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Anne Morris 87 · #1 05-16-2012, 12:33 PM

I am writing this post to encourage those who have had a bad experience with the cops to open up and share their story. Let’s take a moment to remember that there are good and bad cops in every state, both in prison and outside of prison. The Police do a lot of good work, but sometimes, things do go wrong and one will have a bad experience with an officer.
I am not going to go into great detail here but I will share with you a little bit about a experience that I had a few years ago.
The night of November 17th, 2007, I was traveling down the 605 freeway. I never knew that there was an officer following me, because the officer never turned his lights on until I got off the freeway.
We all know, how an officer should conduct themselves, when they pull someone over to give them a ticket, but this officer did not conduct himself in a appropriate manner. Instead, he got out of his car and stated “ I will shoot.” He stood outside of my car door with his gun aimed at my head and must have threatened to shoot me at least four times, before he finally did put his gun down. I have had my mother comment that I must be a very strong individual to remain as calm as I did that night, with this officer standing outside my car door with his gun aimed at my head. Still, I know, that I am lucky to be alive as looking back on this experience in hind sight, I have no doubt that this officer had every intention of shooting me, when he pulled me over.
I have shared in other posts that I have written that I have mentally locked myself up in recent in years this experience is the reason that I choose to mentally lock myself up, because I was having a difficult time regaining my emotional stability following this experience. I have spent many hours mentally locked up over the years that have passed since 1991, but in past times, as a child and young adult, there would always come a time when I would leave and go on with my life. My answer for, how I was able to maintain my calm and get through this experience with this officer is that, I had learned to remain calm during the many hours that I spent mentally locked up as a child and young adult. I have thought about, how I handled this situation in 2007 and I have to say that I do not believe that those in prison would have handled this situation in a way that is significantly different from how I handled it that night.
I hope that those who have had a bad experience with the cops can be open enough to share their experiences and let their loved ones in prison, who have had a bad experience with the police know that they understand.

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countryzgirl · #3 05-16-2012, 01:02 PM

My experiences with the police have all been quite positive. There have been more than a few times in my life when I was nothing but happy and relieved to see those red lights flashing. I realize there are bad cops, but most of them do what they are supposed to - protect and serve. I can't fathom doing what they do everyday. Risking their lives, seeing the ugliest side of humanity, dealing with all manner of horrifying incidents, managing highly emotional people in dangerous circumstances...
I couldn't handle that but I'm sure glad they do. JMO...

Scotties_Girl21 · #4 05-16-2012, 02:01 PM

When I was 17 and 8 months pregnant with my daughter me and my cousin were driving in her car, we came up on a bridge and there were like fire trucks with their lights on, we assumed it was a car accident and pulled in a church to turn around. Well apparently it wasn't a wreck it was a license check, two officers came running up to the car with guns literally touching the sides of our heads screaming "put your f*&^in hands on the dash!!" So we did and at this point we are shocked. The officer jerks us out of the car and illegally searches me 1st he didn't call a female officer to search me 2nd I'm a minor at the time, he never called my parents. After he realized it was all a misunderstanding he lets us go but that was AWFUL. Worst experience I ever had with law enforcement.

Anne Morris 87 · #5 05-16-2012, 02:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Scotties_Girl21

When I was 17 and 8 months pregnant with my daughter me and my cousin were driving in her car, we came up on a bridge and there were like fire trucks with their lights on, we assumed it was a car accident and pulled in a church to turn around. Well apparently it wasn't a wreck it was a license check, two officers came running up to the car with guns literally touching the sides of our heads screaming "put your f*&^in hands on the dash!!" So we did and at this point we are shocked. The officer jerks us out of the car and illegally searches me 1st he didn't call a female officer to search me 2nd I'm a minor at the time, he never called my parents. After he realized it was all a misunderstanding he lets us go but that was AWFUL. Worst experience I ever had with law enforcement.

I'm sorry this happened to you, I'm sure it must have been a terrifying experience for you especially considering that you were only 17 at the time and pregnant. I know, my experience with the officer in 2007 was terrifying for me and I was alone at the time. Glad you had your cousin with you.

