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Southernsun · #1 05-17-2012, 03:48 PM

My boy got his heart broke today by a long term gf....im at a loss on what to say to help him. His dads not in his life and My man can't help from where he is....how do I deal with a teenagers broken heart?

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

InmateLover67 · #2 05-17-2012, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Southernsun

My boy got his heart broke today by a long term gf....im at a loss on what to say to help him. His dads not in his life and My man can't help from where he is....how do I deal with a teenagers broken heart?

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

Keep telling him their are other fish in the sea...and most teenage relationships don't last anyway. He will heal in time....and move on to someone better. This one simple was not meant to be.

Peace~

Scotties_Girl21 · #3 05-17-2012, 07:33 PM

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Originally Posted by InmateLover67

Keep telling him their are other fish in the sea...and most teenage relationships don't last anyway. He will heal in time....and move on to someone better. This one simple was not meant to be.

Peace~

I agree with this. Just keep reminding him there will be many more girls and it hurts for right now, but it wont forever. :goodluck:

Southernsun · #4 05-24-2012, 08:00 PM

UPDATE.....still has a broken heart but and this is the weird part the "x" gf mother texted me tonight telling me that this girl is going to stay out of state until the end of summer....this is weird that family is very " family oriented" to send her away for 3 months is so out of character. And told ME to tell my son. This is going to crush him. The mother of this girl told him that the girl would call him this Sunday and he has held onto that now its gunna b 3 months I JUST DON'T GET IT EITHER. Should I tell him what was texted to me? ???

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

juss me6 · #5 05-24-2012, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Southernsun

UPDATE.....still has a broken heart but and this is the weird part the "x" gf mother texted me tonight telling me that this girl is going to stay out of state until the end of summer....this is weird that family is very " family oriented" to send her away for 3 months is so out of character. And told ME to tell my son. This is going to crush him. The mother of this girl told him that the girl would call him this Sunday and he has held onto that now its gunna b 3 months I JUST DON'T GET IT EITHER. Should I tell him what was texted to me? ???

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

if they broke up why is her mother telling you this? maybe there is something else happening and you should talk with the mother

Southernsun · #6 05-24-2012, 09:58 PM

Idk she just texted me tonight and said tell ur son my daughter will not be home until the end of the summer .... I was lost my son says he has not tried to make contact with anyone cause the last thing he was told was that she was going to her grandparents out if state and wouldn't have her phone .....

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

Jootje · #7 05-24-2012, 10:21 PM

I am a bit confused on the gf mother...why would she text you about the where abouts of her daughter and also telling you to tell your son. what is the point ?? They broke up, she is moving on and so will he so why does he need to be updated on where she is.... I ofcourse do not know, and do not need to know the details on how and why they broke up but I would advice you to concentrate on your son

But to get back to your original thread: the hurt of a child is something so frustrating for a parent. The last thing you want is for your child to be hurt and crushed over whatever it may be or at whatever age they are at. But there is no magic so it will need time to heal and is basically out of your hands. But be understanding, listen when he wants to talk, be patient when he react inreasonable and maybe try to distract him by taking him to the movies or going out for a bit to eat.

hisbabygurl2014 · #8 05-24-2012, 10:33 PM

I totally feel for your son, heart break is not a easy thing to get over esp. when you loved that person for a very long time. What i can tell you to tell him is that there other fish in the sea. there will be other girls who he will fall for, he hasnt found his right one yet. Tell him to take it day by day cus thats how i am dealing with mine.

As for update you should talk to the xgf mom, because we women like to over think sometimes, so just ask her to why she is the one texting you and not the xgf.
Also i think that if you and the xgf had good relationship before all this maybe she feels ashamed and had her mom text you. Please tell your son that he will get over it

Southernsun · #9 05-25-2012, 10:00 PM

Ok ladies this is getting even more weird cause tonight the xgf mother texts my son and told him not to keep thinking that this was going to work out ( I've checked his phone records he has not texted or called anyone in that circle ) so don't know what sparked her texting him. The woman said she has disconnected her daughters phone /shut down her email address. Now me and my son are really confused. I told him I would block her and he said just to wait a few days ...."maybe she was n one of moods" personally I am starting to think the women needs medicated. Apparently someone told her my son had gotten a job cause at the end of her " move on forget my daughter" phase she congratulated him on the job. WTH has this grown women lost her mind. Leave these kids alone like teenagers don't have enough issues without adding first heart break drama to the mix
I AM SO MAD RIGHT NOW

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

InmateLover67 · #10 05-25-2012, 10:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Southernsun

Ok ladies this is getting even more weird cause tonight the xgf mother texts my son and told him not to keep thinking that this was going to work out ( I've checked his phone records he has not texted or called anyone in that circle ) so don't know what sparked her texting him. The woman said she has disconnected her daughters phone /shut down her email address. Now me and my son are really confused. I told him I would block her and he said just to wait a few days ...."maybe she was n one of moods" personally I am starting to think the women needs medicated. Apparently someone told her my son had gotten a job cause at the end of her " move on forget my daughter" phase she congratulated him on the job. WTH has this grown women lost her mind. Leave these kids alone like teenagers don't have enough issues without adding first heart break drama to the mix
I AM SO MAD RIGHT NOW

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

This mom sounds like a whack-job to me. I would block her and allow your son to move on from this drama.

