just a thought
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It sounds a little to me like you are smothering her. Just be careful and keep your eyes open.

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I have known her for just over two years... We have had a major stumbling block at the beginning. That was repaired.. Oh and this last time that took her away from me is a biggie.. Know what?? I'm really disappointed, hurt beyond belief in her,,, But I'm not mad... And from what I understand,, this past one was a direct effect of her depression... That we're working on together.. All in all,, she has been the best thing in my life,, other than my five kids. That are all grown, successful and have moved on...

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Any ideas what I can do to help my girlfriend with her depression? She's prone with it her whole life.. And being incarcerated has to be hard enough for a strong minded lady to survive unscaved.. But being fragile? Surely there is something else I can do.. I don't want to see her suffer any more than need be...

I have sent her over 100 letters, cards, pictures, and emails, averaging over two a day.. Almost never miss her calls... She's still in admissions, and getting to a phone is impossible.. Always assuring her how much she means to me, and that I Love her so. We're doing this time together,, and that I'm in this for the long run.. I keeping her informed of the happening at home. Taking care of everything on my side of the wall the best I can. Looking after her kids, seeing that her phone card is full, along with her commissary account, purchased and found a way to get her a new pair of glasses..
I was always able to put a smile on her face when she's at home.. There must be something else I can do?
you seem like a very well loving caring guy and she just needs time to adjust, maybe see her with her kids can bring a nice warm smile to her..or just kinda poke at her asking her whats really hurting her hope this helps
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ive been prone to depression my whole life also. i can say the best thing for her will to keep reminding her how much you love her and how much you care for her. the cards letters and calls will be a big plus. maybe get her to talk to someone there for some depression meds. i cant imagine what shes going through being locked up. just keep reminding her everything will work out and you love her no matter what. go to your visits and everything. support will help!
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awwww.. from ur post it sounds like u love this woman very very much....lucky her to have a man like you in her corner...

but it sounds to me like ur doing soo much already...think of urself too okay? so she's dealing with alot...u've sent her much much support....she has to know ur there for her... so let everything soak in for her now... her situation..the new surroundings and people..the new treatment (if shes suffering from depression hopefully they recognize it and treat her)...the support she has from you...I think if you give her time she'll piece it all together...in the meantime still send her letters letting her know ur there...Your post asked what else you could do?....I think ur doin enuf
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She has seen by the doctors and takes medications for her depression.. But doesn't want to over do it. As some of the ladies there. One was so drugged, that she didn't recognized who visited her that day...

Some days are better than others for Nichole. She tells me that when she wakes up in the morning,, she washes her face, brushes her teeth. Then rushes over to the board to see if she has any mail... She says that, “I never fail her,, that her name is always circled or highlighted since she was admitted.”

One early morning this week she called me,, and was so depressed... Beating up on herself for her actions that put her there... It got kind of messy. And mentioned that her name wasn't highlighted on the mail list that morning.. I told her not to worry,, that she'll have twice as much tomorrow... I'm sure she did,, I send a long letter and a card every day, seven days a week.. And drop them off at the post office... Plus I send her a Jpay email most every day also...
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Look for a good guide to meditation . . . send it to her. It's probably the single best thing you can do.
I sent her two books on meditation from Amazon.. She's been reading them early in the morning before anyone's up. And said they have been helpful.. Thanks for the recommendation..
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