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[ms.confused]

hi everyoen my father is in prison and he have been in and out of prison since i have been a little girl now im 21yrs old should i forgive him or just leave him alone cause it seems like he is addictive to the prison life but he have 2 kids me and my brother so can someone plz help me at this point and time in my life...

[auntieshay]

Since I do not know what your relationship is like with your father, it is hard to comment. But, do what your heart tells you. Reach out to him, start with a letter and keep it general. From there it will be up to your father. Personally, I think it is great that you want to have a relationship but remember it may not work out how you want, but you did TRY.

[GuerosMama]

Totally different situation but my dad was an alcoholic and I've seen him all of 4 times in my life (all of which he was drunk) I think it ultimately cones down to you. I git to the point, where although this man had negatively shaped my life and my thinking, I needed to forgive him for my sake. Holding onto that was going to drive me crazy, and for me I had to understand he had a disease and nothing would change him- but him. That helped me and I realized it wasn't because he didn't love me, or because I wasn't worth it...but because he couldn't even choose to save himself and I actually pity him and hope he gets better one day. My point is....you maybe need some answers from him as to why he chooses prison time and time again, and you have to decide if your goig to carry a grudge your whole life. I would open up some communication with him, and take it slowly. At the end of the day....holding onto your anger for him affects only you.