Why are you allowing this woman to rent space in your brain? Kids will be kids, so stop getting involved with them and the mother. Let them live and learn.

Peace~

Southernsun · #11 05-25-2012, 10:20 PM

She not "renting space" til my son walked in the door saying read this....I know he is very upset over the break up. He has depression even b4 this. He knows he can talk to me is why he told me. I agree major whack job to deliberately try to upset a child especially when you know they down n out

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

InmateLover67 · #12 05-25-2012, 10:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Southernsun

She not "renting space" til my son walked in the door saying read this....I know he is very upset over the break up. He has depression even b4 this. He knows he can talk to me is why he told me. I agree major whack job to deliberately try to upset a child especially when you know they down n out

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

Like I said, block her and let him heal from his broken heart. It is between him and his girl, not them and their mothers.

The longer you keep accepting her texts, the longer you are dragging this on. Text her and tell her you do not want to hear from her anymore and that the kids will deal with this their way. Then, tell her you are blocking her, because you do not want to be involved anymore.

Peace~

Miss_A · #13 05-25-2012, 11:10 PM

If I were you, I'd call the mother and politely tell her to stop contacting my son and myself. And then block her.

And as far as what to do to help him, I'm sure you're already doing it. Just being there for him is the best thing for him. Oh, and laughter. Laughter can do wonders.

pss12 · #14 05-25-2012, 11:16 PM

Did the xgf mom find out they were intimate or something?

MRS.GRIFFIN · #15 05-25-2012, 11:18 PM

She sounds like a crazii old lady who live not in a shoe!!! But her tex you, then your son.

Nut case!!! Then she turn off her daughter cell/email......sounds fishy to me

.....do you think she pregnant? It doesnt sound good to me. As far as your son being heart-broken,,,,there are more fish in the sea,,,,,he cant see it now,,,,but trust me he will look back later and lol this issue. Give him time, dont speak bad about her. I found out when you talk down to your kids gf/bf they run to them more. Sometimes as moms we dont wont to see our kids hurt,but it makes them stronger if we just give them space and cheer them up every now and then. I hope this helps

PROUD MOM

OF 24,23,18 and glad

Sheryl P. · #16 05-25-2012, 11:58 PM

The "out of town" thing is odd.
Any chance the girl could have gotten "with chid" and your son not know and perhaps the **** hit the fan when she told mom?

Southernsun · #17 05-26-2012, 06:26 AM

I too wondered of the "prego" issue. My son is very open with me. This lil girl has talked about wanting kids since she was 15 so I've done the "dad" talk with my son alot ( even turned my ballcap around when I gotta play dad) he says they have "petted" alot but no true s**. Cause he says " mom I knew that's what she wanted so best way to not have em is not to do the actual deed" they are both really good kids they go to church, no drugs, don't smoke or drink" they've never even broke curfew in the 2 yrs they have officially dated. I am really confused myself.

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

**sidewalker** · #18 05-26-2012, 09:44 AM

I agree with the others.
stop accepting her texts with maybe one telling her......butt the hell out lady!!
Then, I'd go buy some chocolate ice cream, popcorn and some really funny movies to rent, and a box of tissues and sit on the couch tonite with him. (unless he has plans to hang with friends or whatever his *normal* routine would be)
Friends usually help the broken hearted thru this. But being there for him is what he needs. Someone to simply listen, and maybe not offer advice.
He will *get over* her.
This girls mother IS a whack job. Yikes. (maybe the apple does not fall far from the tree)

tho its an oldie, I like this song

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n_4l1H7Ynrk

brooks · #19 05-26-2012, 01:59 PM

Is it possible someone else got a hold of the mom's phone ? Sounds pretty young mentally for a parent to be saying, but... who knows.

thisfamily · #20 05-26-2012, 02:26 PM

I'd wait and see if the girl is 'showing' after she gets back in town

Loubabygirl · #21 05-26-2012, 02:41 PM

Maybe she got pregnant by someone else?! And her leaving town is to hide the fact she cheated on your son and screwed up royally?!

MRS.GRIFFIN · #22 05-27-2012, 08:12 PM

I got it,,,,she's bio-polar!!!!
sit back and watch her when she gets back, it seems so weird though. Keep us update. She has me wondering

Southernsun · #23 05-27-2012, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by MRS.GRIFFIN

I got it,,,,she's bio-polar!!!!
sit back and watch her when she gets back, it seems so weird though. Keep us update. She has me wondering

I rationalized thus myself today. The girl called him today and from what he said one sentence was " we not officially broke up" the the next sentence was " its too late to work it out" BIPOLAR I totally agree

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3