Completely confused about my living situation...

[Katallac04]

Lright so a little history: me n my LO have been together almost a year n a half n were engaged to get married. We recently got the marriage package but I have yet to receive it from the prison yet. I have a very good relationship with my in-laws to be; especially my LO's mother. She would love if I moved in with her n as been askin me for months now, lol begging my LO to convince me, but I haven't because she lives n a very small town n I'm used to city life s's well as her being so far from my family. I have 5 sisters 4 brothers n 12 nieves n nephews that range from the age of 12years-5months. My confusion lies n whether I should take up my mother in law to be offer n move 4 hours south or stay here with my family. As if it could get more confusing, I have to move out of mu current home. I live with my momma n she said I could stay here as long as I want as long as I'm in school, which I am. My mom recently retired from her job of almost 40 years but has experiened to need to return to work, but ages set her sights much higher. She has gotten a job in Florida as a CFO which is great, I am so porous of her...but I will soon be homeless. Since she has told me I can stay here rent free I only work part time; enough for my car n personal expenses. Now she is leaving from my hometown n Missouri to Florida...in 3 weeks time. I am very very confuse as to what I should do because I really have no where to go or anyone to stat with her but my jobs here; whereas down tere I will have somewhere to stay but no job. If I lose my job I will lose my car n every contact with my fiancé aside from snail mail. Any thoughts or suggestions???? I'm VERY confused:/

[MissVal1920]

That is a tough decision no matter what you decide to do. However you have some serious things to consider and my suggestion would be to write down your pros/cons of moving 4 hours with your mother in law, and pros/cons of staying with family. Im not sure if you were considering moving to FL or not, but it reads like you want to stay where you are because your fam and job are there. I think the root of your decision-making is going to be what your financial responsibilities are going to be and how each living situation will change how much interaction you have with your fiance. Personally, I don't do living situations with in-laws. The relationship can be great but living together is a whole other story that can go very bad very quickly, so I personally choose not to get involved in situations like that. However, again, you are the best knower and I think seeing it in writing will give you a good perspective of which way to go.

[Katallac04]

Originally Posted by MissVal1920

That is a tough decision no matter what you decide to do. However you have some serious things to consider and my suggestion would be to write down your pros/cons of moving 4 hours with your mother in law, and pros/cons of staying with family. Im not sure if you were considering moving to FL or not, but it reads like you want to stay where you are because your fam and job are there. I think the root of your decision-making is going to be what your financial responsibilities are going to be and how each living situation will change how much interaction you have with your fiance. Personally, I don't do living situations with in-laws. The relationship can be great but living together is a whole other story that can go very bad very quickly, so I personally choose not to get involved in situations like that. However, again, you are the best knower and I think seeing it in writing will give you a good perspective of which way to go.

Thank u so much MissVal. I am working on getting FT at my current job, they need n want mr FT but human resources makes that decision not my bosses. I don't want to live with my in-laws but if need be I will. My family is amazing n I moved across the country for three years n the past n resorted to moving back because it broke me not to see my nieces n nephews grow up...I mean I left n my oldest nephew(Ayden) was like 7...I come back n he's 10! I was like OMG wow. I would like to stay here at all cost but idk if I could do that financially aside from living n my car to be honest. My sisters would all love to help but thier houses are completely full. I'm not sure what I'm going to do yet but I will DEFINITELY be making a pros/cons list for both mr and my fiancé for here and with his family. They're very good to us n I love them like my own but I do realize living with people brings a whole new person out of them lol! Thanks again, I really appreciate your feedback

[MissVal1920]

If your job goes full-time, would it be possible to find a decent place on your own?? I know its not easy, but that would also sway me a little to stay with fam temporarily until the job went full time and can get something on your own. Im on pins and needles waiting to see what you are going to do LOL.

[Katallac04]

Originally Posted by MissVal1920

If your job goes full-time, would it be possible to find a decent place on your own?? I know its not easy, but that would also sway me a little to stay with fam temporarily until the job went full time and can get something on your own. Im on pins and needles waiting to see what you are going to do LOL.

Lol yes, if my job gave me FT I would be able to stay here on my own. I too am on pins n needles to figure out what in going to do. I have known there was a great possiblity my momma would be moving but it was confirmed today when she told me she's gottenthe offer letter and a date to start. Like oasis earlier I'm VERY happy for my momma and proud of her achivements but it kinda puts me out n the dark u know? My fiancé supports me n it stresses
Us both out not knowing what or where I'll end up. We are in the process of getting married as well so that will be a pretty penny as well. Lol I wet from a college student living at home with no worries to having to figure this all out n 3 weeks time. I wil be discussing this with my fiancé because in all reality I would like to move down to Mississippi closer to him but since he's in a federal facility he can be moved whenever they decide to move him, he also would rather me NOT be completely alone n a big city.

[Katallac04]

OMG Im movin on down south. I have definatively made my decision and actively seeking a job there. My fiancé and I have made this decision together an believe this is what we need right now in our lived. So excited! Yay<3