Scotties_Girl21 · #6 05-16-2012, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Anne Morris 87

I'm sorry this happened to you, I'm sure it must have been a terrifying experience for you especially considering that you were only 17 at the time and pregnant. I know, my experience with the officer in 2007 was terrifying for me and I was alone at the time. Glad you had your cousin with you.

Thank you, Yea it was really scary. I can understand they were doing their job nonetheless they should have to follow protocol at all times, not just when its convenient.

MrsCetina · #7 05-16-2012, 05:35 PM

I try to avoid them as much as possible, so i havent really had too many experiences where i have been stopped and questioned. However, alot of the sherriffs deputies who run the county jails are rude, aggressive and intimidating. There were some nice ones, so im not saying they are all bad. My husband saw how they act in there towards the inmates every day and he hates them with a passion. He doesnt mind LAPD or the highway patrol but he hates the LASD..

csgirlalways · #8 05-16-2012, 06:04 PM

I've had a few negative experiences with the police in a couple different states but overall, never really had a problem. What I've run into is either the "power-hungry" type or the one that's just mean to everyone...that's been when there's been a problem. Being polite has usually led them to being okay back to me.

GuerosMama · #9 05-16-2012, 06:14 PM

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Originally Posted by csgirlalways

I've had a few negative experiences with the police in a couple different states but overall, never really had a problem. What I've run into is either the "power-hungry" type or the one that's just mean to everyone...that's been when there's been a problem. Being polite has usually led them to being okay back to me.

The bad experience I did have was due to the power hungry thing, which was completely out of line. Outside of that, they are usually pretty nice to me.

Klewis · #10 05-16-2012, 10:45 PM

The only problems I have been having lately with the police is that for whatever reason they forget what they are being paid to do. I reported my daughter as a runaway and when they finally did catch up to her they let her go. No one notified me or anything and the officers that let her go knew me. The next problem is my niece was attacked by a grown woman and there is evidence that a weapon was used and because my niece has no mother and the police feels she is a trouble maker nothing was done about it. I am glad I have not had the experience that you other have had so I will go to sleep tonight knowing my problems with the police could be worse.

Anne Morris 87 · #11 05-17-2012, 12:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Klewis

The only problems I have been having lately with the police is that for whatever reason they forget what they are being paid to do. I reported my daughter as a runaway and when they finally did catch up to her they let her go. No one notified me or anything and the officers that let her go knew me. The next problem is my niece was attacked by a grown woman and there is evidence that a weapon was used and because my niece has no mother and the police feels she is a trouble maker nothing was done about it. I am glad I have not had the experience that you other have had so I will go to sleep tonight knowing my problems with the police could be worse.

I'm sorry to hear that your daughter ran away from home and the police let her go, I hope she comes home soon and that things get better. I'm sorry, the police have not done anything to help your niece, as I must say that from what you wrote it sounds like she was hurt quite badly and the police should do something to help because it is their responsibility to do something in cases like this. God be with you!

Sheryl P. · #12 05-17-2012, 04:05 AM

I did have a younger officer pull me over once and he kept his hand on his gun whlie taking to me for some time,until I realized I was wearing a trench coat at the time.It was well before all the school shootings but he could not see if I wsa armed or not and while he did not tell me why he was concerned,it was obvious he was ready and willing to shoot me.
Once I told him I would like to remove my coat,he was no longer alarmed and took his hand off his gun.Why they can't just say what is causing them to be reactive I don't know but I'm sure if I had not been calm that night,he would have shot me.
I'm sorry you had this experience,it can be scarry.

On the other hand,I did have police actually stop me in a dangerous area I had run low on gas in and gotten off the freeway to fill up in.
They actually put gas in my car and drove me to the on-ramp and told me not to come back since the area was not safe.

Real Checker · #13 05-17-2012, 05:01 AM

As an ex career criminal I have had a boat load of contact with LE (law enforcement). Not to mention a boat load of traffic stops. I've only had a couple of experiences that I would categorize as bad (where I was treated unreasonably) but the good FAR out weighs the bad. I've been treated with kindness to the point of tears on a couple of occasions.

Since this thread is about bad experiences I'll give the only one that was not instigated by me. I was suspected for burglary one time in a particular neighborhood and was picked up by an officer who responded to the "suspicious character" call. He stopped me as I was walking down a sidewalk, drew his weapon and told me to lean on his car. He searched me then cuffed me and put in his car. The whole time he was telling me that some people saw me trying to gain entry into a house and he was going to have them ID me.

