Notice to new members intending to register - from January 9th 2012

adamsrubberduck · #1 09-05-2011, 06:55 PM

My Muffin asked me to marry him in April of this year and I said yes of course. We talked about getting married when he got out. We had several dates in mind but decided on 12-12-12. Last month he decided that he didn't want to wait that long and talked me into getting married this December while he is still in. I love him and I don't care when or where we get married. I have been married before and I didn't want and didn't have the big wedding the 1st time. He said that he wanted a church wedding but now he doesn't care. We agreed that we would renew our vows when he gets out and we will have a reception/celebration in the summer of 2012. I'm starting to get nervous now but in a good way. I am praying that we can get everything done in time. He met with the Father/Chaplin at his prison and he told him that we should be able to get everything done in time. They only mnarry 2 times a year December and June. Wish us luck! I love him so much and I'm so happy to know that I will be forever connected to my soulmate.

dc's girl · #2 09-05-2011, 07:15 PM

Aww congratulations. Good luck and may you have many blessed years together.

adamsrubberduck · #3 09-05-2011, 07:26 PM

Thank you dc's girl. I've waited my whole life for love like this and now I have him. I couldn't be happier.

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Aww congratulations. Good luck and may you have many blessed years together.

bl6ckr0s3 · #4 09-05-2011, 07:26 PM

Congradulations!! Wish u & ur man the best of all years in life!

LeahCarter · #5 09-06-2011, 02:04 PM

Congratulations!!!!! It Is The Absolute Best Feeling In The World To Know You Are Married To The Person Who Has Your Whole Heart.

Wish You All The Best!

adamsrubberduck · #6 05-25-2012, 08:52 PM

Well its been a minute since I posted here so here is an update and a question if someone can help.

Kinda long......

Well here we are finally. We have a date! June 15th! Sounds great right? I'm not sure. I think that we are getting jacked. The prison went through some changes and to make a long story short they have a new chaplin. He just started this month. We got the marriage packet number #2 and my guy filled out his part. He met with the chaplin and we waited for the next step. Dumb dora went to seg for something stupid for 15 days and I thought that this would kill the idea of a prison wedding but I was wrong. The chaplin said that he would decide in 2 weeks and he did I guess. In the mean time my guy spoke with the warden and she said that she had the final say. Well she approved to I guess.

My matron of honor has a felony on her record but I choose her because she one of two people who really know where my guy is and I want to keep it that way. She knows the system like the back of her hand and knows what to do and say. She is the one who actually got the ball rolling for us. She is also still on paper for 6 months. Long shot that she would be able to visit or be with me on this special day but it is working. A total God thing. Her po has given a verbal okay and she willing to complete the paperwork for her the leave the state to go to a prison with me. The chaplin approves and said that we just needed a letter written to the warden and we should be okay. The letter was mailed out Thursday.

What is the problem? No one told us (me or my guy ) what is going on. My girlfriend spoke with the chaplin and he told her that the wedding was approved for the 15th and that my guy didn't know yet but he would be told on Thursday. He would get a call out. He didn't get it. He didn't get a call out on Friday either. He said that a couple of guys got called out but he wasn't one of them. He told me that the guys got a call out while he was at the health care (Fx ankle---basketball injury). My guy is freaking out because he was not told. He is freaking because we can't do the next step until he is told something. This is a holiday weekend and nothing will be done before Tuesday. I still have no paperwork , no fees paid nor do I know what they will be yet. My friend said that the chaplin called someone from another prison to come in and do the weddings on the 15th so we are just one of a few. What does this mean exactly? We have not had the couseling yet. How can we get all of this stuff done in 2 weeks? What am I supposed to do? I can just take off work in a moments notice. I feel helpless and I am. My guy has put in request and he is not getting answers and he is pissed because he feels like they are trying to pull a fast one on him and make it so that we have no time to do what we need to do to get married.

Yes it is true that we only have 2 months left and we could get married once he gets home but I have my reasons for wanting to get married in the state that he is in. I live in a small town and when you apply to get married this info goes into the newspaper at least 7 days before your wedding date. Everybody knows your business. I live in the public eye and it would be best for me if only the people that I want to tell about us know.In the past year I have been in the newspaper at least 6 times (only good things) and I will be in there again next week for sure. I am sick of having my live exposed and I don't want him to have to deal with this plus I want this to be his time to start over in a new place. I don't want this name ringing out there and have people start to look up his history.

I don't know what we can do.... Does anyone know what we can do now other than wait? I'm so tired of waiting. I wait for the marriage and I wait for his release and this is becoming over whelming.

**shaunna** · #7 05-28-2012, 10:43 AM

I can't give you any helpful advice sorry as I am not sure how the system works but just wanted to wish you best wishes and good luck with the process, hope you find the answers you are after soon

adamsrubberduck · #8 05-28-2012, 08:07 PM

Thank you Shaunna. I hope to get some answers tomorrow. I feel like my whole life is on hold but yet it is moving all around me. Everyone around me is so happy and in love and able to be with the people that they love and I am stuck holding on to what might be. Geez, I don't know how people do this for 10 and 20 years. They have more strenght than I ever could. God bless them all. My heart aches everyday and it doesn't get better. The closer to him coming home the worse it gets. All I want to do is marry the man.

This too shall pass just not passing fast enough for me.

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Originally Posted by shaunna

I can't give you any helpful advice sorry as I am not sure how the system works but just wanted to wish you best wishes and good luck with the process, hope you find the answers you are after soon