Sure enough, down the street a handful of people were gathered. The officer (who is still by himself I must add) took me out of the car and shined his light on me then put me back in the car. A few minutes later he got back in the car and started reading me my rights. He said someone ID'd me and wanted me to tell him about it.

Now here's the thing. I did NOT try to burglarize any house. I did not believe anyone ID'd me and so I decided to exercise my right to remain silent. I told the officer that. That is when he started yelling at me and telling me that it was just me and him in the car and that he would take me where no body can see and beat my azz if I did not start talking. I figured it was a bluff, but I have to admit I was scared. I kept silent and he finally calmed down. He did arrest me for "public intoxication" even though I hadn't been drinking and I got out the next day. No burglary charges were ever filed.

xxdreeaxx · #14 05-17-2012, 05:42 AM

Actually, my one and only experience with the police was a positive one even though the circumstances were not so pleasant. We had a search warrant at our house because of fiancee's issues. By that time, he was already in custody in another state. So it was just the baby and me at home. They searched my whole house, and they wanted to take me in too, because of association with my fiancee. They wanted to charge me with conspiracy. Fortunately, I "cooperated" with them. They asked me questions that they already knew the answer to, and I responded 100% honestly. That's what saved my butt. If I had lied, the crap would have hit the fan. I am so thankful for that. So, they're not all that bad. From what I've seen traffic cops are worse than actual detectives and investigators.

MnNice · #15 05-17-2012, 01:21 PM

I have had good and bad experiences with the police. I was thankful they came more than a handful of times for my ex and what he was doing too me, they were always nice than.

But lately I just had a run in with them (2 times in a week and half, I have a wonderful new neighbor) but the last time they came on a noise complaint both times, first time super nice, asked too keep it down and said the walls are thin (I've lived here over 2years I know buddy) anyways, about a week and a half after that they came again on loud noise (my 3yr old crying, around bed time) it was a different officer and he was just rude! Making remarks like "how many times have we been here now" and he said "you know what happens when we come again right? You get evicted!!" And had the nerve to wanna ask 21 questions about my kid who wasn't even crying anymore. Seriously he must of never tried to put a 3yr old to bed lol. But they were just rude as can be!! And they fined me 280dollars for those unnecessary phone calls to my apartment, and I didn't even call! And I have to move cause of those situations. It is stupid!!

LoveMaiNaisGuy · #16 05-18-2012, 12:07 PM

Hah I went & saw my man under my sister's name about two years ago (smh stupid idea) Well I got caught up the officer was really nice to me though. He called some female C.O's to take me out of visiting & put me in my "hotel" for the next few days & while we were walking they were talking all sweet & nice to me (: Next day when the same female C.O's came in they were beasts haha so much for the nice convo from the day prior I was just another crazy beezy locked up, hmmmm & I thought I was special lol ohhh well as soon as I got out I went & cleaned up & was able to see my love under me myself & I (;

Anne Morris 87 · #17 08-19-2012, 07:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Anne Morris 87

I am writing this post to encourage those who have had a bad experience with the cops to open up and share their story. Let’s take a moment to remember that there are good and bad cops in every state, both in prison and outside of prison. The Police do a lot of good work, but sometimes, things do go wrong and one will have a bad experience with an officer.
I am not going to go into great detail here but I will share with you a little bit about a experience that I had a few years ago.
The night of November 17th, 2007, I was traveling down the 605 freeway. I never knew that there was an officer following me, because the officer never turned his lights on until I got off the freeway.
We all know, how an officer should conduct themselves, when they pull someone over to give them a ticket, but this officer did not conduct himself in a appropriate manner. Instead, he got out of his car and stated “ I will shoot.” He stood outside of my car door with his gun aimed at my head and must have threatened to shoot me at least four times, before he finally did put his gun down. I have had my mother comment that I must be a very strong individual to remain as calm as I did that night, with this officer standing outside my car door with his gun aimed at my head. Still, I know, that I am lucky to be alive as looking back on this experience in hind sight, I have no doubt that this officer had every intention of shooting me, when he pulled me over.
I have shared in other posts that I have written that I have mentally locked myself up in recent in years this experience is the reason that I choose to mentally lock myself up, because I was having a difficult time regaining my emotional stability following this experience. I have spent many hours mentally locked up over the years that have passed since 1991, but in past times, as a child and young adult, there would always come a time when I would leave and go on with my life. My answer for, how I was able to maintain my calm and get through this experience with this officer is that, I had learned to remain calm during the many hours that I spent mentally locked up as a child and young adult. I have thought about, how I handled this situation in 2007 and I have to say that I do not believe that those in prison would have handled this situation in a way that is significantly different from how I handled it that night.
I hope that those who have had a bad experience with the cops can be open enough to share their experiences and let their loved ones in prison, who have had a bad experience with the police know that they understand.

If you know, someone who has had a bad experience with the police, please do not taunt them by threatening to call the police just because you are mad at them. Chances are that, if they have had an experience like I had, it probably scared them. Threatening to call the police, because you are mad will not help matters, you may find that the only thing you accomplish is pushing them away.

InmateLover67 · #18 08-19-2012, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Anne Morris 87

I am writing this post to encourage those who have had a bad experience with the cops to open up and share their story. Let’s take a moment to remember that there are good and bad cops in every state, both in prison and outside of prison. The Police do a lot of good work, but sometimes, things do go wrong and one will have a bad experience with an officer.
I am not going to go into great detail here but I will share with you a little bit about a experience that I had a few years ago.
The night of November 17th, 2007, I was traveling down the 605 freeway. I never knew that there was an officer following me, because the officer never turned his lights on until I got off the freeway.
We all know, how an officer should conduct themselves, when they pull someone over to give them a ticket, but this officer did not conduct himself in a appropriate manner. Instead, he got out of his car and stated “ I will shoot.” He stood outside of my car door with his gun aimed at my head and must have threatened to shoot me at least four times, before he finally did put his gun down. I have had my mother comment that I must be a very strong individual to remain as calm as I did that night, with this officer standing outside my car door with his gun aimed at my head. Still, I know, that I am lucky to be alive as looking back on this experience in hind sight, I have no doubt that this officer had every intention of shooting me, when he pulled me over.
I have shared in other posts that I have written that I have mentally locked myself up in recent in years this experience is the reason that I choose to mentally lock myself up, because I was having a difficult time regaining my emotional stability following this experience. I have spent many hours mentally locked up over the years that have passed since 1991, but in past times, as a child and young adult, there would always come a time when I would leave and go on with my life. My answer for, how I was able to maintain my calm and get through this experience with this officer is that, I had learned to remain calm during the many hours that I spent mentally locked up as a child and young adult. I have thought about, how I handled this situation in 2007 and I have to say that I do not believe that those in prison would have handled this situation in a way that is significantly different from how I handled it that night.
I hope that those who have had a bad experience with the cops can be open enough to share their experiences and let their loved ones in prison, who have had a bad experience with the police know that they understand.

No, I have not had any bad experiences with cops...however, I always seem to have an attitude when I get pulled over...lmao

If I give them respect, I get respect. Like someone else commented, I would not want to do the job they do.

All in all, my experiences with law enforcement have been pleasant.

When I was supervising my juvenile work crew, they were always telling me how this cop and that cop illegally searched them....harrassed them and I always responded, If you had not broken the law, you would not have to worry about them doing you wrong...lol

I know some people feel as though cops are out of line, but in my opinion, most of the time when respect is given, it is returned.

Peace~

LoveYourself1st · #19 08-19-2012, 08:36 PM

I had a very abusive ex boyfriend. One night he called me telling me that he was going to commit suicide. I called the police department to do a welfare check on him. They refused to go over there unless I gave my name. I explained that I was fearful of him and did not want to give my name. They assured me it would be kept anonymous. So I gave them my middle name. About an hour later I get a phone call from the abusive ex boyfriend screaming that they told me Sarah (my middle name) called and he knew it was me. Then he camped out outside my apartment so I wasn't able to leave for a few days.

I don't blame the police for my ex's actions. But I do think they should of taken more care to protect me.

SusanWayward · #20 08-19-2012, 08:49 PM

I've had a few experiences that I'd consider bad, but nothing as awful as the OP having a gun held to her head. I hope you continue to recover.

I've had one or two good experiences, too, one I remember clearly was a detective who helped me get away from a man who was following me home one night when I was the tender age of 16. I didn't call for help, nor did I know that the cop was a detective at first, but he had been observing the situation and just knew what was happening and jumped in to help.

Despite the fact that I know all cops are not bad, I am leery of them, and I am a middle aged woman with no criminal record. When I am pulled over for a traffic stop, I make sure my hands are on the top of the steering wheel, I make no sudden moves and I try my best to be polite, even though my sons have told me I answer cops with an attitude

its not intentional!

GottaMakeIt33 · #21 08-19-2012, 09:15 PM

I got stopped by the cops 3 years in a row on my birthday.2x they handcuffed my guy just to check if he had warrants. This yr I got stopped on my sons bday & I got a pass. Also I have had a cop tell me I talk worse than Dave chapelle. I was pregnant n stressed out n I REALLY REALLY had to pee...so maybe I let my lips get the best of me but they were being rude too. Anyways worst exp. was bein arrested only to have charges dropped while pregnant prior to that encounter so understand there's a little resentment but I leave them alone n usually they leave us alone. Oh and there was the matter that my brother was shot n killed by SFPD officer in 1997 for a minor traffic violation.....so I've forgiven but I keep my distance

patientmuslimah · #22 08-19-2012, 09:38 PM

Oh wow..

Lets see..where to begin..
I was pushed into a dresser when I told them they needed a warrant to search my home.
My teenage son put in cuffs and threatened to be arrested because he got in front of me after they pushed me.
I have had them tell my 10 8 and 5 yr old ur dad is an */@@.
Or.. No he won't be okay cause I'm taking ur dad to jail (who says that to kids) p
It disgusts Me how they spoke to me:
Oh what is this section 8 (I own)
Did u even graduate high school (I have a master degree)
How long have u been sleeping with criminals? (really tho?)
If u don't like it lay down with someone else.. So disrespectful!
My teenage daughter has been stopped and asked to empty her bag on our block
Oh and love when they see me out and they laugh and say.. Soo how's ur husband?

I have family members who are officers so i know there are good and bad.. However Imo a lot of these younger cops act like they were bullied all their life and a badge is their way to take that out on everyone. It's a shame because I always taught my children to respect police but now they are scared of them. I personally believe they should have to undergo annual psych testing.. And should be better trained to deescalate situations instead of making them worse. Too much power over people's lives to be so angry and agressive

Anne Morris 87 · #23 08-19-2012, 09:55 PM

"Imo a lot of these younger cops act like they were bullied all their life and a badge is their way to take that out on everyone. I personally believe they should have to undergo annual psych testing.. And should be better trained to deescalate situations instead of making them worse. Too much power over people's lives to be so angry and agressive"

I totally agree!!!

dalesgirl · #24 08-20-2012, 05:05 PM

Have I had a "bad" experience. NO not that cops were unreasonable but yes in that I watched them search my house on Thanksgiving with my little kids and my parents there. But I have to say we were never treated badly. They were gentle with my kids and I when they searched. They didn't make a mess and they took my husband away from the kids to the bedroom to question him. When they finally did arrest my husband, they cuffed him and then put his coat over the cuffs so they kids (coming home from school) wouldn't see their 'dad" in cuffs. After he pled guilty and went to prison they even returned our car they had impounded for evidence because of me needing it. It was the worse experience of my life but I cant blame the cops for anything.
And considering they were arresting my husband for murder, it could of played out a lot different.

mandarose · #25 08-20-2012, 05:18 PM

No.. I've hardly had any encounters with the police.. when I was like 17 My friend had been driving my car, acting a fool.. I later alone got pulled over and asked questions but he was kind.. and let me go.. other than that never had a bad one, an ex friend of mine babysat my son once and he walked out her house while they were all sleeping but lucky my son stayed by her dogs side the whole time and the dog protected my son. Even from the cop who found him-again not a bad experience as far as the cops they were kind and explained not to leave him alone with her anymore ^_^
And recently my niece ran away like few days before I came home to Texas.. and the cops were on it quickly! They were about to pick her up and my bro in law saw her first & she went home with them.. but they've done an excellent job,surprisingly! Because the cops here suck and shady.. but with this situation I applaud them.. she scared now though! Lol they've been helpful to my sister n husband..